Position of the Week:
Loaded 69

Take a classic; perfect it; and load it up with irresistible extras. Nope, it’s not dirty fries on the menu, but it is a filthy, loaded 69 that’ll leave you feeling completely satisfied...

PSA: You’re not alone if you usually find 69ing a total sensory overload – but don’t write it off entirely! Check out our tips for making this move less hectic, more magic below.

Why?

The cost-of-living crisis has us living hand to mouth already; why not put those hands and mouths to good use? Free activities? In THIS economy? Don’t mind if we do!

Jokes aside, sex is a great stress reliever, and this position has the protentional to put you in a lustful flow state. With all your senses (and limbs) engaged, there’s little room to worry about anything else. All you can focus on is the visual of your fingers (or a gorgeous dildo) sliding in and out of your lover’s body while your tongue laps up... well, you know.

Make it even easier

Lying down makes this position a comfy, easy-going smutfest, but there are a couple of tweaks possible here. Grab a horseshoe pillow (like you’d wear on a flight) to avoid neck strain for the partner underneath – craning up from lying down can take you from kink to crick super quick!

You might find it difficult to balance one on top of the other, so try lying on your sides instead. This can make fellatio more comfortable, since your head and neck have more room to move.

Plus, you keep the top-to-tail position without the need for the bottom partner to take anyone’s bodyweight. That weight can feel comforting and sexy or suffocating or restricting – everyone is different and that’s what adaptations are for.

Make it even better

Firstly, feeling like you’re frantically multi-tasking is a mood killer! So, try not to rush. Taking breaks from giving every few seconds can help you focus on how receiving feels while building anticipation for your partner – a bit like edging.

Focus on the visual feast of watching your fingers or a dildo slide in and out of your partner. Tell them how good they look too, as this can feel sexy and very intimate indeed.

This position is all about mouths staying booked and blessed, so it’s a great time to explore flavored lubes. Some lovers find regular lubes taste like yucky chemical soup and, in this up-close-and-personal position, you’re sure to get a bit of transfer of lube to mouth.

A multipack of flavored lubes is a good place to start; it’s usually cheaper than buying lots of different flavors individually and you’re more likely to find one you both like to lick.

Make it even kinkier

Undress to impress, baby! Crotchless panties add a touch of the tease without getting in the way of business. Lace styles can feel especially flirty, while wet look lingerie is a bit edgier. The contrast between fabric and skin adds an extra sensory layer for you both.

If you’re feeling especially animalistic, you might enjoy the feeling of tearing off each other’s underwear to get to the goodies. Perhaps you can get them a cute yet inexpensive set with a handwritten note that says how excited you are to tear their undies off?

Do the same with the dildo you want to see gliding in and out of their nether regions. It’ll set the scene and show how desired they are. What a thoughtful gesture!

Not the position for you?

No matter who you love, or how you identify, we want you to feel represented on our website. That's why you'll see gay, lesbian, non-binary, and straight couples in our illustrations, and gender neutral language in the description of each position. If this position doesn't quite work for your relationship dynamic, check in next week – you may see something you like!