Position of the Week:
Hands On Turn On

For when your lover just stepped out the shower and looks far too good to ignore – or you’ve only got a few minutes alone to show each other how you really feel! We hope you’re feeling spontaneous....

Why?

Cupping your lover’s genitals engages more nerve-endings than when you rub one hotspot, which builds arousal and stops them from getting overstimulated. It’s sexy and grounding all at the same time!

Seeing your partner respond to your touch in real time is really hot too. It creates a fiery feedback loop; their reactions fuel your movements, your reactions fuel theirs... You choose whether to lean into the performance or stay laser-focused on their pleasure.

Plus, standing makes it all feel more urgent and spontaneous – eyes locked, rubbing together, hands hot and slicked with lube... Ughh, YES.

Love the manual life? Get inspiration for more mutual masturbation positions.

Make it even easier

You don’t need perfect balance to enjoy this. Try leaning on a wall, counter, or sturdy piece of furniture for support. If standing isn’t comfortable for long, switch to short bursts; stand, enjoy, then sit and reset. Comfort makes pleasure last longer.

Mutual masturbation works anywhere, any time (within reason!) so you can try it seated or lying down too. The specifics don’t matter – what matters is that you’re having a hot, horny time rubbing each other off!

Make it even better

Before you cup them between the legs, dab a little orgasm balm on the clitoris or frenulum – it'll add extra intensity that’ll have them weak at the knees.

Grab a textured penis stroker and cover it with lube before slowly sliding your partner’s penis inside and letting them feel every intriguing ripple or ridge. Strokers add variety without effort; slow, deliberate strokes let the texture do the work.

For the clit, a suction toy delivers a sensation that the human hand just cannot replicate (trust us, we’ve tried). If you’re up for a challenge: play with tempo: one partner speeds up while the other slows down. The contrast builds tension and keeps things exciting.

Make it even kinkier

Tell your partner to touch themselves while you slide a hand below and apply gentle pressure to the perineum. This super sensitive area right between your genitals and your butt can respond very well to pleasure – and pain.

Small, circular motions can feel nice and ticklish, while a long, steady press will deepen the sensation. If your partner has a penis, you might even be able to tease their prostate (a.k.a the male G-spot) by pressing a bullet vibe to this spot.

For an extra edge, try pinching, flicking, or flogging the perineum (with consent and a safeword, please!) – the supple leather strands of a flogger can be used for a soft tickling or stinging flicks.

Not the position for you?

No matter who you love, or how you identify, we want you to feel represented on our website. That's why you'll see gay, lesbian, non-binary, and straight couples in our illustrations, and gender neutral language in the description of each position. If this position doesn't quite work for your relationship dynamic, check in next week – you may see something you like!