And now for something a little bit different: We are delighted to welcome back guest blogger Simone Katerine with 10 outstanding tips to help you score via online dating. Enjoy! -Krista
Two years ago, after ending a long term relationship I finally decided to lose my online dating virginity. Within 24 hours of creating a profile, I was chest deep in creepy messages from potential suitors, nonsensical profiles, and terrible smartphone meets mirror photography. I felt a bit like an anthropologist thrown into a brand-new world that I had only heard about in stories from friends.
With that said, online dating can be a great way to connect with other singles that you might not have normally met through your usual social circle. However, I’ve learned that there’s definitely a “good” and a “bad” way to do online dating. Although the internet is rife with online dating horror stories, your online dating experience doesn’t have to end in disaster. Here’s a few online dating DOs and DON’Ts that will help you get the most out of your online dating experience.
What's your sign baby? Do you read your horoscope religiously or only in the waiting room?
This time it's a little bit different and like just about everything here at Lovehoney, these horoscopes have a sexy twist. I've invited Cosmic Courtesan, Yolanda Shoshana back to help us interpret our stars for the coming months.
Curious what's in store for your love life in 2014? Whether you're a true believer or just a looking for a horoscope-inspired birthday gift for a lover or friend we've got ideas for you.
We hope you enjoy these horoscopes with sexy suggestions to spice up your year ahead. Special thanks to Shoshi for her inspiration and insight.
Guest blog by Yolanda Shoshana
My name is Simone and I’m a 30-something sex and relationship writer, columnist and blogger who just happens to live with her 65-year old mother. Before I explain what that’s like, we need to back up a bit.
Back in 2009 - on the cusp of my 30th birthday, I started writing Skinny Dip - my personal blog about love, dating and sex - so I would have a place to tell stories and sort through the romantic wreckage of my 20′s.
My goal was to use my blog as a portfolio of sorts, in hopes that I would be able to break into writing professionally. Thanks to a lot of hard work, a year after starting my blog I scored my first freelance writing job.
This was also around the time that I was approached by a online adult retailer to review sex toys and lingerie. A sex and relationship blogger was born!
Guest post by Simone Katerine
I have more than a few shelves filled with books in my home; dirty, sexy, erotic books. To me they all represent one thing - escapism. I can indulge in my favorite fantasies and sometimes discover things I never even knew could turn me on with the simple turn of a page. I used to think of my collection of erotica in terms of simply books, but now I refer to them as my shelves of mind candy because that's what they are to me.
Some are full of fantasies, some of which I may decide to act out for myself. Some will stay locked in the deepest recess of my mind, until I feel the need to take matters into my own hands. Some have not been for me but have opened up my mind and taken me on a journey as the author took the main characters through their paces.
Just like candy, erotic books come in all shapes, sizes and cater to most tastes. It's just a case of finding the right candy for you... So if you are sitting comfortably, lets take a look at some of the mind candy that can be found.
Guest post by Jenne Davis.
(Pictured: November Book of the Month, Dark Secret Love)
Just in case you need another reason to get it on with yourself, Stephanie from Kinkly.com has 10 great reasons for you!
Check out this fun guest post - feel free to leave a comment and let us know your favorite reason, or tell us if you can relate to any of the motives laid out below. - Krista
I once had a friend tell me that her grandmother used to say that if she touched herself in her "special lady area" her hand would fall off.
"I mean, they should be promoting masturbation, not bashing it," my pal said. "It’s not like my fingers are going to get me knocked up!"
I couldn’t agree more. In fact, there are a whole lot of great reasons to get it on with yourself. Here are 10 of my top picks.
Guest post by Stephanie Weaver
The first time I bought a sex toy was in my college dorm room by the glow of my computer monitor, and somehow, even that intimidated me.
The site I shopped at was splashed with images of naked women whose bodies looked nothing like my own posed in ways that screamed "I'm amazing in bed!!"
I was a virgin with body-confidence issues who had never had an orgasm.
I went looking for a vibrator to help with the overwhelming feeling that sex was something that belonged to other people, sexier people, and this site just ended up reinforcing that feeling.
I grabbed the cheapest toy (all the while worrying that this site was going to sell my credit card number - it was a dodgy place!) I could find and got the heck out of there...
Guest post by Redhead Bedhead
It's not always easy to just jump online and find the sex toy that's going to rock your world on the first try.
Dave Kingsley knows a thing or two about orgasms and sex toys. He's here to give you some great tips on finding the perfect toy. You don't have to necessarily test a million sex toys before you find the right one for you.
Using Dave's tips, you can find the perfect sex toy for your needs:
Let’s face it, there are a million sex toys out there so who has the time to pick the perfect sex toy?
But there is a science behind acquiring a sex toy and, more importantly, one that’s right for you.
A little bit of forethought will help you find the perfect toy for your sexy adventures. Here are seven tips to researching, buying and acquiring a sex toy that’s just right for you.
My name is Karen. I am a mother in my 30's in a committed relationship and I am a swinger.
I know the word swinger brings all sorts of things to mind. Swinging may not be something that is the majority, but I have met swingers from all walks of life: doctors, nurses, real estate agents, IT geeks, retail workers, hairstylists, HR staff, engineers, convenience store workers... you name it.
Swinging is consensual sex with others with permission while being in a committed relationship.
Swinging is not cheating. Swinging is not like polyamory.
There are no emotional entanglements when we hook-up with others outside of the relationship. It is just sex.
Guest post by Karen Blue
When you think of masturbation, what image pops into your mind? Do you think of yourself or of a partner or a performer? Shilo McCabe would like to offer you some variety. More diversity in images of who and how we masturbate. Masturbation is a powerful tool for self knowledge and sexual exploration available to all.
If we are to believe the mainstream media only a very small percentage of people get to enjoy sexual pleasure. You should be thin, you should be white, you should be in a heterosexual relationship. Over and over again that is who we see as sexual. We need to disrupt this pattern. Everyone deserves sexual pleasure if they want it. Any body can be a sexy body. Pleasure is literally waiting for us at the tips of our fingers or the length of our favorite sex toy. Let's diversify the media and increase the self-love!
"I masturbate..." is a photography project created by Queer Feminist Photographer, Shilo Mccabe in celebration of National Masturbation Month, consisting of sex-positive photos of people masturbating and sharing personal stories that complete the phrase "I masturbate..."
Guest post by Airial Clark, The Sex Positive Parent
Trust me, you aren't the only person having trouble reaching orgasm. This goes for all genders and orientations.
According to AskMen.com 54% of female respondents reported faking an orgasm, and 26% said they fake it every time they have sex. Of the men asked, 34% said they'd faked it at least once.
So let's start there. You're not alone and we all know the journey can definitely be just as mind-blowing as the final destination. The over-all theme of this post is to embrace the authentic experience, enjoy the ride and communicate. In this particular instance we don't recommend 'faking it until you make it' because if everyone fakes it, no one is ever going to know how to do it right.
There are many great reasons to not fake an orgasm, we'll start with five - because you don't have all day... you could be practicing some self-love.
Guest post by Monika Thomas