New Year, New Ooh: Resolutions for a Personal Sexual Revolution

Stick to your goals by making them sensual and get inspired by Lovehoney’s sexual health and wellness resolutions.

Each year as the clock strikes 12 on December 31st, society collectively readies itself for a fresh start, a new calendar year filled with promise. Many of us prioritize self-improvement during this time, setting personal goals we strive to achieve by next year’s ball drop.

Even with the best intentions, lofty targets can fall to the wayside once holiday vacations end and we return to our busy lives. I mean, how realistic is it truly to read a novel every week? We’re far more likely to stick to resolutions that see a quick R.O.P. (Return On Pleasure.) This year, we recommend you center resolutions around sexual health and wellness. Not only will meeting your goals go smoothly, but you’ll have an orgasmically fabulous time in the process.

Consider adding the following to your resolution repertoire for a new year that’s brimming with new oohs.

Stress Less By Orgasming More

With the hustle and bustle of the daily grind, stress is unfortunately inevitable. Since you can’t avoid tension altogether, it’s important to have self-care rituals in place to deal with the icky sensation. While meditation and massage are fabulous destressers, we don’t always have the time to dedicate to such methods. Our fav way to deal with stress-induced negative mindsets in a pinch? Orgasms! What better way to achieve inner peace than by taking control of your pleasure?

Stress reduction is just one of the many health benefits of orgasming, but my is it an important one in today’s day and age. Climaxing can be an intimate form of self-care that relieves tension in both body and mind. Next time you’re at your wit’s end while working from home, try rubbing one out on your lunch break, and you’ll return to your tasks feeling refreshed and focused.

We suggest reaching for a no-nonsense toy that gets the job done ASAP when you’re in need of quick stress relief.

Recommended Resolution Helpers:

For Vagina Owners

Lovehoney Rose Clitoral Suction Stimulator

Save fancy dual-stimulation vibrators for drawn-out self-love sessions and opt for the intuitive and effective Rose clit sucker when you need to reach your peak in record time. Simply place the flower’s opening atop your clit (after adding a dash of [water-based lube](/lubes-essentials/lubricants/water-based-lubes/), if that’s your jam), surf through 10 suction modes using the no-frills two-button interface 'til you find your perfect setting, and voila! You’ll get a bouquet of feel-good endorphins to help you tackle the rest of your day with a smile.

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For Penis Owners

Arcwave Pow Silicone Dual-Entrance Suction Control Male Masturbator

Give your standard handjobs some POW with this full-length textured stroker that’s as easy to use and clean as it is to come with. Two entry points of different sizes and a manual suction control valve put users in the tightness driver’s seat so they can speedily reach their final destination: Climax City. The Arcwave Pow’s highly textured inner sleeve isn’t just stimulating; it’s conveniently cleanable. Its Quick Clean Helix design makes for faster cleaning and drying times, so you barely have to worry about the aftermath of your bliss. Goodbye lengthy cleanups; hello post-O productivity!

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For Anyone

Lovehoney Bend Zone Rechargeable Posable Couple’s Vibrator

The versatile Bend Zone can please any erogenous zone you please. Want clit-hugging stimulation? You got it. Prefer a vibrating stroker? No problem. Rather go for internal vibes? Easy-peasy. With its bendable form, this show-stopping sex toy caters to your every whim. Simply choose your lucky hot spot of the moment and let the Bend Zone’s three motors do their thang.

What customers say: "“This is a fun toy providing a wealth of potential options for stimulating all parts of the body inside and outside.”"

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Be Intentional About Intimacy

The term “lovemaking” may be a bit hokey, but its essence certainly has merit; physical intimacy can heighten emotional connections and bring couples closer together. This type of bonding doesn’t automatically come with any old roll in the hay, though; it accompanies sessions where partners are focused on each other, not just getting their rocks off.

No shade to quickies, but if you’re looking to amp up the romance, you’ll want to take your time. Lengthy foreplay sessions, thoughtful planning, and slow, sensual touches are a better way to go for bedroom bonding.

Try picking one night each week or month (whatever your schedules allow) to devote to a full-on seduction, followed by passionate sex. The more effort you put into physical intimacy, the larger the payoff.

Recommended Resolution Helpers:

Romp Cello

ROMP Cello Rechargeable Vibrating Egg

There’s something strangely intimate (and illicitly hot) about stimulating your partner without physically touching them. With a remote-control sex toy like the Romp Cello by your side, you can thrill your partner while remaining at the perfect distance to enjoy the full show. Have your lover sit on the bed or couch, legs splayed wide, and instruct them to insert the G-spot toy while you wait within viewing pleasure, remote in hand. Take your time exploring vibration combinations with the Cello’s 5 intensities and 4 patterns, watching your boo’s reactions intently. Once they’re writhing in pleasure and begging you to join them, trade your look-but-don’t-touch play for partnered sex. With the Cello building up anticipation and lust, your imminent coupling will be more impassioned than ever.

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Lovehoney Enjoy Water-Based Lubricant

Lovehoney Enjoy Water-Based Lubricant 8.5 fl oz

If there’s one thing lovers should always have in their arsenal, it’s plenty of lube. Lubricant is one of those items rarely thought about until you need it. And when you need it, you really need it. From persnickety vaginas being stingy with wetness to anal or foreplay, you’d be hard-pressed to find a sexy situation where lubricant won’t come in clutch. With a convenient pump for quick application and a formula that’s compatible with latex and polyurethane condoms and any type of toy, Lovehoney Enjoy Water-Based Lubricant is the perfect bedside buddy for all wet and wild occasions.

What customers say: "“Made things much more comfortable and not messy at all. Will definitely use again.”"

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Become a Sex God/dess

Step one to being a good lover is to care about being a good lover. And, of course, being willing to put effort into that pursuit. Already there? Great! Step two is to take action. There are many ways one can pursue a journey to better loverhood, but it mostly boils down to two endeavors: personalization and generalized technique.

When all is said and done, you’ll enter the bedroom with more confidence and your partner will leave it with the utmost satisfaction.

Personalized Pleasure Giving

Though it would be much easier if there were a one-and-done erotic roadmap to follow for grand slams, individuals are more complex than that. Both physically and mentally, we all have our own desires and preferences that impact what makes someone a good lover to us. Some like to be pounded hard and fast, while others get off on slow and sensual strokes. Some require an air of romance, while others find playing with power dynamics more arousing. Some like it when you lick to the left, while others need you to lick to the right; you catch my drift. And these are only a small handful of differentiators.

So how do you decipher what your current boo is into? By communicating and studying their reactions, respectively. Playing guessing games benefits no one in the bedroom (unless it’s an actual sex game), so don’t be shy about asking someone how they want you to touch and talk to them. And when carrying those directives out, make a note of how they respond. Pair those initiatives together, and your partner will be orgasmically appreciative.

Perfecting Technique

While you should always consider each bangin’ individual you’re bangin’ during sexual encounters, there is some general prep work you can do to improve overall performance. Sex can be a bit like sports: there are specifics to consider for each, but strength and stamina are likely helpful qualities for all of them.

Recommended Resolution Helpers:

For Vagina Owners

Tracey Cox Supersex Kegel Training Set

In the gospel of WAP, Saint Cardi B. informs us that she drives her sex partners wild by “do[ing] a kegel while it’s inside,” implying her P.C. muscles are as strong as her rap game (read: very). Miss B. is certainly onto something; performing kegel exercises during penetrative sex with a penis can make your lover feel crazy good. And these squeezes can make YOU feel crazy good, too, by boosting sensations with an increase in blood flow The stronger your pelvic floor, the tighter you’ll be able to squeeze. The best way to get your pelvic floor in tip-top shape is with kegel exercisers like the Tracey Cox Supersex Kegel Training Set. The 6-piece kegel toning kit features kegel balls of increasingly heavier weights, letting you intensify your workouts as you grow stronger. The Tracey Cox Supersex Kegel Training Set is essentially the next best thing to signing your vagina up for a gym membership.

What customers say: "“Ohh my gosh they really work! Your lady bits feel tighter and you feel so much more confident.”"

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For Penis Owners

Fleshlight Pink Lady Stamina Training Unit STU Kit

If you’re looking to last all night long, the Fleshlight Pink Lady Stamina Training Unit Kit is an oh-so-fun way to meet your goal. This hyper-realistic stroker with a vulva opening looks and feels like the real deal, making it perfect for endurance training sessions. Pair the Pink Lady with edging to gain better control of your Os when lucky lovers join you in bed. You can even prep for lengthy shower sex thanks to the included shower mount. And with its high-quality care accessories like Fleshlight Renewing Powder, this stamina-boosting stroker will last as long as you do.

What customers say: "“This model has the highest stimulation and texture for mind blowing sensations.”"

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Explore More

We are, of course, talking about sexual exploration. There are so many ways to pursue pleasure that you could spend your entire life exploring them and still not cross everything off your bucket list. But why not try, right? Every minute you spend devoted to sexual happiness is time well spent if you ask us.

Upgrade Your Toy Game

Most of us have a trusted toy that always gets the job done, a handy helper that caters to your fav hot spot and does so very well. There’s comfort in knowing what type of stimulation you like and owning a tool of the trade that delivers every time, but have you thought about what else is out there for you?

You don’t necessarily have to reinvent the wheel and try out toys outside of your preferences and comfort zone. You can engage in sex toy exploration while staying true to your hot spots’ desires with a pleasure product that has new features instead of a new erogenous zone focus. For instance, if you’re into G-spot stimulation, blend classic vibration with Pleasure Air Technology with the first-of-its-kind Womanizer OG. The revolutionary G-spot toy takes fan-favored air pressure stimulation from clitoral suction toys and translates it into internal bliss. Trust us when we say it’s something you’ll have to feel to believe.

That being said, trying something completely new is also a worthwhile endeavor. I once presumed I’d hate wand vibrators due to my sensitivity and their reputation for extra-strong vibrations; boy, was I wrong. One lusty evening when all my toys were napping (read: needed a charge) and all I had was a Magic Wand Mini I’d been gifted, I explored the once unexplored. Turns out wands are just as magical as my pals had been telling me! And you can create a similar sex toy love story by challenging your own biases. Don’t knock it til you masturbate with it, right?

Recommended Resolution Helpers:

For G-spot Loving Explorers

Womanizer OG Pleasure Air G-Spot Stimulator

Give your go-to G-spot toy a break and explore the latest in internal delights with the Womanizer OG. This new kid on the block brings something previously unheard of to the G-spot's table: pulsing massage-like sensations via Pleasure Air Technology (the wow-worthy air pressure function in many suction toys). The highly coveted OG brings famous Womanizer features like Afterglow mode and Smart Silence to a new form with this exciting release that will bring about your own.

What customers say: "“I thought I know how my gspot orgasm feels but that's a whole new level… g-zus.”"

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For the Anal Curious

Lovehoney Butt Tingler 10 Function Vibrating Butt Plug 3.5 Inch

Small enough for newbies with functions that would please even anal pros, the Lovehoney Butt Tingler is an entry anal toy that will carry you far beyond your first foray into butt stuff. Featuring 3 speeds and 7 vibration patterns to choose from, your bum can buzz to the beat of its own drum. In the mood for booty fullness without vibration? Take out the Butt Tingler’s removable bullet and use it on another hot spot like your nipples.

What customers say: "“perfect beginner toy and will 1000000% make your orgasm stronger”"

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Go On Erotic Excursions

Is world travel already on your to-do list? Up the ante by including orgasms in your itinerary. The great thing about vacation sex (well, one of many) is that you can do it over and over, and you’ll still get a new and exciting experience with each additional locale you get lusty in.

Recommended Resolution Helpers:

For Vulva Owners

Lovehoney Dream Wand Rechargeable Mini Massage Wand Vibrator

If your clit is a power junkie, it’s hard to beat the deeply resounding bliss of wand massagers. With plug-ins and super sizes, wands, unfortunately, don’t always make the best travel buddies, though. Enter the Lovehoney Dream Wand. This mini wand vibrator fully fits in your hand, meaning it won’t be a problem fitting it into your luggage. It’s also rechargeable, so no worries about finding a convenient outlet for powerhouse vibrations. Never settle for less, lovers of clit stimulation and travel!

What customers say: "“Amazing power for a rechargeable. Perfect size and deep rumbling vibes.”"

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For Penis Owners

Fleshlight Flight Pilot Male Masturbator

With its discreet, lightweight case and compact size, the Fleshlight Flight Pilot is the perfect travel companion for penises. To the untrained eye, this portable stroker is nothing to gawk over, but users will quickly discover that’s far from the truth. The Fleshlight Flight Pilot’s non-anatomical opening and multi-textural inner sleeve are crafted from highly realistic-feeling SuperSkin for lifelike sensations. Its easy-grip case also boasts a twistable base that lets users customize suction levels. With fantastic features and a travel-friendly design, the Flight Pilot will have you flying high toward applause-worthy landings.

What customers say: "“First time I slipped into it, I literally came within 2 strokes! Wow!”"

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For Travel Lovebugs

Lovehoney Wild Weekend Mega Couple's Sex Toy Kit (11 Piece)

Whether you’re getting away for a weekend or a full week, the Lovehoney Wild Weekend Mega Couple’s Sex Toy Kit will surely keep you busy between sightseeing sessions. The expansive toy collection includes a whopping 11 sex toys: a slim anal plug, vibrating rabbit-eared cock ring with a removable bullet, G-spot vibrator, 3-piece cock ring set, rabbit-eared bullet vibrator, translucent stroker, rabbit vibrator, anal beads, and Ben Wa balls. The only potential problem this kit presents? With so many pleasure possibilities in store, you might never leave your hotel room.

What customers say: "“Fabulous just Fabulous. Did everything we wanted and more.”"

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Sticking to your New Year’s resolutions doesn’t have to be a chore. When you focus on what feels good, you’ll be eager to carry out your self-improvement goals through 2023 and beyond!