Generally, foreplay is known as ‘sexual activity during the lead up to sex’ or ‘things that get you in the mood’.
But what is sex and why doesn’t it include the lead up?
When does foreplay end and sex begin?
Foreplay can mean lots of different things to different people, so I’ll be covering what falls into the ‘generic foreplay’ category, how creating different categories of sexual acts can be damaging, my own definition of foreplay and when I think it should happen (hint – it’s not always before!).
Often, when the term 'foreplay' gets thrown around, it's sold as ‘something that comes before "actual" sex’ (i.e. a penis penetrating a vagina – thanks heteronormative school sex-ed). So for a long time, I assumed it to be kissing, cuddling and hands/mouth on genitals.
I know this experience isn't uncommon, and I know that to a lot of people, that's what foreplay is.
We're over halfway through October, which can mean only one thing: Halloween is almost here!
And whether you've been counting down the days since last November 1st, or you're locking the doors and hunkering down to avoid trick-or-treaters, one thing's for sure: the internet is brimming with sexy Halloween costume possibilities.
We've packed our new Halloween shop full of flirty costumes and spooky-style toys, but how can a night associated with ghouls, ghosts, and wee demon beasties be erotic?
We're glad you asked.
Here, we've collected our favorite Halloween-esque role play scenarios to take your night from frightful to delightful (without a drop of fake blood in sight).
Don’t forget, before any role play, it’s always a good idea to agree on a safe word with your partner so that if things get too intense, you can cease play immediately.
If your significant other is the proud owner of a penis, it can be tempting to make foreplay all about oral sex – and it's easy to see why.
Blow jobs are fantastic. They are a huge turn-on for loads of men and after a sensational blow job, there's a good chance that any penetrative sex will last even longer and be more satisfying for both of you.
But man can not live on blow-jobs alone! Well, you could give it a damn good try, but just like anything you do all the time, it might get a little... samey.
Here are 5 other foreplay moves that are sure to drive him wild.
Jamye Waxman, M.Ed, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and is a well-known and sought after educator and lecturer in the field of human sexuality and relationships.
She began her career as a sex educator at the world-famous New York sex toy shop Babeland and in 2005, Wired.Com dubbed her "the nexxxt generation of sex educator".
She has been interviewed and quoted in publications such as Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Women's Health, Men's Health, Forbes, The NY Daily News, and YourTango.
She is the author of several books, including the award-winning book Getting Off: A Woman's Guide to Masturbation (Seal Press) and utilizes her Masters in Sex Education from Widener University and SFSI certification to demystify female pleasure, arm the public with accurate information, and empower people with the ability to pursue fun and freedom in their sex lives.
Find out more about her work at waxmansextherapy.com.
Lots of you wanted to know what the relationship between a Dominant and a submissive partner is really like, so we reached out to sex blogger and queen of kink, Cara Sutra, to tell us more.
The world of Dominance and submission holds a dark allure while remaining an enigmatic mystery to many. How does a Dom/sub relationship work? Can you just dip your toes into kink or do you have to become a permanent member of the BDSM scene?
Couples often experience surprising benefits to their relationship when sampling the world of Dominance and submission, and it’s not all kinky spankings and bondage cuffs. Full surrender of control, and acceptance of that control, can be a defining bonding experience for your relationship.
Exploring new kinky adventures together will be a sexy shared secret. Plus, the mutual trust required for such intensely erotic play may lead to a stronger attraction to your partner than ever before.
There's no need to feel daunted by the thought of trying out a Dom/sub relationship. Discover the beauty of a relationship which thrives on an exchange of power between partners.
One of the joys of sharing a house is that you can almost guarantee that at some point, you’ll hear your housemates bumping uglies. It’s like a university rite of passage.
But what about when it comes to indulging in a spot of alone-time?
No one wants their new roomies to know that they’re doing the five-knuckle shuffle after a particularly steamy episode of Orange is the New Black, and worrying about overly-loud vibrations and moans can really ruin the mood.
So for those of you who are shy about playing with yourself whilst your friends play FIFA on the other side of the wall, we've rounded up a selection of the best quiet sex toys, as well as some tips from our experts on becoming a top undercover lover.