Position of the Week: The Handshake

by Lucy

on Jul 22, 2021

Take a moment to face each other and have sex with each other’s hands. Believe us. It may sound strange, but the benefits of getting to know each other in this intensely intimate position are explosive, to put it mildly.



Stand facing each other and position your hands so they are about 2 inches away from your partner’s crotch. Let your bodies come to each other’s hands as opposed to your hands taking the lead. You’re essentially having sex with each other’s hands.


It feels exhilaratingly different and creates a super-intense connection with your partner thanks to the face-to-face, upright positioning and the fact that your bodies are making the call.


Introducing toys that are designed to fit in the palm of a hand provides an extension of the notion of having sex with your partner’s hand. A pebble-shaped clitoral vibrator is perfect for all-encompassing external stimulation, while a handheld stroker with internal textures could be just the thing to transform each thrust.

Make it even better

Give those pleasure-hungry nerve-endings in the anus a little treat in the form of a butt plug, while your other hotspots are lavished with attention. Either or both partners could wear a butt plug in The Handshake position to help enhance orgasms.

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We're working to make sure that everyone is represented on our website, regardless of who you love, so we'll be using a variety of gender depictions in our Position of the Week posts. This will include straight, gay, lesbian, and gender neutral couples, but all positions will have details in the description of how to make them work for your own relationship dynamic.


Written by Lucy. Lovehoney Editorial Team
If you think that an exciting sex life starts and ends with Missionary then Lucy, who has worked at Lovehoney for over a decade, is here to enlighten you with her ever-popular ‘Position of the Week’ blogs.
Lucy also loves making the world of sex and sex toys easy to learn about, and you'll often find her with her head in a book researching her latest A to Z guide

Originally published on Jul 22, 2021. Updated on Jul 16, 2021