Position of the Week:
Flow State

When you’re crampy, grumpy, and bleeding from below, those pesky period goggles can make you feel super self-critical.

But it’s just hormones, babe, you’re still gorgeous! This one’s for when you’re on your period and dreading a social engagement – or just need permission to feel sexy again.

Why?

No matter where you are in your cycle, a cheeky orgasm can give you a sexy rosy glow before you head out. So don't be surprised if folks keep asking about your skincare routine!

Getting off might also help ease your menstrual cramps, with almost 1 in 5 people saying they’ve used sex to relieve period pain.* Orgasms release endorphins, the body’s natural pain relievers, so it’s no surprise if self-pleasure helps you unwind on your period.

And, if you’re feeling shy about period sex with a partner, embracing your blood on your own might help break down any internalized stigma. The more normalized your body becomes to you, the more confident you can feel in the bedroom. You do you, honey.

Make it even easier

Period blood isn’t dirty – it’s just another bodily fluid like cum or spit. But those sheets don’t buy themselves!

You might feel more relaxed if you’ve got a dark towel or waterproof blanket under you for quick clean-up (great for squirting, too). Lots of Lovehoney Forum users say they prefer to masturbate through their underwear when their period is light.

Sit up against your headboard (or on the couch) for a more supported masturbation position that makes it easy to reach your clit. You can also stack pillows under your knees or behind your lower back to keep it comfy.

Otherwise, just stay in the bath! Hot water is soothing, relaxing, and will wash away any menstrual blood when you’re done.

Make it even better

When you’re feeling low, heat therapy is where it’s at. Try a warming G-spot vibrator like the Lovehoney Glow Bunny, which lets you adjust the temperature in the tip for a delicious warming sensation that builds inside you.

The sensitive G-spot is only around two or three inches inside the vagina – on the front vaginal wall towards your belly. Even if you don’t love the idea of deep penetration right now, this can be an easy spot to massage with one finger.

Otherwise, stick to the clitoris. You can always layer sensations by pressing a toy against your clitoris while your hands play with your nipples or stroke your inner thighs.

A lay-on vibrator or mini wand made from body-safe silicone will be super easy to clean up blood from after. And, if you have a clitoral suction toy with more nooks and crannies, you can also just whip out a Q-tip and sex toy cleaner when you’re done.

Make it even kinkier

Ever heard of menophilia? That’s right, there’s a kink that’s all about being into period blood. If you feel excited by the sight of your own (or someone else’s) period, embrace your fantasy by lightly smearing the blood on your labia and inner thighs – or tasting it from a finger.

See if you enjoy the powerful feeling of ‘marking’ your toy or partner with blood – just be sure to wash everything thoroughly after. “Having her blood on my penis was like a badge of honor,” says one Forum user, showing both partners can be down for period play.

And if you don’t feel sexy while on a heavy flow, that’s normal too. You don’t need to be sexy to relax and feel good. How you do pleasure is up to you.

*Source: Lovehoney x Cint survey, 2,022 nationally representative respondents in the UK (January 2025)

Not the position for you?

No matter who you love, or how you identify, we want you to feel represented on our website. That's why you'll see gay, lesbian, non-binary, and straight couples in our illustrations, and gender neutral language in the description of each position. If this position doesn't quite work for your relationship dynamic, check in next week – you may see something you like!