Position of the Week:
Sizzling Surrender

Forget everything apart from the present moment and the feeling of your lover’s hands...

This bondage position asks you to surrender control, letting your partner take charge of your satisfaction. Keep it light and playful or dial up the intensity; you’ll find tips for both below.

Why?

Being tied up can feel oddly... comforting. You’re handing complete control over to your lover, which takes the pressure off you to perform or please. All you need to do is be present and feel every sensation your partner has to offer.

You’re going to look incredibly sexy and vulnerable, all tied up like up that. Part of the thrill is letting your partner notice every shake of your thighs, squirm of your hips, and desperate little moan...

It’s their job to show you how attentive they can be, and how carefully they’ve listened to your desires (and boundaries). It’s kinda romantic and filthy all at the same time.

Make it even easier

You absolutely do not need a dungeon setup or Cirque du Soleil flexibility to make this work. If you don’t have a hog-tie – or find having wrists and ankles bound together is too much – sit comfortably with your wrists bound in your lap instead.

Comfortable, padded wrist cuffs are easiest to adjust and remove, but you can use bondage tape or even a suit tie. Just make sure you’re leaving a bit of space (about two fingers) between the skin and the restraint, and keep scissors nearby in case of emergencies.

Every now and then, circle the hands and feet and flex the fingers and toes. If you notice numbness or discoloration that won’t go away with movement, remove the restraints quickly and calmly. Keep moving and gently massaging the area until circulation comes back.

Make it even better

For bondage beginners, keep things light touch. You can explore sensation play by stroking the receiver’s skin with the backs of the fingernails or putting an ice cube in your mouth and teasing the body with little cold licks.

If you’re feeling generous, you can pleasure the clitoris or ultra-sensitive frenulum (that soft skin connecting the underside of the shaft to the head of the penis) with a suction toy. Feeling wicked? Use a suction toy or vibrator in short bursts, turning the settings up as you go, to keep arousal hovering right on the edge of deliciously unbearable.

Keep going as long as your patience (or mischief) allows. Alternating between sensations will keep things surprising and moving slowly lets the tied-up partner feel everything more intensely.

Make it even kinkier

This setup already screams “you’re at my mercy now!” and roleplay turns that tension up. So, make demands! Chastise them for squirming. Make them to ask permission before they climax. Tell them exactly how desperate they look.

The restrained partner can also be gagged – using a safe gag designed for BDSM – which adds an extra layer of helpless frustration when they can’t protest.

Remember, gags require clear non-verbal safe words (like dropping coins to catch your partner’s attention), and regular check-ins throughout your session. With proper safety precautions in place, the power dynamic can feel absolutely mind-melting for both of you.

Not the position for you?

No matter who you love, or how you identify, we want you to feel represented on our website. That's why you'll see gay, lesbian, non-binary, and straight couples in our illustrations, and gender neutral language in the description of each position. If this position doesn't quite work for your relationship dynamic, check in next week – you may see something you like!