1. 9 BDSM Ideas You'll Be Gagging To Try

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    Maybe it's the jazzy outfits, the shift in power dynamics, or the rosy color of a freshly spanked butt, but there's something about BDSM that couples all over the world can't get enough of. It's one of the most popular sexual fetishes out there.

    The only issue with falling in love with BDSM is keeping your ideas fresh and exciting. There's nothing worse than tying your partner to a bed only to have the dreaded 'what do I do now?' moment.

    That's why we've created this handy BDSM ideas guide. Whether you're on the hunt for pain play ideas, S&M ideas, or simply something sexy to say while you're figuring out your knots, stick with us as we share our kinky wisdom.



    Light BDSM Ideas

    If you've only just dipped a toe in the inviting waters of BDSM, then lucky you: there is so much for you to discover!

    As with all bondage play, for these beginner BDSM ideas you'll need to make sure you and your partner practise crystal-clear communication. It's essential you speak up if something feels wrong and you arrange a safeword before your play begins.

    Now that the PSA is out the way, let's get down to the fun stuff.

    Temperature Play

    If you're looking for some light BDSM ideas to spice up your Tuesday night, then temperature play is a good place to start.

    Experimenting with different temperatures, be it warming a glass sex toy, or running an ice cube down your lover's body, is an incredible way to stimulate the many thermoreceptors we all have in our skin.

    Temperature play is brilliant for beginner bondage because the shock of a cold ice cube touching an unexpecting nipple provokes a similar reaction to that of pain. This can cause a rush of endorphins and enhanced arousal.

    Ice cubes or a nice warm tongue are a great place to start with temperature play. Try keeping a cup of tea next to the bed while you go down on your lover, or have a few ice cubes on hand to run down their body.

    When you're ready to up the ante, invest in a temperature-responsive sex toy, like one of these:

    Sensory Deprivation

    The human imagination is a powerful machine. When left to its own devices, it can add all sorts of exciting textures and nuances to our everyday experiences.

    The beauty of a blindfold is they let our imaginations run wild. By popping one over your lover's eyes, you're not just asking them to submit to your will but as you begin to touch and tease them, they're forced to make sense of these mysterious sensations.

    Top tip: they even double up as sleep masks when the deed is done!

    To get you started, add one of these into your bondage play.

    Hair pulling

    While pulling someone's pigtails to show that you like them is a tradition in need of retirement, a spot of consensual hair pulling can be very hot in the bedroom.

    The aim of hair pulling is to add a manageable amount of pain to your pleasure. It probably goes without saying, but we're going for a gentle tug, rather than a full scalping. After all, it's a federal offence to mess up a lady's weave.

    For hair pulling which is safe, yet satisfying, you want to focus on the roots of the hair, with your hand and fingertips against their scalp - and don't forget to establish consent before you do this!


    Intermediate BDSM Ideas

    If you've explored BDSM play before, you may want to turn the heat up and begin exploring some more advanced BDSM ideas.

    Restraint Play

    Restraining your lover with cuffs or rope is a perfect way to explore consensual sexual power dynamics.

    Restraint play can be a great equalizer. For instance, people who are smaller than their partners have the opportunity to be the boss in the bedroom, which can be incredibly exhilarating for both of you.

    While we recommend you begin with a set of quick-release cuffs, there are endless restraint possibilities once you've figured out the basics. Check out our blog and video on Japanese rope bondage to learn more.

    Here are four of our most popular restraints for you to get tied up in:

    Impact Play

    There's something about a butt that we just can't help but smack. Don't ask us why, we don't know. Maybe it's the resulting jiggle, the glorious mix of pleasure and pain, or maybe we know how good it feels to be on the receiving end and want to share the fun.

    If you've tried spanking and enjoyed the results, try adding a flogger, paddle or crop into the mix. Not only will the sensation be more intense, but each tool offers its own unique sensations.

    While paddles have a wider surface area, resulting in a more even distribution of pressure, whips, crops and canes give sharp bursts of impact.

    Explore the possibilities with four of our favorites:

    Clamping

    Nipple, clit and ball clamps are must-have toys for those who love a little pain. While beginners should stick to nipple suckers and pumps, if you're after something a little more intense, clamps are definitely the way to go. Not only do clamps offer firm stimulation, but because they are adjustable you can tailor your experience.

    To heighten your experience further, try a pair of nipple clamps with a chain. These allow you to deliver even more nip-tastic stimulation just by giving the chain a gentle tug. Here's four to get you started:

    Hardcore BDSM Ideas

    Don't worry hardcore BDSM fans, we haven't forgotten about you.

    If you're an old hat at Japanese rope bondage and have worn your spanking paddle out from overuse, you may want to try some of these hardcore BDSM play ideas.

    Urethral Sounding

    Not for the faint-hearted, yet incredible if you're brave enough, urethral sounding opens up a whole new world of sensations.

    Urethral sounding is the term used to describe using (very sterile) sex toys to stimulate the urethra. That's right, these ulta-skinny toys are designed to be put down your peehole.

    While many urethral sounds are smooth and simple, or slightly textured for internal massage, others also vibrate.

    It may sound extreme, but there are a host of nerve endings in your urethra just waiting to be explored. However, if you do fancy giving it a shot, please please please make sure everything is as sterile as possible - and only use a toy designed for that specific purpose.

    Four to get the party started:

    Medical Fetish Play

    For some BDSM scenario ideas, they won't forget in a hurry, slip on your scrubs and discover medical fetish roleplay.

    If you've ever fantasised about making it with your doctor, the world of medical fetish is calling your name. Using a range of speculums and dilators, you and your lover can recreate the doctor's surgery for some very kinky fun.

    While a sexy nurse's outfit is enough for some couples, speculums and dilators add more realism to your roleplay. Try adding a dilator to your next session and get to know your lover's bits on another level. Just remember to communicate throughout, as this kind of play can be very intense.

    Electro Sex

    For those who love to test their pain threshold, electro sex may be right up your alley.

    Electro-sex refers to the practice of harnessing the power of electricity to stimulate the receptors in your skin.

    While electro-sex isn't just about pain play (when used on a light setting the feeling is like a sensual tickle), these devices are popular in the BDSM community, due to their ability to safely build intensity. For more on how to safely use electrostimulation in your sex play (that doesn't involve a car battery), you can check out our guide here.

    Doms can use a remote to safely administer shocks to their sub, or combine the electro sensation with their favorite sex toys. ElectraStim stock a collection of dildos, butt plugs, cock rings and strokers.

    We have a wide range, but here are some of our customer's favorites:

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