How to Use a Dildo

Discover the full lengths, breadths, and depths of dildo-tastic delight with our expert guide on the best way to use a dildo.

Dildos are designed to provide internal satisfaction unlike anything else. There’s a huge variety of colors, shapes, and sizes to stimulate all the right spots - when you know how to.

Metal, glass, real-feel, PVC, silicone, plastic, curved, straight, wavy, or even molded from your favorite real-life dong: dildos are ultra-versatile and there’s definitely one for you out there. No matter which type of dildo is your favorite, we’ve gathered a handful of our best dildo tips and tricks for peak penetrative pleasure.

How to use a dildo

1. Always use with lubricant

Dildos are generally designed to be used for penetration, although plenty of them feel amazing on your external intimate areas, too. No matter how you’re using a dildo, adding lubricant will help make it easier to enjoy and more satisfying to use.

“This was incredible and with lots of lube I had the most incredible orgasm as it is nice and filling but not uncomfortable.” - HRSH

With dildos available in a vast array of materials, your choice of lubricants is practically unlimited. Just remember that water-based lubricant is a must for silicone, rubber, and realistic feel (soft plastic) dildos, while glass or metal dildos work with any and all lubricants.

2. Play progressively

A good way to use a dildo is to start by making sure you’re fully aroused. Play with a toy that’s comfortable for you to insert before making a start with your new, girthier toy.

Dildos come in a large variety of sizes, from 4 inches in girth all the way up to 10 inches around, but even going from 4 to 5 inches in girth can feel like a huge leap. Becoming aroused beforehand will help to ease you in.

“It definitely takes some warming up to, rushing this would be the worst idea. But I took my time and I was rewarded, I have never felt so full and the sensation of it going in was something I have never felt in my entire life.” - GuitarLover18

If you’re fully aroused, using plenty of lubricant and taking your time, before long you’ll be riding that new dildo like a pro. Learn more about large dildos with our handy guide.

And remember, there’s no need to insert the full length of any toy before you’re ready to do so.

3. Explore satisfying positions

Whether you’re using a dildo hands-free in a strap-on harness or stroking your sweet spot from a comfy pose, dildos can open up a whole new world of pleasure. They’re not hampered by things like leg cramps and muscle fatigue, so they make great partners for positions you might find difficult to achieve otherwise.

“Following the first time we used it, where I chose to ride my fiancée as it allowed me to control the intensity of our session, we then proceeded to use Mr Pink whenever possible and in every conceivable position.” - ElzBelzBoo2816

In terms of multiple play positions, one of the most versatile types of dildos you can get a hold of is one with a suction cup base. Check out our full guide on how to use suction cup dildos to learn more.

4. Share the fun

Dildos make a wonderful third player in the bedroom with your partner. Not only are they firm and flexible, but you can even get double-ended ones long enough for you both to enjoy at the same time.

“By the smile on her face I knew it felt good and due to the size there was plenty left for me too. It did the job beautifully and it was great to have the same toy inside both of us at the same time!” - Unicorn Thruple

Plus, experimenting with different dildo techniques is a superb, non-threatening way to explore things like double-penetration or threesome fantasies with your partner.

Another utterly unique shareable dildo experience is to clone your partner’s penis using a Clone-A-Willy kit. Each kit contains everything you need to make a lifelike, totally functional dildo that’s molded directly from your partner’s willy (and they make one for vulvas, too).

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