Beginner's Guide to Dildos

Beginner's Guide to Dildos

by Lovehoney

on May 2, 2017

When you want straight-forward satisfaction, you should reach for a dildo. Available in many different colours, shapes and sizes, dildos are designed to provide penetrative pleasure unlike anything else.

Although they may not rotate, vibrate or pulsate, dildos give you the kind of pleasure that you won’t get from anything electrical, so choosing the right one is key.

When you’re starting out with dildos, all you want to do is type ‘nice dildo’ into Google and be presented with a single result which is the perfect dildo for you! Sadly, the world of dildos doesn’t work quite like that, but we’ve devised a category system which should help.

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Lovehoney's best-selling dildos

Anal Dildos

Lovehoney BASICS Smoothy Anal Prober

Anal dildos actually live in the Anal Sex Toys section. They're specifically designed for anal use and there are some important differences between them and a standard dildo. Anal dildos are often slimmer in girth and are shaped in order to make them more stimulating for all those wonderful nerve endings - especially when it comes to targeting a man's prostate gland. Often, anal dildos will have a flared base for added safety.

What Lovehoney customers say...

This was my first toy for anal play and it was amazing. I like that it has two ends, definitely useful for starting! It is very easy to grip and use, it's also very easy to clean, which I was surprised about.

Start with: Lovehoney BASICS Anal Prober

Dildo Harnesses and Kits

Lovehoney Beginner's Strap On Harness Kit with 5 Inch Pegging Dildo

If you’re planning on enjoying pegging or strap-on sex with your partner, then this is where to look! You’ll find a selection of harnesses, some with compatible dildos supplied with them.

Beginners will appreciate the kits as they're easy to use and come ready to wear. If you’ve enjoyed strap-on sex before but are looking to update your harness collection, take a look here for a variety of hard-wearing and durable harnesses that will easily fit compatible dildos that you already own.

What Lovehoney customers say...

This set is excellent for those first getting into pegging, it's the most basic and safest set to get. The dildo is the perfect size for beginners but will quickly be replaced by something bigger if you find pegging is your thing.

Start with: Lovehoney Beginner's Strap On Harness Kit with 5 Inch Pegging Dildo

Double Ended Dildos

Mini Double Penetration Dildo

A dildo - with two ends! Although these sex toys look intimidating, they’re great for sharing and extremely pleasurable. Double ended dildos come in a range of sizes and shapes, allowing you to bend them and twist them to enjoy different positions or experience the fun of double penetration. Double enders can easily be enjoyed by two people - or just one person who loves a bit of extra length in their sex toys.

What Lovehoney customers say...

This is the best toy I own. It's really flexible and is a nice purple colour. The best feeling ever is being filled with one of these toys.

Start with: Lovehoney BASICS Mini Double Penetration Dildo

Glass Dildos

Tracey Cox Supersex Glass Dildo SetMade of solid borosilicate glass, these dildos aren’t as delicate as they look. In fact, glass dildos are very durable and can be used hot or cold, without the fear of them cracking, smashing or chipping.

The firm material is wonderful for G-spot or prostate stimulation and the smooth glass makes insertion easy and comfortable. Glass dildos are also easy to keep hygienically clean, so they're brilliant for anal use too.

What Lovehoney customers say...

I've got to say these are worth so much more than they cost. We had never used glass dildos before and I'd like to know where they have been all our lives!

Start with: Tracey Cox Supersex Glass Dildo Set

Harness Dildos

Lovehoney BASICS Suction Cup Dildo 6 Inch

Sounds familiar? Well, harness dildos are compatible with the harness you purchased from the Dildo Harnesses and Kits section of the site. All of these dildos have an area at the base that allows you to attach an O-ring or Vac-U-Lock attachment to hold it securely in place on your harness. Just check the listed ‘O-ring diameter’ and compare it to that on your harness to make sure it will fit.

They can also be used outside of a harness for thrusting, pumping, gyrating good times!

What Lovehoney customers say...

Wow! First off, let me say it's an understatement when I say that everyone should have this in their inventory. Ideal for couples and solo play and certainly for someone looking for their perfect first dildo.

Start with: Lovehoney BASICS Suction Cup Dildo 6 Inch

Inflatable Dildos

 Cock Locker Inflatable Dildo 6 Inch

Yep, you heard that right - these dildos inflate! Made of flexible latex or rubber, these dildos can be pumped up with air, using the attached pump, to create a dildo which is huge in both length and girth.

Why would anyone want an inflatable dildo? Because it creates a full-up feeling that stretches you to satisfaction, that's why! For beginners, we recommend starting small, so you can experiment slowly but surely until you get to the size you desire.

What Lovehoney customers say...

It has a great soft feel and is well made. This blow-up dildo is super strong and we have pumped it 18 times vaginally before hitting the quick release just in case! It's super easy to clean too.

Start with: Cock Locker Inflatable Small Dildo

Large Dildos

Doc Johnson Bam Black Realistic Large Cock

Pretty self explanatory, the large dildos section contains dildos measuring 7 inches or more in length. It also includes extra girthy dildos, so whether you like it big, long or both - you can find something to suit you.

However, please read the descriptions - some of the large dildos are so MASSIVE that they’re only for the very, very experienced. The Doc Johnson Bam Realistic Large Cock is one of these!

What Lovehoney customers say...

It's the perfect dildo for those who can handle the size - the material is firm but quite giving, so is quite forgiving. The suction cup is also really strong; I've had it stuck to all sorts of walls and furniture in my house.

Start with: Doc Johnson Bam Black Realistic Large Cock

Metal Dildos

njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo

The phrase ‘don’t knock it, until you’ve tried it’ rings very true when it comes to metal dildos. Heavy and rigid, they don’t sound very appealing but the high-shine finish is easy on the eye and the cool sensation they create feels great when used internally. Metal dildos are also super smooth, allowing for easy penetration, which is great for beginners who might be scared of the sensations.

Leading brand njoy are the masters of metal toys and each product in the range has superb reviews!

What Lovehoney customers say...

I've used this piece for at least 10 years. Perfectly designed curves, the weight and the way it warms to body temperature are all reasons it is my go to Dildo. For me, the G spot with the smaller end will make me come in seconds.

Start with: njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo

Realistic Dildos

Lovehoney Lifelike Realistic 6 Inch Dildo

Realistic dildos are so popular because they look like the real thing and, more importantly, they feel like the real thing too. Available in all different sizes and shapes (just like real penises!), realistic dildos are good for beginners as they’re easy to handle, easy to use and are shaped to fit perfectly.

The Lovehoney Lifelike Lover Realistic Dildo 6 Inch is ideal as a starter dildo and its bigger brother, the Adam's Cock 7 Inch PleasureSkin Dildo, is a great step-up for those who want a little extra.

What Lovehoney customers say...

Such an amazing realistic dildo that's difficult to not be tempted by each time I see it in my drawer. The flexibility of it for using in different angles/positions works really well and the veins provide extra stimulation too which is a wonderful added extra!

Start with: Lovehoney Lifelike Lover Realistic Dildo 6 Inch

Realistic Dildo Vibrators

Lovehoney Lifelike Realistic 8 Inch Vibrator

If you've been looking for a realistic dildo vibrator but haven't found it yet, it's because they actually live in the vibrators section. A realistic dildo vibrator gives you the life-like feel of a penis, but with the addition of delicious vibrations.

Lots of realistic dildo vibrators may be realistic-feeling but still be bright purple and glittery, while others are moulded from real people and look even more life-like.

What Lovehoney customers say...

Its girth and length is just right, with its realistic feel, making you feel like you're in the moment. The different speeds and vibration settings are brilliant too, making each orgasm feel a little bit different from the last.

Start with: Lovehoney Lifelike Lover Vibrating Realistic Dildo 8 Inch

Silicone Dildos

Lovehoney Lifelike 5.5 Inch Pink Dildo

Skin-safe, hygienic, boilable, hypoallergenic, odourless, tasteless, non-toxic - need we go on? Silicone dildos offer a body-friendly alternative to rubber which can cause allergic reactions in those who are sensitive to latex.

Smooth and firm, the silicone dildos section is the ideal place to explore if you’re looking to splash your cash on something beautiful and long lasting.

What Lovehoney customers say...

Great toy good suction for floor or bathroom tiles. Nice size tip, veins feel realistic and bump all the good spots. The balls feel nice pressed against my bum.

Start with: Lovehoney Lifelike 5.5 Inch Pink Dildo

Now you've seen all the different types of dildo on offer, try our patented Dildo Finder to help you choose the perfect dildo for you. Just click the image below.

Need more help?

You can Contact Customer Care, who will be able to help you find the perfect toy. You can send an email, telephone or live chat to an experienced advisor 24/7.

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Originally published on May 2, 2017. Updated on Aug 5, 2020