Beginner’s Guide to Bondage Collars

A bondage collar is much more than an edgy fashion accessory. In this guide we show you how to use one to enhance restraint play.

Collars are the ultimate visual symbol of submission and control. They are often worn in the bedroom (or fetish club) by submissive partners to indicate their position.

If you’re in the market for your first bondage collar, then you’ve come to the right place. In this guide we’ll talk you through what you need to consider before making your purchase and how to get the most from your collar, in a safe and sexy way.

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Why do people use Bondage Collars?

Some people enjoy collars purely for their aesthetic quality, but there are plenty of reasons to add a collar to your playbox.

  1. Wearing a collar with lingerie is an easy way to add fetish glamour to your look.
  2. Some collars feature O-rings or D-rings, which allow you to attach your favourite bondage accessories.
  3. Bondage collars are perfect for role play scenarios, like puppy play. Attach a leash for even better doggy style realness.
  4. Bondage collars with O-rings are perfect for attaching wrist or even ankle cuffs, for full body restraint.
  5. Putting the collar onto your lover is an incredibly intimate and dominant act, one which serves perfectly as BDSM foreplay.

Different types of Bondage Collar

The range of collars out there is huge. Lovehoney has such a fantastic variety, that you may just struggle to make a final decision.

The best place to start is by considering what you want to use your collar for. You may want it for role play, or you might be a fan of school-style discipline. Either way, you’ll want a collar that fits the scene and the mood.

Here is an easy overview of the main types of collar on the market:

O-ring collars

Versatile and easy to use, these are often fitted with buckles or Velcro fastenings at the back, with an attached O-ring or D-ring to the front. This allows you to attach cuffs, leashes or rope for a suitably submissive look and feel.

Try: Bondage Boutique Advanced Deluxe Leather Collar

Clamp and collar

A clamp and collar set is a great way to experiment with the more fetish-driven side of collar wearing.

Attached to the collar are a series of chains with nipple or clit clamps at the end. These restrict movement of both the neck and body.

Try: DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Collar with Nipple Clamps

Leash and collar

Although we sell collars and leashes separately, there are some products that come with the two together.

If you’re planning on some ‘obedient puppy and proud owner’ play, then buying a matching set is ideal and saves a lot of hassle.

Try: Bondage Boutique Intermediate Faux Leather Collar and Leash

Finding the perfect fit

Getting your collar to fit perfectly depends on two factors: measuring and fastening.

Before you buy a collar, use a flexible tape measure (like the ones tailors use) to figure out the circumference of your neck around the widest part. This will normally be around an inch above your collarbone and this is where the lower part of the collar will sit.

Take a note of this measurement and compare it to the maximum and minimum sizes on the product page. If your neck measurement fits comfortably within the sizes listed, this is the collar for you.

If your size is not listed on the product page or you are barely within the sizes mentioned, it might be better to err on the side of caution and find something that gives a better fit.

Choosing the right material

Leather is a popular choice for collars because it’s durable, long-lasting and smells fantastic. A genuine leather collar like the DOMINIX Deluxe Heavy Leather Collar is perfect for anyone who loves the luxurious feel of leather against their skin.

However, some people find the stiffness of real leather quite claustrophobic. Similarly, if you’re vegan, then leather might be the biggest turn off possible. In that case, faux leather options like the Bondage Boutique Intermediate Faux Leather Collar and Leash are ideal.

How to wear a collar safely

Once you have ordered your brilliant bondage collar, it’s time to fasten it correctly. Whether your collar uses Velcro, buckles or poppers, it’s important to ensure that it fits comfortably and safely.

Fasten your collar in front of a mirror or, better yet, get a partner to do it for you.

Your head should be upright and facing forwards and your neck should be straight. Once you have wrapped it around, tighten the collar slowly, making sure that you can still breathe and swallow.

When you think you have the tightness right, try to slip two fingers under the collar all the way around. If you are unable to do this, then your collar is too tight.

Never over-tighten a collar, make sure that you stop as soon as you feel any discomfort. It could just be the collar chafing, which can be resolved by applying a little moisturiser to the neck, or it could be indicative of something more serious.

Do not pull sharply on any collar or leash. Although you may think that your sub can handle it, a strong tug can cause serious damage and even lead to whiplash.

Always remember and use your safe word when needed. It could be the difference between a fabulous BDSM experience and a terrible one.

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