How to Use a Male Masturbator

The name sounds self-explanatory, but there are oodles of unexpected ways to enjoy a male masturbator, and this guide is here to explain them.

You may be surprised to learn there are about as many types of male masturbator as there are types of vibrator. No, really!

Firstly, male masturbators can be realistic or non-realistic. Some male masturbators are designed to look like body parts, and some are neutral and just designed to wow your wang without resembling anyone’s anatomy.

Next, male masturbators come in a wide variety of sizes. Many are pocket-sized or shorter than half the length of an average penis, others are long enough to envelop the entire length of most penises, and some are large enough to bring you hands-free, or almost hands-free, entertainment.

No matter which kind you have, the way to use them is pretty much the same: just slide your schlong in and enjoy! But there’s so much more to them than that, and our guide will help you get more from your Fleshlight, THRUST Pro, TENGA and any number of other penis teasers and pleasers.

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Lube for your length

Most male masturbators are full of thrilling textures that stimulate your penis more effectively than just using your hand and, to get the most from them, you’ll need the slippery stuff. Strokers can be much tighter than a real person’s anatomy, and will be most comfortable when used with lubricant.

“Lube is needed to be able to use it comfortably. First time I have bought one of these and it feels amazing!” - ryansstuff

Some male masturbators have self-lubricating cores that you can activate with water, but most of them will require you to supply your own water-based lube. Since the majority of strokers are made from real feel material, they’re not compatible with silicone or oil-based lubricant.

Take your pick of style, shape and size

How you intend to use your toy can really affect which one you choose – for example, if you want to bring something extra to foreplay or oral sex with your lover, you may prefer to choose a short, see-through stroker or a stroker that doesn’t resemble another person’s body part.

“It's simple, comes pre-lubed and is ribbed on the inside, also causes a suction as though you’re being given an actual blowjob. Gave my man great pleasure.” - IslandGirl55

Conversely, if you mostly want to use your masturbator for solo fun, you might prefer to take home a stroker modelled on a real person’s body so you can explore some of your personal fantasies.

If having a lifelike male masturbator doesn’t appeal to you, take a look at strokers by Lovehoney or TENGA. If you’re really interested in a realistic model, try THRUST Pro or Doc Johnson toys. No matter which kind you pick, they’re all gloriously textured and super-satisfying to use.

Enhance oral sex or foreplay

Just like vibrators, male masturbators are fantastic toys to share.

“He loved how it felt around him, and I loved being able to give him that pleasure! It's been used a few times since, in conjunction with oral, joint masturbation, or to get him to a second orgasm quite soon after his first.” - Ninja 92

Slide a shorter stroker down your length while your partner peforms oral sex to add enhanced texture to the event. Or, hand your lover your favourite male masturbator and ask them to see if they can please you in a whole new way with it.

Train yourself to last longer

Stamina training or edging is a technique where you bring yourself close to climax then stop stimulation. It’s a way of teaching your body to sustain a high level of arousal without actually climaxing, so that you can then last longer when enjoying intercourse or play with your partner.

“It has really helped me last longer with my partner. Using this toy up until I'm about to burst then wait a little and repeat has amazed me in both the intenseness of my orgasm but also how long I last.” - Jack Reviews

Some strokers are specifically designed to help with stamina training. They usually have a consistent, highly pleasurable texture along their internal length and usually fit the full length of your penis inside. Stamina training may also help if you struggle with premature ejaculation during sex, by helping to get your penis used to consistent stimulation.

Fulfil your fantasies

If, for example, you’ve always wanted to explore anal sex, but don’t have a playmate who’s interested in doing so, male masturbators are here to help you. You can find ones that are modelled after real porn stars, as well as more generic, realistic shapes to enhance your experiences.

“She's a massive turn-on for me, so fantasising about having sex with her and being able to with the realism of the Fleshlight modelled on Riley's vagina and the real-like feel...” - Pinkcookielover

Fleshlight and Doc Johnson have partnered with a number of famous porn stars to create male masturbators that are actually moulded from their vaginas and butts, so they’re a great option to explore if you have a favourite sexy star you’d really love to take home for an evening of fun.

Add buzz

These days, many strokers also add vibrations to your sensual sessions, whether by including a separate bullet vibrator or by building one into the toy itself. If you’d like to learn more about male vibrators, check out our guide on the topic.

“Getting MrK going was never going to be an issue with Andi, he loves how tight she is, how good it feels with the ribbing on the inside, and when we use a bullet, wow!” - MrsK1991

But we’ve got a super tip for you: if your toy is open-ended, or has a hole in the base, you can pop almost any bullet vibe into it to enjoy enhanced sensation.

Cleaning & care

All sex toys should be cleaned after you’re finished using them, but male masturbators need special care because they’re usually made of realistic-feeling material. After you’ve finished a play session, be sure to wash out your masturbator with warm water and very mild soap – you may also be able to turn a stroker inside out to get the detailed texture super clean.

“The cleaner is great, has a fresh smell, and a few squirts is all you need before giving your toy a wash! And the powder is another brilliant must-have as when the toy is dry, putting a light sprinkling of this on makes the toy feel new and supple again.” - DannyB1504

After washing, shake off any excess water and spritz all over with anti-bacterial sex toy cleaner, then leave your toy to dry. Once it’s dry, you’ll need to apply a layer of renewer powder to restore the skin’s soft, supple texture.

You shouldn’t use any powder other than sex-toy-specific renewer powder – things like baby powder and talcum powder often contain oils and other materials that will break down your toy, shortening its lifespan.

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