Even if we don’t like to admit it, lots of people still think of foreplay as the process leading up to the ‘main event’ of penetration – and the male orgasm. Foreplay is considered expendable, a luxury that can be enjoyed on a lazy Sunday afternoon but is often omitted during a weekday quickie.
Not only is this attitude towards foreplay old-fashioned, but it’s also overly heteronormative. There’s nothing wrong with a quickie, but I think it’s time that we acknowledge the importance of foreplay and stop considering it ‘lesser’ than penetrative sex.
As a big believer in the importance of foreplay, here are my 6 reasons why we should all be focusing less on the big O and more on the big F.