Position of the Week:
The Sidekick

Slip into this cozy-yet-sexy mutual masturbation position, perfect for slow mornings and cozy, winter evenings. Enjoy laidback, low-effort intimacy and let your toys shine.

Why?

The raised leg gives space for hands to explore without awkward bending, while the body-on-body contact makes it cozy and sexy. Each partner can touch themselves exactly how they like while their partner can stroke, tease, or mirror them.

Try masturbating perfectly in sync with each other, matching each other’s movements and breath – this can be a super erotically charged way of feeling similar things at the same time. Plus, being face-to-face with your partner’s reactions makes pleasure more immediate and interactive, like giving each other a personal show.

Make it even easier

This is a great position for all kinds of abilities, since you’re lying side-by-side. Choose sex toys that are easy to grip, reducing strain on the wrists and fingers, if needed. Try a longer-length vibrator like a wand for clit or testicle stimulation, or a thrusting masturbator that’ll take care of the pumping motion for you.

If your partner finds the weight of a leg across their body uncomfortable, try resting the foot on the lower strut of a chair or the edge of a sofa to elevate it instead. Even small tweaks, like bending the lifted leg slightly instead of fully wrapping it, ensure that the position remains pleasurable and sustainable for a range of body types.

Make it even better

Lube is ultra-important when you’re manually masturbating, especially if you’re taking your time over it. A slippery sleeve or textured masturbator feels great on a hard penis, offering sensations that your hands can’t replicate. Use the toy on the head of the penis, while the other hand massages the testicles.

A versatile vibrator like We-Vibe Touch X can be used on any erogenous zone, regardless of your anatomy or gender. Try pressing the vibe directly on the clit or teasing around it – you can also use it on your nipples or perineum for full body tingles.

Make it even kinkier

This position is all about being low key, but you can make it feel a little more special by dressing up for the occasion. Wear lace or satin lingerie to feel like royalty and encourage you partner to admire and worship you while they watch you climax.

Alternatively, fetishwear with built-in harnesses or restraints will amp up your feelings of submission. The sensual feeling of straps, buckles, or even a fishnet bodystocking on your skin can be quite erotic for you, while offering plenty of visual stimulation for your partner. Think of it like Japanese rope bondage but without the complicated knots.

Not the position for you?

No matter who you love, or how you identify, we want you to feel represented on our website. That's why you'll see gay, lesbian, non-binary, and straight couples in our illustrations, and gender neutral language in the description of each position. If this position doesn't quite work for your relationship dynamic, check in next week – you may see something you like!