1. Bondage

    Discover the daring delights of tie-up-and-tease bondage play. Whether you're a bondage beginner or a Shibari expert, we have a full range of handcuffs and restraints, as well as spankers, ticklers and floggers for painful pleasure. Read our Bondage & BDSM Guides for expert advice on safe, sexy play.

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    Common questions about bondage

    1. What is bondage?

      In sex play, bondage is the act of restraining a partner for sexual pleasure.

    2. What is sensory play?

      Sensory play is as it sounds: play which makes use of your partner’s senses to heighten arousal.

      During bondage play, it’s often what is done to the restrained partner once they’re bound. This can be anything from kisses and strokes, to using sex toys or other bondage toys, like feather ticklers, spankers or nipple clamps.

    3. What is BDSM?

      BDSM is an all-inclusive term given to any sexual behaviour that might be considered 'kinky'.

      Pain, physical restraint and servitude would be frowned upon in a non-sexual scenario. In BDSM circles, however, these practices are engaged in with the consent of both people involved for mutual satisfaction and excitement. Bondage and sensory play fall under the category of BDSM.

      BDSM can be split into three major areas, or six different 'acts':

      B&D - Bondage and Discipline
      D&S - Domination and Submission
      S&M - Sadism and Masochism

      Learn more about the definitions for these pairings.

    4. Why do people like bondage?

      There are many reasons why someone might be turned on by bondage. During this kind of play, there is a power dynamic that takes place, with one partner taking the control (the ‘Dominant’ or ‘Dom’) and one person relinquishing control (the ‘submissive’ or ‘sub’).

      Just as many people get a kick out of other fantasy roleplay, the Dom/sub dynamic can be an exciting one to explore.

      All sex play requires trust between the people who are playing together, but never is this more true than when testing your body’s boundaries, like during bondage.

      Discovering bondage play within a relationship can be a wonderful way to bring you closer and enhance trust, which continues on much further than the bedroom.

    5. Is there beginner-friendly bondage?

      Yes! It’s a common misconception that all bondage is hardcore, painful or that you need your own personal dungeon and set of stocks to try it.

      While bondage absolutely can be the above, everyone starts somewhere. This means there are several levels of bondage gear and much of it is for gentle, super-sensual, romantic play.

      Whether you use soft bondage gear as a stepping stone to more advanced play, or your stay within that comfort zone forever, is entirely up to you and your partner.

      To help you get started, we have an entire category of products dedicated to Bondage for Beginners.

    6. What sort of toys should I use for first-time bondage?

      To begin with, we recommend starting with a blindfold. A blindfold is the perfect balance between restraint and sensory play. By nature, an eye mask restricts vision (restraint). The result? The wearer’s whole body responds by becoming extra sensitive to other sensory input, including sounds, smells and touch.

      Explore your blindfolded partner with strokes, kisses and licks to take advantage of their newly responsive skin.

      Want to add more toys? A feather tickler makes an ideal first sensory tool, and some soft Velcro-fastened wrist cuffs enhance restraint without being overwhelming for beginners.

    7. Why do people like spanking?

      Undoubtedly one of the most well known kinds of sensory play, spanking provides many of the same psychological turn ons as bondage, and is often used to reinforce a power dynamic in the bedroom.

      As well as the power dynamic and roleplay-enhancing benefits of spanking, anticipation is a big psychological thrill. For many, it’s less the spanks themselves, and more the spaces in between each spank that heightens excitement.

      Physically, when spanking hits just the right spot, it sends vibrations through erogenous zones like the genitals, and also helps to draw circulation to the surface of the skin. This makes the spanked area more sensitive to the surrounding skin: a perfect opportunity for following up with gentle play with a feather tickler or pinwheel.

      For first time spanking, we recommend using nothing more than your hand, but if you like that and want to bring a spanking toy into the mix, the best place to start would be with a broad, slightly flexible spanking paddle or a mini flogger.

      Learn how to spank properly with this guide.

    8. Does bondage play hurt?

      Only if you want it to.

      The actual bindings (handcuffs, rope etc) should never hurt (if they do, they’re too tight), but the sensory play you explore once bound can transition through a range of sensations: from gentle kisses, feather-light strokes and sensual massage to hot wax play, pinching clamps and stingy spanks that’ll make your eyes water (and everything in between).

      How far you push your sensory boundaries and what sort of sensations you decide to try together is completely personal and something which should be agreed upon before play.

    9. Is bondage safe?

      Yes! But just like all sex play, there are rules you should abide by to make sure you both have the best possible time.

      Bondage play comes with slightly more stringent rules, simply because of the nature of the play: one of you is restrained and less able bodied, and are therefore relying on your partner for your safety. Rules include never leaving a restrained partner alone (even for a moment), always setting up a safe word, and never binding someone too tightly.

      Read more about bondage safety, and why you need a safe word.

    10. What is a sex swing?

      A sex swing is a type of position enhancer which lifts one partner off the ground and into is an optimum position for sex. Depending on the style of swing, the partner could be suspended from the ceiling or from the top of a household door.

      If you don’t necessarily want to try feet-off-the ground sex, you can try other position enhancers such as Liberator sex cushions or position straps which offer extra support during sex, so you and your partner can maintain and enjoy your favorite sex positions for longer.

      Learn more about sex swings and position enhancers.

    11. Want to know more about Bondage?

      Our expert and customer care team are available 24/7, 7 days a week to answer your queries. All our advisors are trained and fully qualified sexual happiness experts, so you can ask them absolutely anything about bondage.

      You can contact us via phone, live chat or email.

    12. Read Bondage reviews by Lovehoney customers

      There are over 230,000 reviews on the Lovehoney website, all from our customers.

      Each product page clearly shows how many reviews that bondage product has received and what average star rating customers have given it out of 5.

      These reviews can help you find the right bondage toy for you - and don’t forget to submit your own review once you’ve tried out your new toy!

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      • Average Review 8/10
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      • Average Review 9/10
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      • Bondage Boutique Soft Collar and Leash

      • Average Review 9/10
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