How to Practise Bondage for Beginners

When most people think of bondage, they think of a man or woman being chained to the bed posts with a set of furry handcuffs. Although this is a fun way to get into tie-up fun, there is a lot more to enjoy and explore when it comes to bondage.

Bondage can be used to pull parts of the body together, spread certain limbs, fix your body to another object or even create the effect of mummification. Whatever you want to try, bondage is a sure-fire way to broaden your sexual horizons, spice-up your bedroom antics and increase your repertoire of sexual and sensual techniques.

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Technique 1: Cuff me up, officer!

It might sound obvious but handcuffs are a great way to get into bondage play. Whether you've got a police officer and naughty criminal fantasy or you just love the feeling of being restrained, handcuffs will give you a feeling of being powerless, while still having the ability to move.

Very strong cuffs, which add a whole lot of extra to the scene and also very comfy. These are a must if you want to add a quick bit of spice without having to go to the lengths of tying each other too much.” - Guy1995

One of the most basic bondage techniques is to cuff your partner when they're lying down on the bed. Cuffing them so that their hands are attached to the bed posts will elongate their body, allowing you to teasingly explore every inch of their skin.

Alternatively, get your partner to sit on a chair and cuff their hands behind their back. This will allow you to do exactly as you please, without them being able to touch - great for naughty lap dances!

Technique 2: Bound by love

Cuffing hands together is lots of fun but why leave other limbs out of the action? Using various different restraints, you can bind ankles to ankles, wrists to ankles, necks to wrists and even fasten all your limbs together, hogtie style.

A great way to experiment with different types of restraint is to invest in some Bondage Tape. This can be used on all body parts and once you find a type of binding you like, you can then buy the specialist equipment.

This is an amazing and versatile tape. You can use this instead of handcuffs, rope or a gag (maybe even as a blindfold?)! It's completely safe and doesn't tug on your skin or hair. Great for beginners as it is versatile and non-intimidating. I think it would be a perfect addition to your kit if you're looking to experiment with bondage play.” - SydneyK

The Purple Reins Body Harness Restraint is perfect for those who enjoy being pinned in position but like having their legs free to wrap around their partner. This clever piece of kit even has multiple D-rings so you can choose the precise position that you prefer most.

If you like to be completely at your lover's mercy, the Bondage Boutique Soft Cuff Hogtie will give you that unique sensation. A brilliant way to use these restraints is to attach them while your partner is kneeling up on a soft surface. The fear of leaning too far forward and falling is erotically exciting, especially when they realise that you're in control of their balance…

Technique 3: Spread ‘em!

Bondage also involves restraining limbs away from each other as well as pulling them together, and the best way to do this is with a spreader bar. Available in lots of different sizes, spreader bars keep your limbs wide apart so you can’t flinch or prevent access to your body.

Strapped to the bed completely naked, also blindfolded he teased me for ages. Having the restraints was more fun because I couldn’t move when things got a bit close. It resulted in the best orgasm I’ve ever had.” - Saucykitten

A brilliant technique for getting the most out of your spreader bar is to try it in different positions. Standing up with a spreader bar makes walking difficult and can be used as part of a kinky discipline scenario. Using a spreader bar whilst lying down creates a sexy medical atmosphere, which works great when teamed with a doctor or nurse outfit.

If you want to start off small, why not invest in a restraint kit like the Bondage Boutique Black Bound to Please Under Mattress Restraint or the Bondage Boutique Soft Over-The-Door Sex Swing.

Technique 4: Mummy?!

Full body bondage may sound scary but it can be very erotic, when done correctly. For beginners, Bondage Tape is the way forward. This stretchy PVC tape can be wrapped around the body, from top to toe, allowing you to be totally mummified! But be careful - things can heat-up very quickly, so make sure to take a break when you start feeling a little too warm.

A fantastic quality, highly versatile bondage rope. My husband and I are by no means Shibari experts but we love to experiment sexually and this is a wonderful product to play with.” - Littlest_Red

If you fancy being a bit more adventurous, invest in some Shibari Bondage Rope. This can be used to restrain every part of the body and can be very beautiful when tied correctly. Shibari rope creates a feeling of constriction and can be tight on the skin, so make sure to avoid cutting off blood circulation.

Read our guide to Japanese Rope Bondage for Beginners for information on how to get started with bondage rope.

Technique 5: Having a ball

If you've already done the restraining body parts thing and you're looking for something a little kinkier, why not try bondage that also involves some sort of sensory deprivation?

Bought it as a first, and she loved it as I did during our play. The holes allow good breathing, and still give a good mouthful to chew on for the partner.” -Imim

A ball gag is a kind of bondage equipment that holds the mouth open and prevents your partner from speaking. A scenario to try out with a partner in a ball gag is the 'silent interrogation'. Tie them to a chair and slip the ball gag in their mouth, then 'interrogate' their body by teasing it with a feather tickler or wartenberg wheel - if they make a noise, you give them a soft spank to remind them not to be so naughty!

Important note: No matter what type of bondage you are doing, make sure you have a safe word and that you stop whatever you are doing as soon as it is said. It's a good idea that you both read up on Bondage Safety Techniques before play.

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