1. Feel Sexier In An Instant With These Body Confidence Tips


    I like to think I'm a very body-positive person, and I genuinely believe in beauty at any size, but when it comes to my own body, I really struggle to put my beliefs into practise.

    But, really, body confidence comes from accepting your body exactly as it is, rather than trying to make it into what you think everyone else wants it to be.

    So, if you're looking for a boost to your sex appeal and sensuality, we've got some easy tips for you that can help you love your body, and everything it does for you.

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    Celebrate your body


    I'm lucky that one of my best friends is a photographer, so I asked if she would take some boudoir photos of me. When I got the shots back I could see that confidence not just on my face but throughout the rest of my body.

    If you're having a low self-esteem day, having sexy photos to look back on can give you a real boost.

    Taking sexy pictures of yourself is a powerful way of celebrating your body, and learning which bits you love the most.

    'Sexy' doesn't have to mean naked: you can wear anything you like. Your favourite outfit, the lingerie you've been looking for an excuse to wear, or nothing at all - basically, whatever you want, as long as it makes you feel confident.

    It's up to you what you do with them next: send them to a partner or somebody you know who would appreciate them, even just a close friend; keep them all to yourself to look back at on a bad day.

    Set the scene


    This is something I'm so glad I learned. Making your bedroom somewhere you want to be and where you feel in charge can create a feeling of relaxation and confidence that will instantly have you feeling sexier.

    This can be achieved by something as simple as getting new bedsheets and clearing out the clutter.

    Even if you aren't currently in a relationship, you can still put the sensual setting to use. Masturbation has proven health benefits, not just physically but mentally.

    Nurturing yourself sexually and emotionally in this way has been shown to aid better sleep, improve your immune system, and boost your body image.

    The more you allow yourself to be naked, in a setting where you feel sexy and empowered, basking in sexual pleasure, the better you will feel about yourself and the amazing things that your own body can make you feel.

    Stop comparing yourself


    Let's face facts - we live in an image-obsessed world. Morning commutes are marred by posters asking us if we're 'beach body ready' and magazines are packed with promises of making our tummy rolls disappear.

    It's no wonder we have a tendency to compare ourselves to others, if you think about it.

    In exactly the same way that body shaming someone else can be hugely damaging to their self esteem, putting yourself down because you don't look like you belong in Taylor Swift's squad is a bad habit that won't help your confidence.

    Instead of picking at things you don't like about yourself, focus on a few things you're happy about and have them on standby for those wobbly moments. Before you know it, being kind to yourself will be second nature.

    Treat yo’ self!

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    It’s a simple trick, but something as simple as a new pair of knickers can make you feel amazing.

    Be it a cheeky pair of panties or a flirty thong, the secrecy of having something new and naughty under your clothes as you go about day-to-day tasks can give you such a rush.

    This isn’t just one for the ladies. Fellas, treat yourself to some new boxers and unleash your inner sex god! The feel of nice fabric hugging your hips and bum is sure to give you that extra bit of swagger in your stride. And believe me, a partner is more likely to prefer sliding off your jeans to see a nice pair of LHM boxers than to find themselves face-to-face with the Cookie Monster.

    If pants aren’t so much your thing, then there are plenty of other options. A silky robe or chemise can be enough to make you feel like a vintage movie star.

    And, admit it, we’ve all had that fantasy of opening the door to your crush in nothing but one of these babies.

    Lizi is a Sociology student at Northumbria University, often found blogging about as Some Angry Northern B*tch. When she's not balancing her affection between her two partners, it often goes to her pet hedgehog, Stormageddon.

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    Comments (6)

    • Vincent Pingree: September 05, 2019 09:51
      I am a transgender I love to dress and act as a woman all the varieties of clothes then make up makes me feel so sexy but I have those days I look at my face and cringe because of the 5 o’clock shadow it really brings me down because there’s nothing I can do about it that I have found yet your suggestions are so helpful thank you so much four helping me find Little tricks to focus on the good things love Samantha thanks again ??
    • Michelle: February 10, 2020 00:00
      I’m very body positive, sex positive woman and your site has become one of my favorite place to shop for toys and lingerie, which I have a healthy supply of both and think there can never be enough of either! However, as a 39 yo woman former plus size (XXL/ size 22) who is now a medium/ size 8, I love my body past and present, but I struggle finding brands or styles of sexy panties, thongs and garter belts that address women who have a small waist but a loose lower tummy of extra skin (moms know this struggle too)! Plus-size lingerie is too big, and large lingerie can often be cut too high or slim in the crotch v-area to cover my loose hanging tummy to give me the silhouette I’m after. I know I am not the only one! And it’s not just for looks but when i get jumping around and dancing or being pounded, I don’t enjoy the feeling of my skin slapping me or him (the same reason we wear sports bras while working out;)) I’ve found beautiful teddys and bodysuits that don’t cut too high and do just what I need and there is of course sexy chemise and babydolls, but every thong that comes with any set is unusable. I always go without these sexy panties or thongs I see on your site opting to let it all hang out for a prettier natural silhouette or wear pretty lace hipster panties but that are never crotchless because I can’t find any :(. I’m grateful for your options but I’m surprised that my body type, which is way more common than is talked about, isn’t designed more often for. Do y’all have anything in the works for my body type or brands you suggest? Thanks!
    • Terry: July 13, 2020 19:29
      (or more properly, anyone who wants or needs custom fitted garments, especially lingerie, support / ostomy / prosthetic, & sports),

      Go cruise thru Rebirth Garments.
      This maker's specialty is designs for nongendered lingerie, but they also do all sorts of custom work for all genders & any orientation.
      Beautiful, functional, & fabulous fun - plus, check out the 'zines. (I bought all 3, they're gorgeous.)

      - Terry

    • Kristina Lawhon: July 21, 2020 21:03
      I would like to receive the weekly position of the week. Thank you
    • Jo Ellen: July 23, 2020 16:00
      I am a 67 year old woman who has been happily married for 45 years. I love him madly and buy sexy stuff constantly to keep the fires alive. I may not look as good as I did when I was younger, but My hubby loves it anyway. He doesn’t see the flaws that only I can see. My tip is don’t give it up. Keep those fires ignited for a long happy marriage!
    • Terry: July 23, 2020 17:00
      Hey, Jo -
      Congratulations! -- 45 years, that's wonderful, & I'm glad to hear you and he are still keeping the home fires burning. :--)
      I am 65, & my honey is a few years younger - we've been a couple for two years, & I'm very happy to say our sex life is only getting better.
      I wish we'd met 20-years ago, so we could have more time together, but you can't plan love - I can only be thankful we met, & appreciate the time we have.
      In the first 20 years of my sex life, my partners were often selfish & not concerned about my pleasure. It's fantastic to have someone who wants to SHARE warm, happy, thrilling sex, not just hog all the fun, then roll over & snore.
      I only wish I could tell my younger self not to give up, but since that's not possible, I will tell all of you: generous, passionate lovers can be any age.
      I am having the best sex of my life, & if I am blessed to live into my 90s like my mother & grandmother, I fully intend to be loving my darling breathless, even then.
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