Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Wand Vibrators

by Lovehoney

on Jan 16, 2018


Wands: The What? The Why? The Where and How?

Massage Wand vibrators are packed with some of the most powerful motors on the market for out-of-this-world, all-over-body pleasure.

For many people, wands are a staple in the old sex toy box, but for others they are still a mystical mystery.

These days wands come in all shapes and sizes, colours and with an array of features, which can be a bit overwhelming if it's your first wand purchase.

So we want to help you by going back to basics and answering all of the most asked wand vibrator questions.

Let us know if you have any more questions in the comments section below.

Your questions answered...

1. Are they loud?

Due to the powerful motors needed to provide those intense, rumbly buzzing vibrations, wands will never be silent. You might be able to find quieter toys on the market but we’re certain your orgasms won’t be as loud.

If you’re worried about the noise, you could always try to muffle the sound with a cloth, or opt for a silicone wand as the softer material will help to conceal the vibrations.

2. Do you use them internally or externally?

The original magic wand was invented by Japanese company Hitachi and manufactured for relieving tension and sore muscles (yes, really). Nowadays, it's one of the world's most popular sex toys for external erogenous zones. And, thanks to ingenius attachments like the Lovehoney Deluxe G-spot attachment and the Lovehoney Silicone Rabbit Attachment, you can experience the deep, rumbly vibrations internally too.

3. Do they come in other sizes?

Absolutely! While the standard Massage Wands tend to come in similar sizes (roughly 13 inches in length excluding the cable) there are variations. You can find a fairly powerful wand measuring a mere 9 inches in length (Lovehoney mon ami Silicone Body Wand). The market has also expanded into astoundingly good mini-wands which can be as short as 4.5 inches in length – though, of course, these vibrations will not be as powerful.

4. Aren’t they really expensive?

Wands, like most sex toys, can really range in price. With wands like the Deluxe and Desire, the higher price point is the result of the high-end, luxurious materials used (like silicone) and the premium, powerful motors. Mini wands can be bought at a budget-friendly $29.99, whereas you can find a more luxurious knock-your-socks-off-powerful Lelo wand at $199.99.

5. What’s best? Battery or mains-powered or USB rechargeable?

Nowadays there’s a satisfyingly sizeable selection of ways to power your wand. There’s the classic plug-in powered method you’ll find with wands like the Deluxe; rechargeable via USB with wands from the Desire collection; and battery-powered wands, which tend to be smaller, like the Lovehoney 3-Speed Micro Massage Wand. Each type of power has its plus sides. The plug-in wands, for example, tend to be more powerful and obviously won’t run out of charge. The USB powered wands are great for use in any room in the house, anywhere in the world, as are the battery operated wands – these however, may not pack the same punch in terms of power.

6. Is a plug-in vibrator safe?

Mains-powered wands are absolutely safe to use so long as they are kept away from water and follow the same safety regulations as any other electrical item.

7. Will its size scare off my partner?

Wands, by nature, are generally bigger vibrators, which can be overwhelming for partners unaccustomed to sex toys. The great thing about wands is that they can be used for all-over-body, deep tissue massage, so if your partner is slightly concerned about the size, offer them a sensual massage and they’ll soon come around to the benefits of wands. Then who knows where play will lead?

8. Will it be too big for my genitals?

Wands generally have large, rounded heads that are capable of transmitting the super powerful vibrations through their entire surface area. Many will have flexible necks enabling you to angle the heads exactly where you want them, and provide all-engulfing pleasure for your sweet spots. If you’re looking for power but more localised stimulation, the Mini wands or Lovehoney mon ami Silicone Body Wand are great options as their heads have a much smaller circumference.

9. Is the material important?

For some, material can make or break a person’s enjoyment of a sex toy. Our selection of wands are made from a variety of different materials so you have plenty of choice depending on your preference. Wand heads made of silicone will offer a silky soft, luxurious finish, while those made from plastic with be seriously smooth and glide against the skin effortlessly. The material used for the wand’s body will also make a difference to your experience. Some, like the desire wand, have a smooth silicone body, whereas others are made from plastics or aluminium titanium alloy, like the Doxy Die Cast, which are much heavier.

As with all sex toys, the material that your wand is made from will determine which lubricants you can use with it. Check our Lubricant Buyer’s Guide for more information about lube and material compatibility.

10. Are they easy to clean?

Thanks to the smooth heads, some of which are removable, wands are easy to clean. If your wand has grooves, it may need a little bit more attention to get into those areas. A good quality sex toy cleaner and a cloth should be sufficient to clean the head. Never immerse the wand in water.

11. Are they worth the money?

Wands vary in price so thankfully you’ll be able to pick one up according to your budget. As for if they’re worth it… well, they’re one of the most popular items we sell and we have thousands of happy customer reviews for you to read to help make that decision.

12. Will they make my hand go numb?

At most it may tingle for a while but any fears of it going numb and falling off are unsubstantiated.

Most magic wands have their motor in the head (rather than the handle) which helps keep the power right where you need it (and away from the areas you don’t!)

13. Can I use one while having sex?

Yah-ha! You can use it in loads of different ways – check out our upcoming wand guide for making the most out of your magical new chum.

14. Can something so powerful be used for foreplay?

*nods* The wand is one of the most versatile toys around. See above guide for loads of handy tips for using your wand.

15. What are those strange looking hat contraptions?

Attachments and accessories! Lovehoney has a plethora of different attachments to pleasure various intimate zones.

16. What lube should I use?

This depends on the material your wand is made from, and what you’ll be using it for. See our Lubricant Buyer’s Guide for more advice. If in doubt, stick to a good quality water-based lube as they’re compatible with all sex toy materials, and most skin types.

17. Are the cables long enough to use them comfortably?

The idea of a plug-in cable can put a lot of people off if they don’t have a plug socket near the bed. Luckily the lovehoney wands come with a cable length of 1.8m and 2.4m so you’ll have freedom to roam if you wish.

18. So it's great for a clitoris, but what about a penis?

Everyone is different. Many people with a penis love the sensations of vibrations held against the frenulum or shaft, whilst others prefer to aim the head of their wand at their perineum for deep P-spot pleasure. For those who like penile stimulation, take a look at our penis-specific attachments, like this Hummer which is a textured stroker for even more explosive sensations.

19. Will I become desensitised?

Any repeated or prolonged stimulation could result in some loss of sensation regardless of the type of stimulation, however this is not permanent and your body will soon return to normal.

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Originally published on Jan 16, 2018. Updated on Aug 5, 2020