6 Ways to Make Missionary Sex Even Better

by Lovehoney

on Jan 29, 2020


Missionary sex doesn't get the credit it deserves. It gets dismissed as 'boring' and 'vanilla', when in reality it's a fundamental position in the Big Bumper Book of Bonking!

Missionary position sees one partner lie on their back, whilst the other partner lies on top, penetrating them either vaginally or anally.

We've got 6 ways to improve missionary sex here and, to save you from getting tangled up like you're playing a game of naked Twister, we've come up with a system.

We've called the partner who is lying on their back the HP ('horizontal partner') and the partner who is riding up top the TP ('top partner').

1. Stretch Out

The HP extends their legs out straight in front of them, keeping them tightly together.

The TP straddles the HP, with their legs either side of the HP's thighs.

Keeping your legs together during missionary generates more friction and allows you to engage your pelvic floor as your partner thrusts – which feels good for everyone involved!

2. Are You a CAT Person?

No, not cat, CAT – it stands for 'coital alignment technique'. This modified missionary position is great for upping your intimacy and clitoral stimulation all at once!

The HP should lie with a small pillow under their hips to give them a boost. Once penetration takes place, the TP should shift their body upwards so that their pelvis is directly in line with their partner's and their chest is in the vicinity of their partner's shoulders.

The TP should resist the temptation to lift up off their partner as they thrust – instead, concentrate on staying pressed together and gyrating against their vulva and clitoris. Because this position isn't all about fast, deep thrusting, it can also help guys last longer – now do you see why everybody loves CAT?

3. Picking Up Good Vibrations

One simple way to improve missionary is to involve your favourite sex toys!

You can opt for something hands-free (and if that peaks your interest, check out 8 Hands-Free Toys For People with A Vulva) but you'll also find that most conventional sex toys can be easily incorporated into this position.

4. BDSM-issionary

For most people, missionary is a familiar, non-intimidating, comfortable position, so it can be a good starting point for those looking to try BDSM for the first time.

Experimenting with sex that involves an exchange of power or elements of pain can feel daunting from the outset, so a well-known position like missionary to keep you feeling grounded and safe.

BDSM equipment like the Lovehoney Oh! Silky Restraints pair perfectly with missionary, because the HP's hands can be bound during the main event.

5. Change of Scene

When it comes to improving missionary, don’t get too caught up in changing the position itself. Take a step back and change your location instead.

You can effortlessly inject excitement back into this position by leaving the bedroom and doing the deed in entirely new territory.

6. Let’s Grind!

No position is going to be pleasurable if you’re just going through the motions. You gotta grind! Both partners should press up against each other, but even more so if you’re the HP. Now’s the time to get clitoral stimulation, so wrap your legs around your partner’s waist and find that sweet spot.

An added benefit of grinding is that you’re face-to-face, and this facilitates good communication during your romp.

Any sex position is only as exciting and enjoyable as you choose to make it. These are just 6 ways to improve missionary sex, there are countless other methods out there. However, the most important thing to remember is that if you're both enjoying a certain sex position, there's really no need to change a thing!

Audrey Andrews is a student blogger for Lovehoney. In her spare time she loves to do craft, but would not advise knitting your own condoms.

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Originally published on Jan 29, 2020. Updated on Aug 5, 2020