How to Achieve an Anal Orgasm:
Expert Tips for Ultimate Pleasure

What is an Anal Orgasm?

The backdoor is the great equalizer. After all, everybody has a butt, and no matter who you are your backdoor is a treasure trove of nerve endings that can be stimulated to orgasm. Yes, an anal orgasm is possible for people of all bodies and all genitals. The anus itself is full of feel-good nerves. The pudendal nerve being particularly important because it’s a major nerve in the pelvic area. If you’re a vagina owner, the pudendal nerve carries sensation to your vagina, labia, and clitoris. And if you’re a penis owner, this nerve carries sensations to the penis and scrotum. It also helps control muscles for erection and ejaculation. So basically stimulating this nerve during anal sex can help stimulate all the closest pleasurable erogenous zones to help you reach orgasm. Anal sex used to be, the butt of jokes about gay men but now people are realizing the pleasure potential and becoming more open to exploring their backdoor and reaching their full pleasure potential no matter their sexual orientation or gender identity.

But isn’t it painful and dirty?

There are a lot of myths and misconceptions about anal sex. With anal, it may seem like there are more myths out there than others. Maybe because anal is considered more taboo, but also more accessible since everyone has a butt to explore. Just remember that it’s totally normal to explore your anus, and have questions about anal sex. The bottom line about anal sex is it’s perfectly normal and enjoyable, and can be perfectly safe when done right. Anal sex should never hurt, and if you feel any pain you just need to adjust something. That could be adding more lubricant, using a smaller toy, or changing positions. Let go of the archaic belief that sex is all about making sure the top has a good time regardless of the receiver's comfort level.

Another common concern about anal exploration is that it’s dirty. But no one should be concerned because everybody poops. Douching, or the act of rinsing your anal canal prior to sex, is something many people have done for decades as a prep for anal. But, just because many have previously done it, doesn’t mean that douching is a requirement. It’s 100% a personal choice; even the most thorough douchers will have rouge poop remnants show up from time to time. Just laugh it off, and move on, because unless your partner is a douche, they shouldn’t be upset.

Prostate Orgasm vs. Anal Orgasm: What's the Difference?

There are many ways to achieve pleasure during anal sex. The prostate isn’t the only feel-good nerves in the backdoor. The anus itself is full of blood vessels and nerves that make it feel good for some people. An anal orgasm can feel like a localized wave of pleasure or pulses of pleasurable contractions around the anal sphincter. The g-spot can also be indirectly stimulated during anal sex. All you need to do is find a good angle during anal sex so you can stimulate the G-spot as the anterior vaginal wall is pushed. If you’re a penis owner, the prostate is a walnut-sized gland that sits behind the bladder and creates semen, and controls ejaculation. It's very sensitive, and many people enjoy putting direct or indirect pressure on it during sex to create a pleasurable sensation that can lead to more powerful and intense orgasms. People have described prostate orgasms as full-body experiences and a deeper sense of release, and orgasmic responses and muscle contractions that resonate further in the body. But keep in mind, no two orgasms are alike, and don't get too caught up in anticipating the sensations in advance and just enjoy exploring and figuring out your preferences.

Discovering the "A-Spot"

Playing around with penetration depth, as well as pressure versus thrusting can help figure out exactly what kind of stimulation is most enjoyable since everyone will have different preferences. The A-spot and G-spot are both found on the front wall of the vagina. However, the A-spot is deeper than the G-spot. A popular way to stimulate the backdoor is to apply pressure to A-Spot. Which is an erogenous area that sits deeper in the vagina at the top, between the cervix and the bladder in vulva owners, and can be stimulated from the backdoor as well. The A-spot may also help vulva owners orgasm, but its primary function can produce significant lubrication, making everything else more pleasurable.

Putting pressure on the front wall of the rectum, several inches in can stimulate the A-spot. Pressure and pulsing in one place rather than continual thrusting can help some people achieve orgasm. Some people find that rubbing the spot in small, pressured circles helps. Experimenting is the best bet since everyone will have different preferences.

What Does an Anal Orgasm Feel Like For Me?

As you get closer to climax, your backdoor will start feeling ramped-up pleasurable sensations. It’s been described by many as a buildup of pressure that turns into pulsation-like waves. Some folks will say the orgasm feels deeper in the body, or more localized to the anus. However, everyone is different and will experience the sensations and climax differently. This is why it's important to take your time to explore and figure out your preferences and not rush anything.

How to Achieve an Anal Orgasm Through Solo Play

Cleanliness, Preparation, and Relaxation for Everyone

The good news is your body is designed to keep poop high up in your rectum until it’s time to have a bowel movement. So at worst, you’ll come into contact with some poop remnants. So listening to your body, and making sure you poop first to clear your bowels before anal sex is usually enough to keep your sheets clean. A good wash in the bath or shower should take care of any residual mess. If you’re still concerned, about poop showing up uninvited you can always douche and make sure you’re completely clear. But ultimately it’s not necessary, but if doing it makes you feel more comfortable, go for it! Then you can set up the environment to be comfortable and stress-free. Then with clean hands and trimmed nails you can ease into it. Trimmed nails are important so you don’t give sensitive tissue cuts or scratches. Go slow, use your fingers to warm up by rubbing the outside of the sphincter then you’ll be able to ease into penetration when you’re ready.

Lubrication and Warm-Up for Everyone

With all things anal, lubrication is an important detail. To keep things slippery lube is necessary because, unlike the vagina, the anus does not self-lubricate. Without lube, you’ll feel friction that won’t feel good, and may also cause small tears inside the anal canal. While these might not be serious sex injuries, they're not comfortable and pleasure is supposed to be the goal. Just make sure to avoid lube with numbing agents. Numbing your backdoor not only means you won't experience any of the pleasure, but it also means you won't feel any pain until it's too late. Thicker textured lubricants are great for anal because they put a nicer cushion on toys, fingers, etc, and last longer than a lubricant with a thinner texture. However, silicone lube is best since it doesn’t get absorbed into the skin and stays slippery the longest. Just make sure not to use your silicone lube with your silicone toy.

Solo Anal Orgasm Tips for Penis Owners

When the prostate is stimulated, the sympathetic nerves activate which can result in a powerful climax. Basically, all you need to know is that it feels really good when stimulated, and you can have a really powerful orgasm. You can stimulate the prostate in a few ways. The most effective way to start exploring direct stimulation which is done by gently inserting a finger about two inches into the rectum and curling your fingers towards the belly button making a “come hither” motion. Now is when it’s particularly important to make sure your nails are trimmed and filed, and that your hands are clean or you’ll want to use a glove. The last thing you want is to scratch the inside of someone's butt with your nails. You can also indirectly stimulate the prostate by pressing on the perineum, or pushing the root of the penis gently but firmly into the body. Or, you can give a prostate massager a try. These are curved anal-safe sex toys specifically designed to go in your rear end and stimulate your prostate.

Solo Anal Orgasm Tips for Vulva Owners

Even without a prostate to help reach orgasm, there are still a few ways to stimulate the backdoor pleasurably for people with a vulva which can lead to orgasm via their butt. Since there are many sensitive nerves around the anus, stimulating that feels amazing and can lead to orgasm. The pudendal nerve is near the sphincter which is why licking the backdoor, or rimming feels so good. Since the wall between the front door and back door are so thin, both the G-spot and A-spot can be stimulated through the rectum. The G-spot and A-spot are both on the front wall of the vagina. However, the G-spot is lower, while the A-spot is higher and closer to the cervix. For all stimulation, it's good practice to work into it slowly. Ideally, begin with external stimulation around the anus, then you can work up to penetration with a finger or small finger-sized toys. Adding layers of stimulation by adding clitoral stimulation, direct g-spot stimulation, nipple play, etc, can also amp up sensations and make orgasm easier and more intense. Once the receiving partner is comfortable and enjoying the stimulation from whatever sex toy and/or fingers, then you can think about inserting your penis. Of course, all of this includes a lot of lube because the backdoor doesn’t self-lubricate.

How to Achieve an Anal Orgasm with a Partner

Tips for Givers

Communication will be one of the most important aspects of coupled anal sex. Ideally listening twice as much as you talk, respecting your partner’s boundaries, and ongoing consent being a requirement. After that lubricant will make things go smoothly because the anus doesn’t self-lubricate and adding lubricant will reduce friction and eliminate pain. Once your partner feels relaxed and ready, start with your tongue or finger to gently stimulate the outside of the anus. When you feel they’re aroused enough and ready for penetration you can ease a finger or small plug inside. The muscles should relax and open up naturally so the object can go inside. If you have to force it, your partner probably isn’t ready.

Tips for Receivers

Exploring solo before bringing a partner into a mix can help you figure out your preferences so you can better communicate them to your partner. This can involve practicing with a butt plug or a small smooth dildo to ascertain what type of stimulation works for you. You might prefer penetration, like inserting a finger or a butt plug. Maybe you don’t like the feeling of anything being inserted, but a vibrator around the anal opening is your jam. There’s no one right way to go about exploring your backdoor. Then get relaxed and turned on to get properly prepped. Getting warmed up can involve watching porn, a massage, sexy music, or any activity that gets you aroused. Unfortunately, your partner isn’t a mind-reader so you’ll have to tell them if you need more lube, less pressure, a different position, etc. Then it’s up to them to listen to your instructions. Everyone is different with what they need so you might need to experiment with different toys, depths, techniques, and even textures of lubricants until you find the right combination to maximize your pleasure. Enjoy the journey and all the pleasure you’ll experience along the way.

Techniques for Stronger Anal Orgasms

What’s better than one orgasm? Two orgasms at the same time! How do you go about achieving that? Stimulating multiple erogenous zones at once and aiming for a blended orgasm basically means that you mean you’re having simultaneous orgasms. Popular ways to achieve blended orgasm are anal stimulation and adding clitoral or penial stimulation since those are the most common ways people achieve orgasm. But there are plenty of other erogenous zones so experiment and see what you enjoy most with backdoor stimulation, it might be nipple play, g-spot stimulation, or even some toe sucking! Even adding vibration to your backdoor exploration can kick it up a notch. The vibrations reverberate throughout your body, which can lead to full-body orgasms, versus more localized orgasms. Most vibrating toys offer a variety of settings, from a gentle hum to more mind-blowing intensity. Vibration can also help muscles relax and help add more blood flow which makes everything more intense.

One simple way to improve your pleasure is through various breathing techniques that can help to manage stress and anxiety and improve mindfulness. For anyone who struggles with staying present for pleasure, breathwork can help you to relax into your experience and feel deeper sensations of pleasure. It may feel a bit weird at first, but then everything will start to feel good and intensify all the sensations.

Using Sex Toys for Anal Orgasms

Sex toys can make exploring the backdoor even easier since they can help you reach an area you might not have as much access to because of flexibility or logistics. They also can offer lots of sensations outside of just penetration. Butt plugs can range from small as a finger to large as a fist and help the user get used to the feeling of fullness and penetration. Anal beads can actually enhance an orgasm when pulled out during climax since they can intensify the muscle contracts of an orgasm. Prostate massagers are great for applying firm pressure since they’re typically curved and firm to reach the prostate and literally massage it. Which is the kind of stimulation the prostate typically prefers. You can even think outside of the typical anal toys and get a flicking tongue toy if the sensation you enjoy most is a tongue teasing your anus. That’s why exploring your preferences if helpful, and trying a bunch of different sensations because you never know what you’ll prefer. Just in terms of girth don’t let your eyes be bigger than your hole. If you know one finger is what you typically take, then that's the girth of the toys you should be checking out.

Best Positions for Achieving an Anal Orgasm

Doggy Style

When you’re on all fours it provides ideal access to your backdoor. To make it more comfortable try adding a pillow under the receiver for added support,

Spooning

Spooning can be a great option for anal since both partners are more likely to be comfortable and relaxed. The little spoon can make penetration easier by pulling your legs slightly toward your upper body. This position also makes it easier to use a vibrator at the same time.

Modified Missionary

This position is great for folks looking for intimacy since you can gaze into each other's eyes. Just keep in mind some people may not be flexible enough to comfortably enjoy this position. Place the soles of your feet against the top's shoulders so that you can push back and release according to your preferences. This position also allows easy access to the genitals for added stimulation.

Safety Recommendations & Tips for Anal Play

Any toy you use must have a flared base. The backdoor just keeps going, so you’ll need to make sure the toys you use won’t get sucked in too deep. Anal sex without lubrication can be painful and lead to anal tearing, which isn't going to help you climax. Using lube helps lubricate the area and makes the whole experience feel better. You can add lube to the anus and penis or sex toy, whatever you prefer that feels good. After that go slow and listen to your body. Then all you need to do is experiment. Anal play that feels good can occur with an anal vibrator, plug, beads, a penis or dildo, fingers, rimming, or whatever your heart desires.

Conclusion

For pleasurable anal sex, all you need is relaxation, communication, and lubrication. Then you can explore all the different sensations there is available to you so you can figure out your preferences and expand your pleasure. Keep an open mind and who knows how much pleasure you’ll unlock from adding your backdoor to your pleasure routine? There’s no wrong way to explore as long as consent is involved and your toys have a flared based on them.