Marie Kondo wants us to surround ourselves with things that spark joy. Why not take it a step further and surround yourself with things that bring you sexual pleasure?
I'm proud of my sexuality so I absolutely love to display my toy collection – it reminds me how much I love myself and how powerful my pleasure is. If you're like me, but wanting to keep things a little more discreet than a veiny suction-cup dildo stuck on your mirror or a hot pink rabbit vibrator demanding focus on a shelf, this list is for you.
A reminder! If you're keeping your toys out on display, it's important to keep them away from anything that gets hot (like a window) and clean them well before and after use!
If there was ever a time to send yourself a sexy self-care package, it's now.
It can be tempting to only make time to pamper the lovers in our lives, and this can lead us to neglecting ourselves.
Self-neglect? We're not here for it! So, here are some basic steps to compiling a sensual self-care package.
A married couple from Scotland, Alex and Louise met on a night out in Edinburgh 11 years ago. Although the relationship has changed a lot over the years, they are just as much in love today as they were back then. Unfortunately a car accident six years ago has left them both in chronic pain.
They hope by talking about the issues they face and how they might overcome them, it might help others in a similar situation. Here, Alex talks about being autistic and in a long-term relationship.
"For most of my life I felt out of place, like a puzzle piece that just doesn't fit. It wasn't until a few years ago that I finally understood the reason why.
I always knew I was different, that was pretty obvious if I am honest. I went to a school for children with learning difficulties but it wasn't until I was much older that I discovered the cause.
When a friend first suggested I was autistic, I was sceptical to say the least but I can't deny he was right."
Sex and relaxation go hand-in-hand, right? When we're relaxed it's easy to get in the mood for sex, and when sex is on the table (both literally and figuratively) we feel relaxed.
If only it were that simple! Sometimes we feel too stressed out to have sex, and sometimes the thought of having sex itself can be what stresses us out.
But that's where Lovehoney comes in – we're here to help you on both fronts! Let's show you how sex can help you relax, and how you can relax enough for sex.
This month I did something that I never in my wildest fantasies thought I would ever do – and that something was trying the ElectraStim EM60-E Flick Single Output Stimulator and ElectraPads Set (and no, that isn't a lesser-known Star Wars character) in conjunction with the ElectraStim Lula Noir Silicone Kegel Balls with E-Stim.
Prior to test driving ElectraStim's wares, I knew next to nothing about the Electro Sex toys available on the Lovehoney website. I knew they were sex toys, and I knew electricity was somehow involved. That was it! Now, after experiencing both products, my interest in Electro Sex toys has been well and truly sparked!
It's not that I never thought I'd try the Clone-A-Willy Vibrator Molding Kit, it's more that I just never knew that this erotic DIY project existed.
When I found out that this sex toy meant you could you make a vibrating carbon copy of your lover's penis, my mind was blown. This is what I'd been looking for all these years!
I've always found penetrative toys kind of intimidating and it usually takes me a while to warm up to them. But as soon as I found out about Clone-A-Willy, I was cheering! Forget feeling uncertain about whether a toy was going to feel good or not. I was going to have a vibrating dildo modelled on my most favourite peen in the world.
When I'm not getting him to tie me up and assemble an over-the-door sex swing, I'm asking him to replicate his penis. What a lucky man he is.
What I never learned about the clitoris in sex ed is enough to fill multiple books.
Looking back, it’s no wonder I didn’t have an orgasm until I was 21. Historically, sex education has mainly focused on how we reproduce as human beings and how to avoid becoming a young parent. This may be a big part of why the clitoris has been so overlooked in the classroom.
The clitoris is the only organ in the body with the sole purpose of providing pleasure. That’s it. That’s its only function. So, it’s no surprise that the clitoris hasn’t been covered in sex education classes that are only concerned with the best ways to prevent a pregnancy.
When you’re concentrating teaching a class on the egg and the sperm, the clit doesn’t really enter into it – but should it? The clitoris plays a crucial role in sex and masturbation, so if your high school sex ed classes didn’t leave you any wiser we’ve got six facts ready to kick-start your clitoral education.
I can say with utter confidence that I never thought I'd try a pussy pump. For one thing, I've never spoken to anyone who has owned one. My friends and I have spoken about which vibrators are the quietest and which toys are best for starting to explore anal play, but no one in my social circle has ever brought up the topic of pussy pumps.
Because pussy pumps were completely foreign to me, I had always found the look of them kind of intimidating. I'd only ever seen them in sex shops, and they'd always been large and black in colour, with explicit imagery on the box.
Despite these trepidations, I decided to try out a pussy pump for Lovehoney’s new ‘Sex Toys I Never Thought I’d Try’ series. It seemed unfair to keep knocking this kind of sex toy if I’d never actually tried it.
It wasn’t long before the postman left a plain brown package on my doorstep. There wasn't a single clue on the parcel to suggest what was inside, but I knew my Lovehoney Supreme Sensation Pussy Pump had arrived!
As we as a society become more sex positive, so too do the TV shows we watch!
There are many factors that can qualify a TV show as a sexually happy one.
Some of our criteria is as follows: The show tackles taboo topics like female masturbation. The experience of LGBTQI+ individuals is shown. The importance of consent and safe sex is stressed. The show calls out those who engage in ‘slut shaming’ or are homophobic.
We’ve tirelessly trawled through the vast number of programs on Netflix (what a hardship, haha) and found 4 sexually happy shows that you can binge on now.
Ok, so you're probably aware of your own erogenous zones by now – those super-sensitive sweet spots that beg to be stroked, teased and touched.
Our lips, fingers and other areas of our body are pretty adept when it comes to arousing our, or someone else's, ohhh-zones.
But what if we told you that a toy could take things to a whole new level, adding a whole bunch of new textures and sensations to the mix?
We asked award-winning sex therapist and relationship specialist Chantelle Otten which sex toys she recommends when exploring our erogenous zones.