Position of the Week:
Tentacle Tango

This week, in honor of Endometriosis Awareness Month, we’re covering sizzling solo masturbation.

Endometriosis is thought to affect around 1 in 10 women* globally and can make sex feel painful. To help our endo babes explore pleasure and feel a little sexy, we’ve got tips for super adaptable solo sex. Expect toys, teasing... and tentacles!

Why?

Warming your abdomen or lower back with a gentle heat source can help relax the uterine muscles and improve blood flow to your erogenous genital area. Together, this can help you feel aroused and relaxed – especially if you slow your breathing down too.

Riding a pillow offers support and feels more active, teasing more nerve endings and helping your imagination run wild. Plus, you can wedge a G-spot vibrator or dildo in place to enjoy penetration while teasing your clitoris – without having to spontaneously grow more hands.

Combined clitoral and G-spot stimulation can turn up arousal and turn down discomfort. But everyone’s experience of endo is different, so listen to your body and stop if you need to.

Make it even easier

Try a dildo with a tapered end rather than a round, bulbous head. Some people with pelvic pain say this feels better, because the flexible tip doesn’t “jab” or feel as intrusive inside you.

We love the Lovehoney Fantasy Dildo Grinder Pad for this. It’s only 4.5 inches in length and has a textured base that stimulates the entire vulva as you press closer. Plus, you (or a partner) can use the remote to dial up the vibrations while you grind.

Still too much? Try slipping just the tip of a finger into the vaginal opening or swirling it in circles around your clit. Your vulva has loads of nerve-endings, so you can focus on stimulating yourself externally if you need to.

Make it even better

Quick PSA for anyone who finds sex painful: there are so many ways to touch yourself (or be touched) that feel good. It doesn’t really matter if you come, so long as you’re having a good time. Get naked and run your hands over your body – or just wriggle between the covers and let feeling of clean sheets thrill your skin.

When your anticipation is maxxed out, let the clitoris become the star of the show. If you’re playing with a grinder pad, your clit is sure to get teased as you rub and ride on your pillow. If not, you might like to try another style of vibrator that you can press against hands-free, like the Lovehoney Rendezvous Panty Vibrator. It’s made from soft, body-safe silicone and has a broad surface area, so you can tuck it into your underwear and go wild.

Make it even kinkier

If you checked the image for the Grinder Pad, you may have thought: “Is that a f***ing tentacle?!” The answer, as it so often is on the internet, is yes.

Don’t worry, no deep-sea creatures or eldritch horrors were harmed in the making of this position. We’re just here to show off our gorgeous range of tentacle dillies which, apart from having a gently tapered tip, also have loads of intriguing suckers that feel very sensual when you rub them against your body – internally or externally.

As you get ready to ride yours, indulge your slippery, slidy underwater kink and craft yourself a full backstory: are you a prisoner at the mercy of a powerful, deep-sea monster? Or an intrepid adventurer going where no one else dares?

Slather your suckers in lube and close your eyes so you can really imagine the beast come alive.

* Endometriosis affects people with a uterus, which may include non-binary people and trans men who don’t identify as women. While it’s important to raise awareness around women’s health conditions, we must also acknowledge that these conditions can affect people who don’t identify as women.

Not the position for you?

No matter who you love, or how you identify, we want you to feel represented on our website. That's why you'll see gay, lesbian, non-binary, and straight couples in our illustrations, and gender neutral language in the description of each position. If this position doesn't quite work for your relationship dynamic, check in next week – you may see something you like!