Interview: The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50 With Joan Price
Author and speaker Joan Price is the quintessential sex educator for the 50 and up crowd and I'm delighted to share her work with you.
Whether you've already reached your golden years or you're interested in planning ahead, Joan's work is an invaluable resource.
I had the opportunity to ask her some questions and find out why the topic of senior sex is so important and also so neglected.
Read our interview below, check out some of Joan's favorite sex toys, and pick up your copy of her new book The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50 now!
Krista: What inspired you to take on the topic of senior sex?
Joan: I fell in love at age 57 with a man who was 64, and we had the best sex ever. Why was this such a well-kept secret? I decided to work towards changing that, to talk out loud about older-age sexuality, to pull senior sex out of the closet. I wrote my first senior sex book at age 61. Ten years later, this topic is still my passion and my life’s work.
When did you first start experimenting with pleasure products (sex toys etc)?
Probably close to 40 years ago, when I was in my thirties. At that time, you could buy a couple of “massager” styles in the personal care department of regular department stores! The labeling pretended that the “massager” was for sore muscles and to bring a rosy glow to our cheeks (uh huh), but it didn’t take a college education to figure out what other body parts might enjoy the “rosy glow."
How have attitudes toward sex, sex toys and sexuality changed over the years?
Now there are thousands of sex toys, hundreds of different styles, and they’re clearly for sex. For a while, sex toys (other than the rare “massagers”) were aimed at male customers and weren’t of good quality. Once women retailers started selling them and women started buying them, the quality went up. Sexual health activists started looking at the materials that we were putting on and in our bodies and educating us. We’re lucky to be living in this time when sex toys are varied and plentiful, and sex educators and bloggers are helping us make good choices.
The Pulse II Solo Guybrator (left) is my favorite for senior male bodies, especially when erections are problematic.
You say you review sex toys ‘from a senior perspective.’ What do you mean? What do seniors need that the rest of us don’t?
As we age, we have less blood flow to the genitals and we need increased arousal time and often very strong sensations. This is a partial list of what I (and many others my age) need in a sex toy:
- Strong intensity. Classic, powerful wands like the Magic Wand Rechargeable Extra Powerful Cordless Vibrator.
- Vibrators that last a long time without losing the charge.
- Long-lasting, well-made products that do not break or die.
- High quality, body-safe materials, accurately described. (Don't tell us it's silicone if it's not.)
- Materials and construction that don’t pinch, pound, or scratch delicate tissue.
- Instructions we can read without our reading glasses. Or better, make the instructions truly intuitive.
- Handles and controls that we can use with fingers slippery from lubricant.
- Dimensions - including girth - provided in retail description.
- If insertable, slim version available (under 1.5" diameter).
- Ergonomic - holding the toy for a long time doesn’t make our arthritic wrists hurt.
Pictured here: Womanizer Clitoral Stimulator "a new discovery and a delight"
What is your favorite part of The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50?
I’m really happy with the whole book. It took me almost a year, and I put my best into it. But if you’re asking what chapter I personally enjoy reading the most, it’s the sex toy chapter!
Anything else you'd like to share with our readers about this important topic?
Sex at our age isn’t like it was when we were young, no, but (a) in many ways, it’s better; and (b) if there are problems, don’t give up. For every problem, there is a solution. Find credible and helpful resources (this book is a fine starting point, if I say so myself), ask your doctor for help, and if your doctor doesn’t know, ask for a referral to someone who does. Talk out loud about this important part of our lives.
About Joan Price
Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media, such as “senior sexpert” and “wrinkly sex kitten.” Joan wrote her spicy memoir and love story, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty, to celebrate the joys of senior sex. Her second book, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex has won several awards. Her latest book is The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Fifty: How to Maintain - or Regain! - a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life (Cleis Press 2015). Visit her zesty, award-winning blog about sex and aging at www.NakedAtOurAge.com, where Joan continues to talk out loud about aging and sexuality, partnered or solo.
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