What is a Dildo?: All Your Dildo Questions Answered

What is a Dildo?: All Your Dildo Questions Answered

by Lovehoney

on Sep 13, 2021

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Dildos, eh? For many they’re the go-to toy of choice for an amazing orgasm.

For others, they’re a mysterious unicorn whose powers have not yet been revealed.

You know lots of them look like real dongs, you know some of them don’t. You know they go inside you… somewhere. But how far does your knowledge about dildos go?

From what they’re good for to what they’ll do to your vagina, we respond to most commonly asked dildo queries found in the depths of our forum.

Hold on to your seats, hats, horses, and sex cushions: we're penetrating the world of dildos.


What is a dildo?

A dildo is a non-vibrating sex toy designed to be used for penetrative stimulation, whether you’ve got a penis or a vagina.

You might think of a dildo and imagine a lifelike, flesh-coloured, penis-shaped toy, and while there are many of those in existence, dildos come in an enormous variety of styles, sizes, colours, shapes, textures, materials… the list goes on. Why not explore all the options here?


Why would you need dildos if you have the real thing?

Well, firstly, congrats! Sex with a partner is awesome. But, there are many reasons why people in relationships and out of them would want to use a dildo.

If we’re talking about realistic dildos, many people love the look AND feel of these authentic toys. Just like real penises, they come in all different shapes and sizes and are great for everyone from beginners to advanced users.

They can enable threeesome or double penetration fantasies with a partner, without the need to involve anyone else.

If you don’t have the ‘real thing’, a realistic dildo is an amazing way of delivering those delicious sensations as many have been crafted with defined heads, raised veins and often a pair of bulbous balls - which, coincidently, brings us onto our next question…


Why do some dildo sex toys have balls?

Some realistic dildos have balls at the base for several cunning reasons.

Firstly, they can act as a clever handle, allowing you to grab onto the dildo, and angle and manoeuvre it exactly how you want. Secondly, they help enhance the authentic look of the dildo, which is a huge turn-on for a lot of people. Thirdly, as with real balls, they can arouse your external hotspots and stimulate the clitoris, anus, or perineum, depending on how you use them.

Consider them the hairy (or not) cherries on top of the cake.


Glass dildo

Why glass?

Some dildos are made from solid borosilicate glass. They might look delicate, but they are in fact made from an incredibly durable glass that can be used hot or cold without the risk of them chipping, cracking or breaking.

They’re great for temperature play and, given their rigidity, make for wonderful G-spot or prostate stimulators.

Plus they often come in curved, textured shapes for intense, angled pleasure, which is obviously a win.

Can a glass dildo break inside me?

Like we said, glass dildos are made from super-safe, toughened glass that can be heated or cooled - which is more testing than anything your vagina or anus could do to it - we imagine.


What do dildos feel like: Are other materials good too?

Of course! In the same way that you might like wearing cotton, wool, silk or, say, PVC, on different occasions, you’ll probably enjoy the different sensations and stimulation delivered by different dildo materials.

Real-feel materials offer some authentic intensity to play, while glass and metal dildos give a firm, smooth sensation which is also great for temperature play.

Other materials like silicone are soft to the touch and completely skin safe, along with a bunch of other positives.


I’m a straight male: Does using a dildo make me gay?

Do you wish there was a man attached to the end of it who you could take to bed with you? No? You're probably not gay, then.

Will using an ultra big one make my vagina bigger?

Great question, and one that we get on the forum a fair bit. No. Using a larger dildo (and again, everyone is different here, so one person’s Goliath might actually be a David) won’t permanently increase the size of your vagina.

Vaginas are incredibly elastic, and can give birth to a tiny human before getting back to business.

A particularly girthy dildo isn’t anything to worry about (unless you’re worrying where you might store it so that no one finds it accidentally).


silicone curved dildo

Do I need a curved one?

That depends entirely on the type of stimulation you're looking for. If you're searching for some G-spot or prostate stimulation, a curved dildo will have an easier time targeting and arousing those hot spots.

It's possible that a straighter dildo will also reach those areas, you'll just need to find the angle that works for you.

Will my partner get jealous if I use dildos?

When bringing any type of sex toy into the bedroom, it's important to have a frank and open conversation with your partner.

Make sure you both feel like a toy is a fun, pleasurable and exciting addition to your sex lives, and not any kind of replacement.

Many sex toys can stimulate both partners individually or at the same time, and a dildo is no different.


Is my partner wanting to replace me with dildos?

You're more than just your appendage. A sex toy won't replace the intimacy, connection, attraction and all the other things that have brought you to be in a relationship together.


Why do some dildos have suction cups?

Suction cups are the bits at the base of certain dildos that allow the toy to stick to any hard, flat surface so you can enjoy your toy totally hand-free (meaning you can free up your hands to play with other areas or with other toys, like clitoral vibrators or magic wand vibrators).

Suction cup dildos also function in unison with compatible harnesses so you can use your dildo for play with a partner.

Do I need lube when using dildos?

If the toy is going anywhere near your backdoor, the answer is YES. Anuses aren't self-lubricating and you'll need a lot of lube to have enjoyable, super-pleasurable anal play.

If you're planning to use them for vaginal play, using lubricant will help achieve smooth, slippery, sensual insertion and play.


Are all dildos safe for anal?

A toy is only suitable for anal use if it has a flared base to prevent unwanted travel. The anus can suck things up there faster than you can say 'Henry Hoover' and the only way they're coming out is with the help of a medical professional.

No flare, fingerloop or sizeable handle, no entry with anal dildos.


So, what's a dildo? Lovehoney's summary

Hopefully you've now received all the answers you could possibly ever want about dildos.

If you've skipped this whole article wanting a quick summary: dildos are sex toys that are most commonly shaped in the form of a penis (with many other shapes and sizes available) that are used:

  • to penetrate the vagina and anus for solo masterbation
  • for sexual interaction between two partners
  • or even to makes things more exciting for threesomes

For those that want something a bit more than just a non-vibrating sex toy, we also have a range of dildo vibrators available too.


If you've got any dildo questions or queries, leave them in the comments section below!

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Originally published on Sep 13, 2021. Updated on Aug 5, 2020
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