How to Use a Vibrator

Whether yours is clitoral or classic, rabbit or remote control... read on for top masturbation tips from the Lovehoney team to help you maximize your vibration elation.

As one of the most popular categories of sex toys, vibrators come in a huge variety of shapes, sizes, and purposes.

With so many vibrators to choose from, there are plenty of specific recommendations available, but this guide will provide some all-around advice for using a vibrator.

How to use a vibrator

1. Lube up

Since many vibrators can be used externally, on areas of the body that don’t self-lubricate, it’s important to pick the right kind of lube for your play session. Using lubricant decreases friction between the toy and your skin, which in turn increases your ability to thrust, slide, and tease your toy on your body.

“The more lubed up you and the toy is, the easier it is (at least for me) to find that 'sweet' spot where my clitoris likes it most.” - laluz

The kind of lubricant you can use depends on the material your toy is made from:

  • Plastic vibrators: use silicone-based, oil-based, or water-based lubricants.
  • Silicone, rubber, and realistic feel (TPE or TPR) vibrators: use water-based lube, as other lubes may degrade the material.

Don’t worry, we’ll always recommend the right kind of lube you need when you shop for a vibrator.

2. Play around with the settings

Some vibrators are designed with an easy twisting dial or single button to adjust the vibrations. But others, like rabbit vibrators, can be more complicated. To make sure your vibrator always behaves how you expect it to during your play session, take a few moments to explore its controls first.

“These different settings enable her to change things up, and often when she's near to climax she will change the setting, which will then finish her off and entice a huge orgasm, which has her shaking.” - His Point Of View

It can be incredibly arousing to put a vibrator through its paces while you imagine it doing its thing against your nether region. Once you’re confident that you’re in control, get down to business, and enjoy yourself.

3. Try it on other areas of your body

If it’s your first time using a vibrator, one of the best vibrator tips is to warm yourself up by testing the sensations on other erogenous zones before you go for gold. Run it along your neck, your stomach, and your inner thighs, getting used to the feeling and try building the pleasure.

4. Share it with a partner

While app control and remote control vibrators inspire sharing with a loved one, even the smallest bullet vibrator can become a huge turn-on when you use it together. If your partner’s interested in using vibrators together, they can add exciting new thrills to foreplay or sex and also help you discover pleasure points you may not have realized you had.

“I have also held it against the end of my husband’s penis and watched him orgasm almost as fast as I did.” -lovepuff14

Why not give your partner first pick from your top three vibes and add their choice of toy to your next play session together? There are so many ways a vibrator and sex can go together: you can use it on yourself while they watch, hand over the controls, or even see how much pleasure you can deliver by using it on them.

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