Many of our first-time anal sex experiences are accidental or ill prepared for at best, giving a poor first-time impression of all things anally sexual. Many couples don’t tend to talk about anal play and as individuals, we’re often quick to write it off, especially if we’ve had a bad experience in the past.
These self-imposed taboos mean that scores of us are missing out on the joy of anal sex and the pleasure that both men and women experience through anal penetration.
This first-time anal sex guide will talk you through anal experimentation and anal penetration, helping you to progressively experiment both alone, with a partner or with anal sex toys to achieve a satisfying anal sex life.
If the idea of mixing a little pain with your pleasure appeals, make sure you have the right tools to make the most of your fantasy.
If you want to increase the sensitivity of your partner’s skin, a spanking paddle or flogger will help set their senses alight. If you want to accessorise a dominant persona or make their skin sting, try a riding crop or a traditional cane.
This guide has some fabulous advice that will have you whipping your partner into a frenzy in no time.
Above: Discover the proper way to spank for pleasure with Jess Wilde in our how-to video.
So you're looking for a vibrator but not sure where to start in our vibrators category? Luckily, you can use our brilliant Vibrator Finder by clicking the image below.
But if you're really not sure where to start, this guide will teach you how to tell a bullet from a butterfly vibe and everything in between, and help you choose the vibrators that will best enhance masturbation and sex with your partner.
Your nipples are two of the most sensitive and reactive parts of your body and it's well worth lavishing some extra attention on them during foreplay and sex.
Above: If you're thinking "forget how to use nipple clamps, why would I want to?!" just watch this video. Our resident bondage expert, Jess Wilde, gives you the low-down on all things nippy, including the lesser-known nipplegasm!
A recent study used an MRI scanner to show that stimulation of the nipples arouses the sensory cortex in a woman’s brain and in turn, arouses the genitals. Pretty cool. It’s also thought that approximately 1% of women can achieve an orgasm through nipple stimulation alone.
If your nipples aren’t receiving the attention they deserve, then investing in a sex toy designed for use on the nipples will help you experiment with different sensations. From gentle nipple suckers to sturdy nipple clamps which give you a firm but pleasant pinch, there are an enormous amount of nipple toys on the market and we’re here to guide you through all the options available
For most people the words "electricity" and "genitalia" should never be combined. We have all been told since a very young age that electricity is dangerous and that if we come into contact with it, it will kill us. Whilst we don't advise that you climb into a power station for sexual thrills, it is possible to safely and harmlessly enjoy electro sex.
Electro sex is a way of stimulating the genitals and erogenous zones with a safe amount of electrical energy. The human body is mostly made of water so is an excellent conductor of this electricity.
By applying a sex toy or conductive pad to the body, electricity can pass through the nerve cells creating pulsing, almost vibrating kinds of sensations.
Nearly every games console now comes with wireless controllers so you can enjoy the fun without the limitations of wires! Similarly, sex toys have been following suit with the release of numerous new wireless remote control vibrators.
So exercise that trigger finger on something more rewarding and find out why everyone should have a remote control vibe in their bedside drawer.
If you live with others or have thin walls, then a near-silent vibrator is probably the only way to let go, relax and enjoy yourself.
Above: Tilly puts our best-selling whisper-quiet vibrators to the test in this video guide to find out which ones really are super-duper quiet. Which one will come out on top? Click on the screen above to find out!
However, don’t think that you need to sacrifice power for the sake of sound. Lovehoney has tried and tested a range of toys, and carefully selected the quietest to go in our Extra Quiet Vibrators section.
Foreplay doesn’t just have to be a kiss and a cuddle within the confines of the bedroom. In fact, erotic massage is the perfect way to connect physically and emotionally.
The majority of our everyday communication is non-verbal and body language plays a huge part in how we communicate and understand other people. It should therefore make sense that massage, one of the most intimate kinds of touch, is a good way of communicating with your lover. Each caress, stroke and rub can be used to say anything from “I adore your body” to “I hope you had a good day at work”.
Finding tense spots in your partner’s neck, shoulders and back then kneading and massaging them with your hands will not only remove physical pain, but it can help unblock their mind as they focus less on the pain and the stress associated with it.
A massage can be a simple stroking of the hands or a good going-over of the whole body. Whatever you decide to do, you’ll soon realise the benefits to your heath, your body, your relationship and your sex life.
Collars are a visual symbol of submission and control, and are often worn in the bedroom (or fetish club!) by submissive partners to indicate their position. Collars can also be practical, often with hardware to allow leads and other restraints to be attached to them.
One of the questions we get asked a lot here at Lovehoney is “how do you buy a bondage collar?” This comprehensive guide aims to answer all of the questions that arise when you think about this seductive form of restraint, providing you with the information needed to enjoy collar and leash play with every sub and slave you meet!