BDSM Collars & Leashes

BDSM collars make a seductive statement. Enjoy a comfy padded submissive collar or a bondage collar attached to restraint systems - Lovehoney’s BDSM collar collection boasts extensive options. Shop our collars for BDSM to take the lead on kinky fun.

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What Is a BDSM Collar?

A BDSM collar is a type of fetishwear worn around a submissive’s neck that symbolizes a Dominant’s ownership of them. BDSM lifestyle practitioners such as those in a 24/7 Dom/sub [D/s] dynamic place heavy significance on BDSM collars and the act of collaring, almost akin to that of a promise or engagement ring.

Collars in BDSM aren’t always a signifier of commitment, though. Some choose to wear a fetish collar as a kinky fashion statement and plenty of kink-inclined couples use submissive collars as a functional sex accessory for bondage play without attaching any further meaning to the item or the act of wearing one.

How much, if any, symbolic power a BDSM collar holds is entirely up to the wearer and their play partner. Talk to your significant other about what BDSM collars mean to you as individuals and to your relationship before collaring your submissive or donning a collar yourself.

A bondage collar generally includes one or more restraint attachment points for leashes, cuffs, and even nipple clamps. There are many styles of collars for BDSM, and picking and choosing the right one can be a very intimate bonding opportunity or even an arousal-boosting activity for couples.

Different Types of Sex Collars

BDSM chokers are bondage accessories worn around a sub’s neck that showcase their commitment to their Dom. Collars in BDSM display not only ownership but also the level of commitment between a sub and Dom.

Consideration and training collars, for instance, are worn during a trial period within a D/s relationship when a potential couple is assessing their compatibility. Once a pair commits to one another fully, a submissive will trade out their temporary BDSM choker for a protection collar. One step further than protection collars are permanent collars, which signify the highest level of commitment in a BDSM relationship.

D/s couples may also use a bondage collar to improve posture or otherwise enhance play sessions. Play collars are for sexual gratification rather than symbolism, typically worn during BDSM scenes and kink events. The most important component of play collars is their compatibility with bondage accessories like BDSM leashes and wrist cuffs.

How to Choose a Bondage Collar

Comfort, purpose, and style should be significant deciding factors when choosing between BDSM collars. Consider the following points to find your neck’s (or your sub’s neck’s) match in kinky heaven.

Size

Collar size can impact comfort, fit, and functionality. Almost all collars for BDSM are adjustable in length, but you should check the dimensions to ensure it’s long enough for your specific measurements.

Bondage collar height, on the other hand, is simply a matter of preference. Taller collars can improve posture but tend to be less comfortable than narrow ones.

Bondage Points

Consider what types of bondage accessories, and how many, you’d like to incorporate in collar play. The prototypical BDSM collar features a single D-ring or O-ring in the center, generally for use with sex leashes.

The more bondage points on a submissive collar, the more opportunities for restraint and S&M. For instance, you can also attach nipple clamps or wrist cuffs to a BDSM choker’s restraint points.

Closures

The most common closure types for bondage collars are Velcro and buckles, respectively.

Velcro closures aid in easy application and removal, making them a good option for quickies. A BDSM collar with a Velcro closure may also ease a submissive’s mind if they’re new to this type of play.

Buckle fasteners provide a more secure hold, preventing collars from falling off mid-scene. Putting on buckled submissive collars is more time-consuming, making the application process almost ritualistic if desired.

Each fastener type in a collar for BDSM has pros and cons, so discuss which aspects matter most to you and your partner before making a decision.

Aesthetics

A collar can help you express your personal style just as much as any vanilla accessory would. Fetishwear enthusiasts can find submissive collars in almost every color, pattern, and material on the planet. Look around and find a bondage choker style that speaks to your tastes.

Discretion is also an important aspect to consider in bondage collar styles. Are you looking to stand out at your local dungeon? Try out a holographic collar or one embellished with crystals! Want to wear your collar full-time without arousing suspicion in vanilla groups? Choose a thin, delicate collar or one made of lace that can pass as a standard fashionable choker.

Sex Collars & Leashes FAQs

The most common reasons people wear BDSM collars are for symbolism, sexual gratification, style, or a combination of those motives. The easiest way to assess someone’s reasoning for wearing a submissive collar is from what terminology they use. Those donning collars to display commitment are likely to refer to their submissive collar as a training, consideration, protection, or permanent collar. Vanilla folk wearing collars as a fashion statement will probably identify their accessory as a choker rather than using the word ‘collar.’

While it’s far less common to find Dominants sporting bondage collars than for submissives to wear them, the practice doesn’t go against any “rules” in the kink community. A Dom may include BDSM collars in their attire as a fashionable fetishwear statement or for more significant personal reasons.