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Javay Frye-Nekrasova

Masters of Education, Sex Education

Javay Frye-Nekrasova, also known as Javay da BAE, MEd, or The Millennial Sexpert, is a sex educator, content creator, pleasure professional, academic, and media personality. As a sex educator, her work focuses on comprehensive, inclusive, accessible sex education for all. Her areas of expertise are pleasure, communication, and sex toys. She is currently earning a PhD in Human Sexuality from the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco, CA and a second PhD in Communication & Media Studies at the University of Oregon in Eugene, OR. Her research focuses on sex work, kink/BDSM, porn, and media’s influence on one’s understandings and beliefs about sexuality. Javay provides sex education via YouTube and Instagram her digital series In Bed With a Millennial.


  • Masters of Education from Widener University
  • Certified Sex Educator

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