Beginner's Guide to Strap-Ons

The very definition of a couple's plaything, strap-on sex toys are designed to switch up the sexual dynamics in your relationship.

Strap-ons are simple, sensational and suitable for anyone. Many strap-ons come with a strap-on harness that sits around the wearer's hips to give greater control over the toy during use, but plenty of them also comprise a flared-base dildo and a harness with an O-ring to hold it in place.

Two of the most common questions we hear about strap-ons are "what is pegging?" and "is pegging gay?" Pegging is a heterosexual sex act where a female partner wears a strap-on and anally penetrates her male partner with it. Many men like pegging, and it doesn’t make you gay to explore this form of pleasure.

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Why do people use Strap-Ons?

Couples use strap-ons for many different reasons, but especially to explore different forms of penetration together. Opposite sex couples tend to use strap-ons for pegging, while same-sex couples use strap-ons to try out different penetrative fantasies and intimacies. Hollow strap-ons can be helpful for those experiencing erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.

  1. One of the most popular strap-on sex acts for heterosexual couples is pegging. You should definitely try pegging if the idea of exploring your prostate gland or P-spot excites you. This sensitive spot is located between the penis and bladder. You can easily stimulate this area via the anus, and potentially experience incredible full-body orgasms. Many people have reported climaxing from prostate play alone.
  2. Strap-ons are a great alternative to drugs or penis pumping if you experience erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. Since a strap-on stays hard even if your penis isn't, it lets you continue the fun until you're both satisfied.
  3. Using a strap-on to add an additional appendage to your body opens up a world of double-penetration possibilities. Many couples love exploring the fantasy of having another person in the bedroom by using strap-ons.
  4. Since strap-ons let you try out new positions and sexual sensations together, a lot of people find they increase their intimacy. Some couples enjoy the dynamic flip of having a different partner to usual doing the penetration, and others find it increases their communication about what they like.

What kinds of Strap-On are there?

  1. Standard strap-ons and harness kits are all-in-one bundles providing everything you need to start your experimentation with pegging and penetration play. Most strap-on harness kits have either a hole or an O-ring that you slot the dildo into, and usually come with at least one dildo to start you off. Once you discover the joys of strap-on sex though, you'll be eager to try dildos in new shapes and sizes - or you may be be ready to go bigger.
  2. Vibrating strap-ons are just like standard strap-ons, but they vibrate! Many different types of strap-ons, including hollow strap-ons and strapless strap-ons, may also vibrate, adding a thrilling buzz to your shared sessions.
  3. Hollow strap-ons are designed for people with a penis to wear. Suitable for using both flaccid and erect, they make sure you'll always have a strong, long-lasting erection. If you experience erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, a hollow strap-on will let you continue physical intimacy. You can also use it as a penis extender if you and your partner want to experience penetration with a longer and/or girthier penis.
  4. Strapless strap-ons, sometimes called double strap-ons, are designed for people with a vagina to wear, and can be used to penetrate someone either vaginally or anally. They involve no straps or harnesses, so they can give you a greater sense of closeness and intimacy with your partner.
  5. Double-penetration strap-ons attach to one partner's penis with a stamina-aiding cock-ring and can create the illusion of a third party in the bedroom. They can help you fulfill your partner with the thrill of penetrating both their vagina and anus at once.
  6. Vac-U-Lock strap-ons are a special variety of strap-ons by Doc Johson. This clever system lets you mix and match a huge variety of dildos, butt plugs and other sex toys with a unique plug system that securely holds your attachment in place. By using a plug instead of an O-ring, Vac-U-Lock harnesses are compatible with all Vac-U-Lock attachments, no matter the size or girth of the attachment you'd like to use.
  7. Packers and packing underwear bear mentioning, as strap-ons that allow for gender affirmation and self-expression. Packing underwear is comfortable and usually features a subtle built-in O-ring that works with both erect dildos (the most common type) as well as flaccid packing dildos.

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