Position of the Week:
The Backseat Driver

Just because you’re on top, there’s no need to break a sweat! Perch on your lover’s lap and let them do the work while you masturbate, watch porn, or even have a quick scroll on your phone... This is Reverse Cowgirl for laidback lovers who are looking to work smarter, not harder.

Why?

This position combines comfort with serious sexiness. If you’re the giver, don’t be fooled by this receiver-on-top position; it’s going to be up to you to do all the work as you support your lover’s weight and get close enough to whisper (filthy) encouragement in their ear.

Meanwhile, the receiver has their hands free to play however they choose. It’s very intimate; you’re close enough to kiss their neck and nibble their shoulders... or watch porn with them over their shoulder. With all that skin-to-skin closeness, you'll feel both your bodies heat up as you get turned on.

Make it even easier

You can do this one against a wall if the giver needs a lot of back support – but taking it to the couch or a bed with heaps of cushions will be softer on the joints and the tushy.

The goal for this position is comfort and longevity, rather than wild thrusting, so make sure everyone’s feeling stable. As the giver, you can also ask your partner to lean forward slightly to ease the pressure on your chest and back.

A long-handled toy like a wand vibrator is always a winner if your hands or wrists are easily tired out by masturbation – it's easy to reach around to any erogenous zone and tease with deliciously powerful vibrations.

Make it even better

Sweeten things up with some lickable massage oil and turn this position into a sensory feast. Smooth it over shoulders, backs, thighs; anywhere that’s easy to reach and fun to taste. The seated partner can trail kisses or tongue-tip traces wherever the oil glistens. As the receiver moves, the warmth of skin plus the slick glide of oil will feel super sensual.

Make it even kinkier

Bring in nipple play for a gentle edge. If you're the giver, you can wear nipple suckers for a few minutes before getting in position. When you remove these cheeky toys, your nipples will feel extra sensitive to the glide of your partner’s skin against your chest.

Otherwise, adorn the receiver with nipple clamps, which you can tug and tease while they ride. Once the clamps are removed, the blood will rush into the nipples and make them feel extra sensitive to stroking, kissing, or biting. Keep the mood playful and check in as you go; a little teasing, a little tug, and suddenly your slow-burn session has turned into a romp to remember...

Not the position for you?

No matter who you love, or how you identify, we want you to feel represented on our website. That's why you'll see gay, lesbian, non-binary, and straight couples in our illustrations, and gender neutral language in the description of each position. If this position doesn't quite work for your relationship dynamic, check in next week – you may see something you like!