In the 21st century, pornography and erotica are never more than a Google search away.
For as long as the internet has existed people have used it to find porn, and the availability and range of content means that online porn and erotica seem to be most people's preferred way of getting in the mood.
But looking at porn isn't the only way to turn yourself on. There are lots of ways to get yourself excited without any need for your favorite adult website.
Tumblr's ban on pornographic content at the end of 2018 got me thinking about some of these alternative ways to turn yourself on.
Here are some of my suggestions for when you're on your own and ready to get a little raunchy...
Giving head, eating out, tossing the salad - whatever you call cunnilingus, fellatio and anilingus, one thing's for sure: oral sex is an unbelievably satisfying, intimate act.
Unsurprisingly, people have been doing it since history began. In the city of Pompeii, which was buried by the eruption of Mount Vesuvius in 79 AD, erotic frescoes depict people doing it, while the Kama Sutra suggests some tricky tongue fun positions.
And the Victorians were a pretty creative bunch when it came to describing oral – from "prick eating", to "minetting" and "eating seafood".
But despite the fact it's been around for years, even the most enthusiastic "lick-spigot" probably has a few questions and hang-ups about oral sex.
So, we thought we'd put all our tips together to bring you one big guide!
This year, make the most of your Valentine’s celebrations by extending them an extra couple of days. You won’t have to escape to Paris or book an expensive hotel to have your sexiest weekend ever - you can have just as much fun (if not more) exploring with your partner in your bedroom at home.
If you’re new to the wonderful world of sex toys, broaching the subject of adding something new to bedroom play can be somewhat tricky. Some partners might feel inadequate for your needs, judged by their interests or not really understand the benefits of sex toys yet.
A great way to open the discussion is to ask your lover if you can do anything to make sex better for them, or talk to them about activities you find arousing during masturbation to help them to open up.
We've broken down the four stages of exploring sex toys within your relationship to make it easy for you. Just work out which level you're at now, and follow our guidelines for what and how to try something new.
Most importantly, always respect your partner's wishes and never be offended if there's something they really don't want to try.
Dr. Adam Sheck is a licensed psychologist, couples counselor, relationship coach, and sex therapist and has been in practice for over 25 years, supporting couples and singles in connecting to their passion and purpose.
An MIT graduate and engineer, he pursued a doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology later in life. His reputation as the "Passion Doctor" came early in his career when he discovered his gift for supporting long-term, committed couples reignite their romance, intimacy, sexuality, and passion.
He's also coupled his engineering skills with his psychotherapy and counseling skills to create multiple websites and teleseminars to support people with their personal trust issues online.
Dr. Sheck's practice is based in Los Angeles and he currently works with clients all over the world through telephone and Skype. Find out more about his work at thepassiondoctor.com.