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Top 10 Best Strap-Ons You Need To Try

Looking to add a bit of kink to your relationship? Check out our line-up of strap-ons, and see what tickles your fancy...

Our collection features all different types of strap-ons, from hollow strap-ons, pegging kits, vibrating strap-ons and even strapless strap-ons, we have the best of the best on parade and standing to attention for your viewing pleasure.

Whether you’re a beginner searching for your first toy or a strap-on sexpert looking for something new to add to your collection, we’ll help you find the best strap-on that suits you.

Strap yourselves in, lube up and dive in to our stellar selection.

How to Choose the Perfect Strap-On

Choosing the perfect strap-on may seem daunting with so many types to choose from. When diving into the world of strap-ons, you'll typically be on the lookout for two essential components: a harness and a dildo. For those new to strap-on play, all-in-one beginner kits offer a convenient and budget-friendly starting point. However, if you're looking to tailor your experience, selecting a harness and dildo individually allows for the perfect pairing based on your unique preferences.

Here is the lowdown on the best strap-ons, so you can find the perfect strap-on dildo for your individual pleasure needs.

Different Types of Strap-On Dildos

There are two main types of strap-on dildos:

  • Harness Dildos
  • Strapless Strap-ons

Harness Dildos

These are sold separately or together in a kit. Most strap-on dildos are compatible with most harnesses, so you can mix and match your fav flared base dildo with almost any harness. However, there are some strap-on dildos that only work with their own coordinating harness, so keep that in mind when making a purchase.

Pros: Harness dildos are easier to use, especially for beginners. They are more versatile, can be purchased as a kit or separately, and they’re available in a variety of options, suitable for any type of play, body type, or design.

Cons: Not as intuitive as strapless strap-ons.

Strapless Strap-ons

Strapless strap-ons function without a harness. They feature two ends like a double ended dildo—the smaller end inserts inside the wearer’s vagina, whereas the larger end penetrates their partner.

Pros: Strapless strap-ons function like an extension of the user’s body, meaning they “feel” more “natural”. Since they are inserted vaginally, they provide more pleasure to the wearer as well, and many include added vibration.

Cons: They require strong vagina muscles to hold them inside and in order to manipulate them for penetration. So be prepared for a kegel workout! They are less versatile, and have less variety.

Types of Harnessed Strap-ons

There are several types of harness dildos to choose from, depending on your unique style, including:

  • Basic Universal Style Harness
  • Corset Style Harness
  • G-string Style Harness Briefs
  • Boxers or Panty Style Jock Strap Harness
  • Body-specific Style Harnesses such as Thigh Harness or Chin Strap-on

When choosing a strap-on with a harness, keep in mind your own personal style, body shape, preference as well as the adjustability, and adaptability of the harness. Some body shapes find specific harnesses more comfortable than others.

Here are some more important tips to think about when choosing the best strap-on for you.

Size: Smaller dildos (4” to 5” in length) are best for pegging and anal play, particularly if your partner is new to anal sex. Therefore, choose a size based on who is being penetrated and where. Consider the size of the harness as well, including waist, hip and thigh measurements. Choosing a harness that is too big, will make it cumbersome, and difficult to control. One too tight is going to be uncomfortable and will likely chafe.

Material: Silicone is the best material for anal play since it can be sterilized. Other soft materials are porous, so may still contain bacteria, even after washing. Harnesses also come in a variety of materials. Make sure your harness is washable to remove any lube or body fluids after play. Brief style boxers can be hand-washed, as well as most elastic type straps. Use sex toy wipes for plastic or leather harnesses.

Style: Strap-on dildos come in many styles, like those curved for G-spot and Prostate play, realistic dildos in lifelike styles, double penetration strap-ons to titillate the vagina and anus simultaneously, hollow strap-ons that penis owners can use, vibrating strap-ons for extra stimulation, as well as packing type dildos or packers.

Shopping as a Couple: Find Your Best Strap-On Setup

When shopping for a strap-on with your partner, communication and collaboration are key to finding the perfect combination of harness and dildo. We recommend that sexual partners share the decision-making process to ensure everyone is comfortable with the complete strap-on setup. Here's our advice for couples:

The wearer chooses the harness: This allows the person wearing the strap-on to select a harness that fits comfortably and suits their personal style and gender expression.

The receiver selects the dildo: Giving the receiver control over the size and texture of the dildo ensures their comfort and pleasure during strap-on play. Of course, the person wearing the strap-on may have a preference for the dildo's appearance to align with their gender expression, but the receiver should have the final say regarding size and texture. For those who enjoy versatility and switching roles, we suggest assembling a collection of favorite harnesses and dildos to suit every mood and fantasy.

With that in mind, here are some of the best strap-ons to choose from!

Best strap-on for beginners

Lovehoney Beginner's Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 5 Inch Pegging Dildo
(268)
$26.99 $44.99 You save: $18.00 (40%)

We think this is the best beginner strap-on you can get. With its perfect proportions, the strong harness is fully adjustable and features a super-smooth silicone dildo which curves upwards to gratify those delicious internal hot spots. This kit's simiplicity and practicality is what makes it one of the best beginner strap-on sex toys.

What customers say: "This is a very non-intimidating looking strap-on. The dildo itself is only 5 inches so not very big at all and very slim, the dildo was easy to insert with water-based anal lube such I would 100% recommend you purchase."

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Best strap-on sex toy for size experimentation

Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit (4 Piece)
(201)
$69.99

This high quality strap-on set is great for both beginners and pegging pros. Choose from two silicone dildos of different sizes and textures, try with or without the included bullet vibe, strap yourself into the machine washable harness, and just add lube!

What customers say: "We honestly both love this product and love that we have the option to swap out the dildos as we progress with our anal play. What an experience when your OH is shopping for dildos and it turns out she’s shopping for you!"

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Best strap-on for versatility

BASICS Strap-On Harness Kit with 2 Dildos
(162)
$44.99

Get your groove on both wearing and receiving with this sleek and stylish bit of kit. This set is ideal for all levels of pegging and strap-on play, from beginners to aficionados alike. With 2 different sized dildos and a fully adjustable harness, it has to be one of the best strap-on sex toys for experimentatal play with a partner.

What customers say: "This piece of kit is incredible! We’ll have to work up to using the bigger dildo on him, but in the meantime, that big dildo is a whole lot of fun for me! The smaller one is just as good and his legs were shaking within minutes! What a treat for me!"

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Best strap-on dildo for good vibrations

Lovehoney Perfect Partner 10 Function Vibrating Strap-On 6 Inch
(132)
$29.99

With 3 speeds and 7 patterns to explore, thisvibrating strap-on is the stuff of strap-on play and pegging dreams. Made for wearers with vulvas, the thick elastic waistband has plenty of stretch and includes a loop to hold the vibrator controller for either partner to operate.

What customers say: "Having my wife slide in and out of me was mind-blowing. The sensations were unreal and before long I was experiencing sensations I had never felt before and before long I had my first anal orgasm. This was a real turn on for my wife and we both cannot wait to get back into the bedroom to try it again!"

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Best quality strap-on harness for all day wear

Lovehoney Unisex Strap-On Harness Briefs
(128)
$34.99

At number five, we have some seriously good strap-on briefs! These unisex harness briefs are comfortable and discreet enough to wear for as long as you like. Whip out on a whim and slip in your toy of choice, or simply use these stylish briefs with benefits as everyday wear.

What customers say: "No problem with rapid ramming and no fiddling with straps and buckles or chafing felt that comfy she could get into the groove and could change dildos without having to take them off and the little pocket in the crotch held her bullet in the perfect spot."

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The best strap-on for women

Lovehoney Double Wow Strapless Strap-On Dildo 7 Inch
(148)

This double-ended dildo might just be the best strap-on for women and people with vulvas out there. Ticking all the right boxes for strap-on play without the straps and designed to be held in place by kegel muscles, this sex toy takes a little more practice than a regular dildo but ramps things up with show-stopping satisfaction.

What customers say: "The wife looked great with her girl cock, she loved the ridges on her clit. OH laid on her back I slowly sat on her cock. I've never known anything like it. When she started thrusting I couldn’t hold back anymore. The best orgasm ever."

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Best strap-on dildo for next step play

Lovehoney Advanced Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 7 Inch G-Spot Dildo
(347)
$44.99

Next up on our list of best strap-ons is this mega-satisfying toy designed to please you in all the right places. With a fully adjustable harness, 3 interchangeable O-rings, and a thrilling 7-inch curved dildo, this kit is the perfect partner for next level penetration play. It's a good strap-on set for those looking to target their G-spot or P-spot.

What customers say: "The 7" length is perfect if you're wanting something big but still manageable, and the upward curve delivers amazing, mind-blowing pressure to the G-spot - or P-spot, if that's what you're looking for! The dildo itself is silky smooth, allowing easy entry both with and without lube (always best to lube up though, friends) and even easier cleaning"

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Best realistic strap-on

Lifelike Lover Realistic Pleasures Strap-On Dildo Kit (8 Piece)
(46)
$49.99 $69.99 You save: $20.00 (29%)

This really is the complete package. Offering 3 impressive cocks in realistic, lifelike styles for versatile and supremely satisfying play, this is one of the best realistic strap-ons we can offer you. The harness is fully adjustable for prolonged wear, and the kit comes with 3 different sized O-rings.

What customers say: "A great amount of sizes and girths. A great price and they don’t just have to be used as strap-on dildos. Nice and flexible for difficult positions and easy to clean. The strap fits all sizes and dildos can be swapped very easily. Well worth the money."

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Best strap-on for pegging and same-sex play

Desire Luxury Rechargeable Strapless Strap-On Dildo Vibrator
(258)
$99.99

For those of you seeking the very best strap-on for pegging, let us blow you away with premium, luxury option. Crafted from silky smooth high-grade silicone, this strap-on for folks with vulvas features a posable pony (the shorter end) that is blessed with bunny ears for supreme clitoral stimulation. Throw 20 modes of vibration into the mix and it’s game over.

What customers say: "The functions of this vibe are amazing. You can have both motors going or you can have just one of the motors going if your partner doesn't like the feelings etcetera, so suited us both. It’s powerful. We both love it!"

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Best strap-on for triple the pleasure

Lovehoney Double Fun Vibrating Rabbit Double Penetration Strap-On
(137)
$39.99

Triple your fun with this triple-function penetrator. It features soft ears to tickle her clit, a double cock and ball ring to enhance his pleasure, and an extra anal penetrator for added excitement. Use it with the supplied bullets to give your bedroom antics an even bigger buzz.

What customers say: "If you or your SO has ever thought about or enjoyed an DP action then this is the toy to get. The second penis is remarkably reliable in terms of staying where it needs to. It is also a perfect size for anyone who has never attempted anal before."

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Video: Harness Strap-Ons

Above: Want to get the best strap-on harness experience? In this clip, Sammi Cole shares her top tips for how to use a strap-on dildo, from wearing the harness to penetration and pegging advice.

Strap-On Tips and Techniques for Beginners

  1. Communication is key: Before you dive into strap-on play, have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your desires, boundaries, and any concerns. Make sure both of you are comfortable with the idea and willing to explore.

  2. Choose the right equipment: As a beginner, opt for a comfortable, adjustable harness and a smaller, non-intimidating dildo. A pegging kit designed for beginners can be an excellent choice.

  3. Lube up: Always use a generous amount of water-based lubricant for smoother and more pleasurable penetration. Avoid silicone-based lubes with silicone dildos, as they can damage the toy's material.

  4. Warm-up and relax: Engage in plenty of foreplay to help your partner relax and become aroused. If you're planning on anal play, start with a gentle massage, rimming, or a smaller toy to prepare the area.

  5. Position matters: Experiment with different positions to find the most comfortable and pleasurable one for both of you. Popular positions for strap-on play include doggy style, missionary, and the receiver on top.

  6. Go slow and be gentle: Start slowly and gently with shallow thrusts, allowing your partner to adjust to the sensation. Gradually increase the depth and speed as they become more comfortable.

  7. Check in with your partner: Continuously communicate with your partner during strap-on play to ensure their comfort and enjoyment. Ask for feedback and adjust your technique accordingly.

  8. Practice makes perfect: Don't expect to be a strap-on pro right away! It takes time and practice to become comfortable with the harness, dildo, and various techniques. Keep exploring together and have fun with it!

  9. Clean and store properly: After each use, clean your harness and dildo following the manufacturer's instructions. Store them in a clean, dry place to maintain their quality and ensure they're ready for your next adventure.

Remember, strap-on play should be a fun and pleasurable experience for both partners. Keep an open mind, be patient, and enjoy the journey of discovering new sensations together!

Strap-Ons FAQs

Are strap-ons used by all gender identities and sexual orientations?

Absolutely! Strap-ons are versatile pleasure tools that cater to people of all gender identities and sexual orientations. Whether you're a heterosexual couple looking to spice up your love life with pegging, a same-sex couple seeking new experiences, or a solo adventurer looking to experiment, there's a strap-on out there designed just for you. Remember, pleasure knows no boundaries!

How do I choose the right size and type of dildo for my needs?

Choosing the right size and type of dildo for your strap-on experience is all about knowing your comfort level and personal preferences. For beginners, we recommend starting with a smaller, slimmer dildo to ease into the experience. If you're targeting specific erogenous zones, like the G-spot or P-spot, consider a curved design. Don't forget to factor in the material, as well—silicone is a popular choice for its body-safe and easy-to-clean properties.

Can strap-on play help with erectile dysfunction or other sexual health issues?

Strap-on play can indeed offer a unique solution for individuals experiencing erectile dysfunction or other sexual health challenges. Hollow strap-ons, for example, can be worn by penis owners to maintain penetrative sex despite erection difficulties. However, it's essential to consult with a healthcare professional before incorporating strap-on play as a solution to any sexual health concerns.

How can I introduce strap-on play into a relationship?

Introducing strap-on play into your relationship requires open communication, trust, and mutual consent. Start by discussing your desires and fantasies with your partner, and be receptive to their feelings and opinions. Remember, consent is key! Once you both agree to explore strap-on play, take it slow and be patient. Choose a comfortable and non-intimidating strap-on, use plenty of lube, and check in with each other throughout the experience.

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