How to Use a Blindfold For Better Sex

Simple, sexy and fun, the blindfold is a must-have for those looking to dabble with bedroom bondage.

Blindfolds are a tool to enhance sensation. Without sight we rely on our other senses much more, so smells, sounds, tastes and physical contact are all enhanced.

Blindfolds also build anticipation as we try to interpret what our partner is going to do next. Variation and anticipation will leave your partner totally aroused - and you'll feel like an incredible lover!

A blindfold holds so much pleasure potential - from sensuality to sex-play around power and control.

One of the questions we get asked most at Lovehoney is what exactly do you do once your partner's blindfolded? Check out these sex tips for using a blindfold to help make your play run a little more smoothly.

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Stick with what you know

To begin with, don't overcomplicate things by introducing new moves or toys. Stick to what you know and play the same as you usually would, the only difference being now you have a blindfold!

  1. Enhance hand jobs and oral sex with a simple lube.
  2. Build anticipation by leaving a pause between each touch and kiss.
  3. Ask your partner to focus on one sense - like your touch, smell or the sound of your breathing - while you play with them.

The wearer will quickly realise that activities they thought they knew well, like massage, hand jobs and oral sex, are suddenly upgraded to a whole new level of pleasure.

Uncommon senses

Wearing a blindfold immediately heightens all of the wearer's remaining senses, but the one you'll probably want to play with most is touch.

  1. Explore every inch of their body with a feather tickler.
  2. Experiment with temperature-play by alternating between chilled lube, and warm massage candle wax.
  3. Use a pinwheel for spine-tingling results.

Introducing sensory tools, like feather ticklers, massage candles and pinwheels are perfect for utilising your partner's new-found hypersensitivity.

Go to town with toys

As we've already said, wearing a blindfold can give a new lease-of-life to play that you're already familiar with, and that includes toys.

  1. Use a bullet vibe to stimulate anywhere external, especially places you've already awakened with a tickler.
  2. Intensify hand jobs with a stroker or vibrator.
  3. Ask your partner to use a toy on themselves, while you enjoy the show.

If you and your partner already use toys together, bring them out to play and discover a whole new level of fun.

Power play

Whether you want to try full-blown role play, or just fancy taking the lead for a change, a blindfold can make power-play less daunting for both partners.

  1. Ask your partner to do things to you while they're blindfolded, like performing oral on you, or exploring you all over with their hands.
  2. Build anticipation by playing with them, and leaving large pauses between touches. Don't touch them again until they're begging for it.

For the wearer, a blindfold can help them relax into a submissive role, while also removing the pressure to perform. The sub is also empowered with a safe word that they can use to stop play, should they need/want to.

For the person playing the Dominant role, not being watched can help alleviate nerves, making it much easier to fully embrace the role.

Mind blowing

The mind is the most powerful aphrodisiac there is and all you have to do is delve a little deeper to send your sub on a sensual and erotic mind trip.

  1. Use audio to transport your partner somewhere exotic or exciting. Sounds of the ocean, tropical birds or woodlands are popular.
  2. Use scented candles, incense, sun cream or other aromas to further set the scene.
  3. Think outside of the box: use a fan to create a ‘breeze’, change your accent, brush-up on vocabulary that will make your role and scene super convincing.

Indulge your lover in the trip of a lifetime by playing with their senses. Stimulate those synapses, fiddle with their faculties and inspire their imagination.

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