Squirting and Female Ejaculation: The 101
Female ejaculation – or squirting – has been around for centuries. In fact, the Kamasutra (written in 200-400 AD) refers to ‘female semen’ that ‘falls continually’.
Despite hundreds and hundreds of years of documentation of the benefits of female ejaculation, even in the 21st century, we still know relatively little about it.
It’s only in recent years that female ejaculation has become a culturally desirable addition to a lady’s sexual repertoire. And quite rightly we say. After all, who doesn’t want to experience incredible orgasms?
So if the whys and hows of squirting and female ejaculation are leaving you with a thirst that needs to be quenched, let our expert guide help you embark on your very own orgasmic, and potentially very wet, adventure.
What is Squirting?
During sex or stimulation of the vulva, many women experience an involuntary release of fluid, which has become known as 'squirting' or 'female ejaculation'.
Previously, the fluids resulting from female ejaculation were often dismissed as urination during sex, leaving naturally talented squirters stressed and embarrassed.
We now know the liquid is closer to what's secreted by the male prostate when stimulated, leading many to refer to the Skene's glands (the glands around the G-spot responsible for the secretions) as 'the female prostate'.
And, most importantly, squirting is now celebrated! Most of us now see the gushing liquid as an amazing physical expression of arousal, and women are clamouring to experience the exotic sensations a squirting orgasm brings.
Why do Some Women Squirt?
For a minority of women, squirting or ejaculating is just something which happens when they are stimulated in the right way.
Many women have the physical ability to squirt or ejaculate – it can simply be a case of knowing which buttons to push to make it happen.
But remember, our bodies are all completely different, and there's no such thing as an exact template which gives exact results.
Focus on teaching yourself how to enjoy an incredible orgasm, as opposed to how much liquid you can expel from your vagina, and you'll get a lot more out of learning the art of squirting.
How to Squirt (or Enjoy Incredible Orgasms) in 5 Easy Steps
1. Chat and relax
If you're in a relationship, it's advisable to bring it up with your partner before surprising them with your new skillset. Although obviously your bodily secretions are your own business, it's worth giving their preference some consideration.
Also bear in mind that for many women it's a skill that, once mastered, may start happening involuntarily.
The good news is that thanks to a litany of recent porn videos starring female ejaculation, many people are already fully signed up to the idea and eager to reenact the film fantasy in their own home.
Relaxation is a key aspect of squirting orgasms, so ensure you stay comfortable as you prepare.
You can learn solo or with a partner, so pick whichever you prefer.
Make sure you clear your calendar – potentially over multiple sessions – and don't put yourself under pressure.
Masturbation and foreplay are absolutely key in your squirting quest. Ask your partner to pay special attention to your breasts and nipples with gentle kisses, licks and nibbles, before heading south. Zone in on the clitoris and coax an orgasm with fingers, a tongue or indeed a clitoral vibrator, to get you nice and wet and most definitely in the mood for the next step.
3. Wet, wet, wet
Lots of lube, as well as plenty of warming up, are the name of the game when it comes to squirting success. Intimate stimulation will get the natural lubrication flowing, but a little extra helping hand from a good quality lube will certainly help you on your way.
4. To arousal, and beyond
Once you're suitably aroused you can get to work on your G-spot. Find it with your fingers or ideally a toy coated with water-based lubricant, 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the front wall.
Firm metal or glass dildos and G-spot vibrators are generally best for this because they are curved, and of this category it's the less flexible toys that work best due to the Skene's glands' love of a firm caress.
Thrusting vibrators are also a top choice as they mimic the stroking motion needed, leaving you free to concentrate on perfecting the depth and angle of stimulation.
Feeling the need to pee? You're almost there! Push on through and this uncomfortable feeling should be replaced with a sensation from deep within that builds beautifully to orgasm.
As you feel yourself climax, push out your PC muscles (pubococcygeal/pelvic floor muscles), which will in turn relax the Skene's glands, and get you gushing.
5. Sex positions
It's also possible to achieve squirting during penetrative sex, although this is considered a slightly more advanced technique by many. The following positions are known to help you achieve a sensational orgasm and some possible squirting action:
Doggy Style – a fantastic position for achieving the angle needed for squirting (improved by placing a pillow under your stomach and positioning yourself slightly forwards and down).
Girl on Top – perfect for G-spot stimulation. The way the man is positioned inside you while you're on top is perfect for G-spot stimulation and female ejaculation.
As you lean back slightly, your front vaginal wall will be rubbed, resulting in constant contact that you can control in terms of intensity and depth.
Missionary – prop up your bottom with a few pillows and lie with your feet flat on the bed and knees bent. You'll be in the perfect position to make ideal G-spot contact from the second he enters you.
For a more intense sensation, pull your legs up higher and spread them wider.
Best Toys and Accessories for Squirting Success
Luxurious and lustrous, crafted from the smoothest stainless steel, this luxury dildo from Lovehoney has been designed to fulfil your every Desire.
8 inches of intensely bulbed and carefully curved shaft are designed to deliver intimate internal massages.
" Just perfect for my wife, being able to pinpoint the G-Spot easily resulted in her squirting extremely quickly. I think this has got to be our favourite so far. "
Let waves of pleasure ripple through your intimate canal with the Desire G-spot Vibrator.
A heavenly curved creation crafted from soft silicone that offers sensuality and blissful sensations from its 8 vibration patterns and 12 levels of intensity.
"I love the way the shape perfectly hits my G-spot! I haven't climaxed with a G-spot vibrator like this before! It's great for clitoral stimulation and then onto the G-spot! It definitely gets a 10 on the O factor every time!"
Tailor-made orgasms are on hand with Greedy Girl, a G-spot rabbit vibrator that combines silky silicone with 36 possible vibration mode combinations.
USB rechargeable and waterproof, with 2 powerful motors that deliver intense G-Spot massages and sensational blended orgasms.
"With loads of different pulse and strength settings, we were able to start soft and slow and build up to full strength. I am a puddle every time now!"
Not all knights have shining armour; not all villains come clad in black.
Tall, dark and powerful, the Power Play Vibrator cranes its considerable neck into a gentle angle, ripe for G-spot stimulation. Crank up the multi-speed vibes wiith a simple twist of the base, and go, go, go.
" My OH loves to use this on me. I have had countless orgasms and even has been able to make me cum. And not just cum... squirt!"
Introduce this gorgeous glass dildo to your play times and your G-spot or P-spot will be sending your thank you cards for all eternity.
Its form is silky smooth and specifically shaped to give both him and her the most satisfying of conclusions.
"The slight curve of the shaft was hitting the right places and within about 20 minutes, I had squirted all over my bed... something I haven't managed to do on my own for some time."
Versatile and silky-smooth, Enjoy is the perfect partner for intimate play.
A little squeeze of the water-based formula is all you need to introduce extra slippery, long-lasting pleasure to solo or intimate play with a sex toy or partner.
" The bottle is easy to use and less messy than using tubes and always quick and easy to find in a cluttered bedside table. Works great for sex and definitely a must for when playing with the toys. "
7 Things You Probably Didn't Know About Squirting
1. It's not pee
Men urinate and ejaculate from their urethras. Women urinate and ejaculate from their urethras. Two different fluids are more than capable of coming from the same place – for both men and women.
2. What is female ejaculate if it's not pee?
Around 100 scientific studies have been done on the composition of female ejaculate and it has been confirmed that is is made up of 90% prostatic fluid, 10% glucose and a small amount of urea. As does male ejaculate contain 0.5% of urea.
3. What's the biggest thing getting in the way of women squirting?
The fear of urinating. Because the sensation of squirting can feel very similar to that of urinating, it makes a lot of women worried about what's going to come out during sex. Our top tip to prevent your pleasure being sabotaged by this fear is to pee before you embark on your pleasure quest – this will mean that you can focus solely on your orgasm.
4. Practice makes perfect
The art of squirting is like anything else – the more you practice, the better you'll get at it.
Practise with your favourite G-spot toys, strengthen those kegel muscles with some toner balls, and enroll a willing partner to help you become a squirting champion – we're sure they won't object.
5. How many times can you squirt in one session?
It all depends on a number of different factors – how strong your vaginal muscles are, whether you have squirted before, how hydrated you are (female ejaculate expels large amounts of water so make sure you're hydrated before play) and how seasoned you and your partner are when it comes to squirting practice.
6. Can you have sex straight after squirting?
Yes. In fact, it's a fantastic time to have penetrative sex as it means you'll be fully aroused and more likely to orgasm (again).
7. What is squirt stacking?
It's a similar technique to when men practise 'peaking', and involves bringing yourself very close to the edge of arousal multiple times, before reducing the stimulation. This is repeated a number of times before allowing yourself to go over the edge in order to experience an extremely powerful squirting orgasm.