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Sexual pleasure, orgasm, and enjoying a safe and healthy sex life are one of the many benefits of being human. And while many other animals also enjoy these sensual indulgences, none obsess over the details more than we do.
How to cum faster, slower, harder, and shoot further with bigger and better loads. These are some common concerns penis owners have over mastering their orgasm.
We have porn to thank for our extremely high and unrealistic expectations when it comes to sexual performance, which unfortunately feeds into people’s insecurities.
Our fantasy of shooting copious loads of jizz like Arnold Shwarzenpecker is probably just that… a fantasy. Many of the cum shots you see in porn are actually fake.
Nevertheless, a fella can dream, and if you have aspirations of being the next Johnny Bigload, we’ve put together this resource especially for you! So let’s explore the mysteries of ejaculation, bust some myths, and give you some real practical tips on ways to enjoy better orgasms, how to cum faster, bigger, and better, and how to produce more cum than you ever thought possible when you finally do blast off. To the moon and back!
Identifying the orgasm: How do you know when you’ve cum?
Contrary to what most people think, orgasm and ejaculation are two separate events for penis owners. While orgasms, quickly followed by cumming, seem to happen simultaneously, they are in fact different bodily functions.
That’s why the question “How to know if you orgasmed” is quite legitimate.
The urology department at UCSF notes that: “Ejaculation is the expulsion of semen from the penis. Orgasm is a feeling of intense pleasure, relaxation, and connection that is associated with sexual climax.” Good to know.
What are the mechanisms of orgasm, and how do you know when you have cum?
Ejaculation occurs when the muscles of the penis pulse and contract to expel semen. This can last anywhere from a few seconds to up to half a minute or more. According to American aexologist Alfred Kinsey, the amount of cum can be a small amount, barely a dribble, or it can shoot out a few inches and up to eight feet! Holy orgasm, Batman!
Orgasm happens in the brain where a cocktail of chemicals explode, sending euphoric feelings of ecstasy through the body.
Cool Factoid: Orgasm, on average, lasts 5-20 seconds in men.
What is the difference between male and female orgasm?
Male and female orgasms are both similar and different. Typically we all go through several stages of orgasm:
- Excitement
- Orgasm
- Resolution
The difference is, in men orgasm is often accompanied by ejaculation, and in women “it is accompanied by contractions of the wall of the outer third of the vagina”. Female orgasms also seem to last a bit longer and have more contractions. Women can stay in an orgasmic state even after climax and can enjoy multiple orgasms in a row. Certain women can experience female ejaculation and lots of different types of orgasms from various stimulation - clitoris, vagina, nipples, cervix, anus, and more.
Find out more about the 12 Types of Female Orgasm and How to Have One.
What does it feel like to cum?
Male orgasm and ejaculation will feel different depending on whom you ask, as they are all individuals with unique experiences. However, there are a few things that guys go through that are similar.
Normally, the body experiences an intensification of sexual pleasure, of peak climax sensations, the heart beat quickens rapidly, while the mind can undergo altered states of ecstasy and consciousness. Multiple contractions pulse in the penis, anus, and prostate, producing intense pleasure. The brain produces arousal-enhancing chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin.
Many researchers suggest that states of orgasm are much like seizures, and many guys experience a build-up of pressure, then an intense explosion of sensation, like a gunshot, ending in a final relief and state of immense satisfaction, relaxation, and then… sleepy time.
Cool Factoid: While most guys only experience one orgasm per session, other men (17%) can learn to have multiple orgasms as well. Mind blown!
Having multiple orgasms can take a lot of practice, but it’s well worth the effort. And when practice includes self-pleasure and masturbation, it can’t be that bad, right?
How to cum faster
Orgasm, including ejaculation, lasts about 5-20 seconds. If you want to learn how to cum quickly, this is better left to solo sex experiences or when you need a quickie.
There are several ways to speed up orgasm if that is your goal. Let’s check out the various ways on how to cum quicker.
Reduce masturbation
No fapping zone!
If you want to cum quicker, then reducing how often you masturbate may help.
Many guys with premature ejaculation (PE) often masturbate a couple of hours before sex with their partners as this may make them last longer when having sex.
So, masturbating less could help you cum faster, especially if you haven’t experienced that intense type of pleasure for a while - a couple of masterful strokes can make you blast the big “O” in no time.
How can I cum more?
Also, if producing more cum is your aim, then masturbating less can also help with that as well. The more frequent you masturbate, the less cum and sperm you produce per load. So if you want to experience the maximum bone gusher like good ole Arnold Shwarzenpecker, then wait a few days after masturbating before having sex.
Cue cheesy porn music: Bow Chicka Wow Wow!
Focus on the top of your penis
The penis head (called the glans) is where the most sensory nerve endings are located on the penis. If you want to pop an “O” face quickly, then focus your stimulation there.
Cool factoid: There are 4,000 nerve endings in the head of your penis!
There is also a hot spot called the frenulum or F-spot, which is a tiny piece of sensitive skin on the underside of the head of the penis. With many thousands of nerve endings all culminating in this one little spot, many guys experience the most intense, powerful orgasms by stimulating this unassuming erogenous zone. So if you want to find out how to make yourself moan, that is the spot!
Get creative using sexual toys
Male sex toys and masturbators increase stimulation to the penis, with various suckers, blow-job simulators, and masturbation sheathes with ribbed, and textured interiors. Some vibrate, some suck you to ecstasy, and some pump and stroke you into a penile vortex. Wait?! Is that a thing?
Cool Factoid: Did you know that Fleshlights use real porn stars’ genitals to mold their pussy and anal strokers from? Yep! This means you can have your own exact replica of your fav porn star right in the palm of your hand. Bonus!
Bottom line: There are lots of bestselling sex toys that can help you blast your love juice and experience a spontaneous cumbustion much quicker. Surely one of the best ways to cum!
Cum harder by playing with your prostate
Cum harder by playing with your prostate - prostate
Ooohhh! Milking the male prostate. This walnut-sized gland, which is often referred to as the P-spot or male G-spot, is a feel-good pleasure zone that can produce mind-blowing orgasms in penis owners.
Another cool factoid: Penis owners normally have a refractory period after ejaculation. But with the prostate, you can experience multiple orgasms because you don’t spew semen during climax. How cool is that!?
To get all the factoids on Prostate Orgasms: How Can Men Have Multiple, Non-Ejaculatory, Full-Body Orgasms? ß click that link there.
How to produce more cum: Expert advice
But the real question we have all been waiting for is SHAZAM! How to shoot more cum, produce more semen, pump up the volume? Inquiring minds wanna know!
Some guys produce more semen than others, and semen volume is associated with fertility. While the average load size per ejaculation is about ¼ to 1 teaspoon, there are many reasons why some guys produce more than others, including age, health, lifestyle, and genetics.
Cool Factoid: Semen production peaks between the ages of 30-35 years.
We asked sex educator Javay da Bae (The Millennial Sexpert) to give us the low-down on cum and sperm production.
Why do some penis-owners produce more and less semen?
“Everyone’s body is different, and some people may produce more semen because they drink more water and have a healthier diet,” says Javay da Bae.
What is semen volume and sperm volume, and how does that relate to fertility?
Javay da Bae says: “In semen, there are about 100 million sperm within the average 2-5ml of semen ejaculated. This is important to understand in terms of fertility, because the more sperm in semen the more chances of a sperm successfully fertilizing an egg.”
Okay, that’s all pretty amazing stuff, but how to shoot cum - like a lot?
- Lose Weight: At least 33% of men who are obese produce less spermatozoids and can get a condition called Oligozoospermia. Where do they come up with these names?
- Drink Less Alcohol: Alcohol reduces testosterone in the testes and can also cause “impotence, infertility, and reduced male secondary sexual characteristics”. Meaning… less sperm production, and in some men, no swimmers at all. Yikes!
- Quit Smoking: Smoking reduces sperm count and the quality of your semen, resulting in a “reduced sperm count and motility”.
- Get Some Zzz’s: Some studies have found that getting between 7 to 7 ½ hours of sleepy time a night can increase semen volume. However, if you sleep more or less than that, no bingo.
- Reduce Stress: Stress produces cortisol, which lowers your testosterone production, whch also reduces the volume and percentage of those spermatozoids. It’s also pretty hard (no pun intended… seriously!) to get in the mood when you are all stressed out.
- Do Kegel Exercises: Kegels help to give you more control over your orgasms and can make them faster and more explosive. Boom!
- Work Out: Regular exercise boosts testosterone levels and keeps you healthy. But overdoing can actually lower your libido.
- Pump Your Penis: Yes, pumping up your jam (aka penis) can help produce bigger, stronger hard-ons by encouraging blood flow into the tissues of the penis.
- Try Edging: Edging makes you last longer, which in turn creates more powerful jizz-blasting orgasms.
- Take Your Time: The longer you wait, the bigger your pop-pop-fizz-fizz oh what a relief it is!
- Use a Cock Ring: Cock rings also help you last longer, which again leads to bigger, better sex rockets. Houston, we have lift-off!
- Use a Delay Spray: Like cock rings, delay sprays also make you last longer, by slightly numbing the penis.
- Drink Lots of Water: Semen is liquid - so the more H2O you drink, the more semen you can produce. Makes sense!
- Eat Your Veggies: Yep, it’s true what Mum told you about eating your veggies. But she probably didn’t know that men with higher sperm counts have more antioxidants in their semen as well. Greens, berries, carrots, potatoes, and other healthy vegetables all have antioxidants in them.
- Stay Away from Fried Foods: Unhealthy fats like trans fats are linked to a lower sperm count. So, opt for a baked potato instead of those French Fries.
- Eat Omega Fatty Acids: On the opposite end of the spectrum, eating healthy fats like omega fatty acids have been found to “enhance sperm count, sperm motility, and sperm morphology”. Omega-3s are found in cold-water fish like salmon, mackerel, tuna, and sardines, as well as flaxseed, seaweed, and walnuts - especially walnuts!
- Get More Zinc: There have been a crazy number of studies that have linked zinc to greater sperm production and male fertility (i.e. bigger loads and more sperm). And zinc also increases your testosterone levels.
- Ginger: One study found that guys who took ginger supplements increased both semen volume and sperm count. Sha-bang!
- Drink Green Tea: Yet another health food on our list that will get you unloading loads of brotoplasm in no time is green tea. Drinking moderate amounts increases sperm production according to this study. Who knew?!
- Take Sexual Supplements: Last, but not least, there are a few sexual supplements that may help you last longer, and have more stamina, during your sexual eruption as you are playing with your magic stick.
Okay, that’s the facts, Jack. So, I guess learning how to cum harder, and how to ejaculate more sperm than usual, isn’t a pipe dream after all. There is still hope for all the Johnny Bigload hopefuls out there who dream the dream of shooting maximus and copious amounts of sticky love juice like a yogurt-spurting boner geyser.
We hope you enjoyed this primer on how to cum better and increase cum load to get the best bang for your boner!