Position of the Week:
Recline and Conquer

Grapes? Check. Giant fan? Check. Adoring servant? Double check! Sometimes, you’ve just got to lie back and get treated like the benevolent ruler you really are.

Why?

This is a must-try for pillow royalty and anal sex newbies. You get the depth of a position like Doggy but it feels more relaxed and regal rather than animal. You can also see more of each other’s faces, which adds to the overall intimacy.

We love that using different levels helps couples with a significant height difference align their sweet spots. Plus, this position offers plenty of closeness without the pressure of anyone being ‘on top’, which can be helpful for bigger bodies.

To bring something extra, you can experiment with the reclining partner’s leg position. Try squeezing the legs together or placing the top foot flat on the bed and see how this affects the tightness and depth.

Make it even easier

If you’re less mobile than your lover, make sure you’re the one reclining. Unlike other rear-entry positions, there’s minimal strain on your wrists, arms, or knees here.

Find it difficult to balance on your side? Bend your bottom knee and place hand on the bed in front of you for support. You might also find it helpful to place your top foot in front of the bottom one (rather than trying to stack your legs perfectly).

The standing partner has the option to kneel if that’s easier. In the kneeling variation, you’ll both be on the bed or floor rather than on different levels. Place pillows or a sex wedge under the receiver’s hips until you’re raised to the right height.

Make it even better

As the giver, you can tease your lover before penetration begins. Stroke their thighs, grasp their butt cheeks in your hand, slather your fingers in lube and gently finger their vulva or the rim of their anus.

If it’s your first time exploring anal sex together, make sure the receiver is relaxed and turned on before you slide inside them. Let them use a stroker or clitoral suction toy to pleasure their penis or clitoris while you thrust.

Remember to tell your partner how good it feels to be inside them! Talking to each other during anal play helps step into the fantasy while keeping communication flowing in case anyone needs to slow down or stop.

Make it even kinkier

Receiver, you might be lounging on the bed and letting your lover do all the work, bit this role doesn’t have to be passive. Reclining in a regal power pose, you’re set up for a pretty thrilling power dynamic.

It can be very hot to tell your lover exactly what you want from them – and demand they call you Excellency/Majesty/Highness while they do it! Try trussing the giver up in a collar and cuffs before you play. (Just be sure to read up on beginner bondage techniques first.)

Or what if the giver is a mythical beast that has been tamed by the all-powerful regent? The sensual ridges, scales, or suckers on fantasy dildo can feel even more thrilling when delivered from behind by an obliging lover. Use plenty of lube and let no one deny it: you came, you saw, you conquered.

Not the position for you?

No matter who you love, or how you identify, we want you to feel represented on our website. That's why you'll see gay, lesbian, non-binary, and straight couples in our illustrations, and gender neutral language in the description of each position. If this position doesn't quite work for your relationship dynamic, check in next week – you may see something you like!