Xanet Pailet, author of the new book, Living an Orgasmic Life, is a recovered NYC healthcare lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades.
After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach. She offers 1:1 coaching and online group programs to empower women around their sexuality and strengthen couples' relationships and intimacy skills.
Xanet is a certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach, Sexological Bodyworker, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, Tantra Educator, and is trauma trained in Somatic Experiencing. She is on the faculty of the Ecstatic Living Institute and the Somatica Institute.
Find out more about her work at powerofpleasure.com.
Sex is a wondrous thing; like a magnificent night sky. Full of beauty, infinite possibilities and the... what the heck is that?
We've all been there. On the road to Pleasure, via Puzzled with a pit stop in Preoccupied.
Focusing on being relaxed and what is turning you on in the moment is key to satisfying sex.
By practising being more present in each moment of daily life, you'll find it a lot easier to be in the moment during your lovemaking.
With everything that's going on in our busy lives, it's understandable though that sometimes our minds take a detour.
Don't fret about it.
Read on for a list of things that everyone has thought of during sex.
Sexpert Tyomi Morgan-Najieb, better known as Glamazon Tyomi, is a Certified Sexologist and International Pleasure Coach who reaches millions through her social media platforms and writing. The Chicago native began her sex education blog Glamerotica101.com to serve as the female representation for people of color within mainstream sexuality.
Tyomi has served as the resident sexpert for EBONY.com and Blackdoctor.org, hosted her own radio show on Playboy Radio, was published in collegiate Academia by McGraw Hill, and hosted a two year sold out tour domestically and internationally.
She has been featured on Comedy Central's Tosh.0 as Daniel's "Favorite Sexpert," and her advice has been featured on websites including Huffington Post, NY Mag's THE CUT, Essence.com, Askmen.com, SHAPE.com, Blavity.com, and VICE.com.
The Glamazon has been a guest on numerous podcasts and has appeared on radio shows featured on Clear Channel Radio, CBS Radio, Playboy Radio, Sirus XM and more. Tyomi currently serves as the resident sexpert for Cassiuslife.com, The Exxxotica Expo’s Seminar Coordinator and Resident Sexpert, and uses a candid and relatable approach to educate the masses via her YouTube channel Glamerotica101.
She is also a ACS Certified Sexologist and Authentic Tantra Practitioner through the Institute of Authentic Tantra.
Find out more about her work at http://sexperttyomi.com/.
Generally, foreplay is known as ‘sexual activity during the lead up to sex’ or ‘things that get you in the mood’.
But what is sex and why doesn’t it include the lead up?
When does foreplay end and sex begin?
Foreplay can mean lots of different things to different people, so I’ll be covering what falls into the ‘generic foreplay’ category, how creating different categories of sexual acts can be damaging, my own definition of foreplay and when I think it should happen (hint – it’s not always before!).
Often, when the term 'foreplay' gets thrown around, it's sold as ‘something that comes before "actual" sex’ (i.e. a penis penetrating a vagina – thanks heteronormative school sex-ed). So for a long time, I assumed it to be kissing, cuddling and hands/mouth on genitals.
I know this experience isn't uncommon, and I know that to a lot of people, that's what foreplay is.
We're over halfway through October, which can mean only one thing: Halloween is almost here!
And whether you've been counting down the days since last November 1st, or you're locking the doors and hunkering down to avoid trick-or-treaters, one thing's for sure: the internet is brimming with sexy Halloween costume possibilities.
We've packed our new Halloween shop full of flirty costumes and spooky-style toys, but how can a night associated with ghouls, ghosts, and wee demon beasties be erotic?
We're glad you asked.
Here, we've collected our favourite Halloween-esque role play scenarios to take your night from frightful to delightful (without a drop of fake blood in sight).
Don’t forget, before any role play, it’s always a good idea to agree on a safe word with your partner so that if things get too intense, you can cease play immediately.
If your significant other is the proud owner of a penis, it can be tempting to make foreplay all about oral sex – and it's easy to see why.
Blow jobs are fantastic. They are a huge turn-on for loads of men and after a sensational blow job, there's a good chance that any penetrative sex will last even longer and be more satisfying for both of you.
But man can not live on blow-jobs alone! Well, you could give it a damn good try, but just like anything you do all the time, it might get a little... samey.
Here are 5 other foreplay moves that are sure to drive him wild.