Self-Love Sessions: How to Become and Feel Sexually Empowered

The world is your oyster and there is so much to learn, so drink from the fountain of sexual knowledge. In a time and era where sexuality has become such a broad spectrum of so many things, it’s important to understand what it can mean to other people too and not just yourself. If terms such as non-binary, asexual, pansexual, transgender, polyamorous and bisexual, to name just a few, leave you feeling confused, there may be gaps in your sexual education you can begin to fill.

Knowing about different STI’s, pregnancy and contraception is also important. Learn about how to stay safe with sexual partners and how to practice safe and consensual sex as this will all help you make informed decisions when it comes to exploring your sexual desires.

You are your greatest protector, and you should feel in control of every sexual encounter you experience. By law, it is your basic human right to give or withdraw consent at any time and you should always have the ability and power to make informed decisions about who and when you choose to engage with sexually.

Feeling empowered can start with something as simple as learning how you like to be touched. Through masturbation and self-pleasure, you can learn so much about your sexuality, and your sensitivity to sexual pleasure. If you are a virgin, or have not yet engaged in penetrative sex, masturbating first can prepare you for feeling empowered during your first time.

Even if you have had sexual experiences with other people, regularly checking in with yourself and spending time alone can enhance your future sexual experiences, as you’ll be able to give informed direction to your partners.

From accepting your flaws and highlighting your blinding assets, self-appreciation is key to feeling sexually empowered. It’s not always easy to love ourselves, but the reality is – when we do, it becomes much easier for others to love us too.

Sexual empowerment and self-love come hand-in-hand, with one, comes the other and reaching the final destination for both can follow a deeply personal journey of self-discovery. Need some inspiration to be kinder to yourself? Check out the Lovehoney road-map to self-love, here.

When you know all there is to know about yourself, your desires, needs and sexual preferences, you can begin to communicate this to your partner. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner if you don’t like something, but also remember to compliment when they do something that makes you feel good. Be open and willing to share your fantasies but don’t put heavy sexual demands on your partner or push beyond where feels comfortable. Sexual empowerment works both ways when in a sexual relationship with another person – build each other up with trust, communication and consent.