How to Use a Fleshlight

Medically reviewed by Dr. Justin Lehmiller.

Written by Violet, Lovehoney Editorial team.

Last updated 30/11/2021

Find out what the world’s best-selling male sex toy can do for you.

The Fleshlight is the Lovehoney's best-selling male masturbation toy. Made from real-feel SuperSkin, Fleshlights are designed to replicate the sensation of partnered sex. When lubed to perfection, a Fleshlight will fee like you’re actually having penetrative sex.

So, if you've taken the plunge and purchased this marvelous new thing: how do you use a Fleshlight?

You may think Fleshlights are pretty self-explanatory. And, they are. However, there are a few tried and tested Fleshlight tips and tricks to get the best from your new bedside bud. In this guide, we’ll share what a Fleshlight is, some Fleshlight instructions and techniques to make your solo sessions super satisfying.

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What is a Fleshlight?

Fleshlights are male masturbators designed to simulate the sensation of sexual penetration. The interior is soft, pliable, and (in some models) ridged for extra stimulation.

Lovehoney customers say...

"The internal texture of the Flight has to be one of my favorites so far. What impressed me is that you can actually feel each section individually." - Incendiaire

Created for optimal discretion, Fleshlights come in a sturdy plastic casing, making them look just like a torch (or a flashlight… get it?). There’s no shame in using sex toys, of course, but if you’re looking for a toy to keep near your bed that won’t be immediately obvious to others if they see it, a Fleshlight is a great choice.

Better yet, Fleshlights are not just for enhancing masturbation. These discreet little wonders can add a new dimension to foreplay with a partner.

How to use a Fleshlight

There are a few steps to take before and while using a Fleshlight that we’d recommend. A handy tip for using your Fleshlight and creating the most lifelike feel is to warm it up first.

How to warm a Fleshlight

You can warm your Fleshlight by removing the real-feel sleeve from the case and submerging it in warm water. Once the sleeve has reached your desired temperature, shake off the excess water, and return the sleeve to its plastic case.

You could also try sliding your Fleshlight onto the Fleshlight USB-Powered Warming Rod, which reaches temperatures of up to 131ºF or 55ºC in 10-15 minutes.

Lovehoney customers say...

_"I think the pre-heating was an essential part of the preparation. If I was blindfolded and someone had used this on me, I would have no idea that it was a toy." -_Blake3393

The rod is so discreet it could easily be mistaken for part of your computing equipment, so leaving it next to your PC won't raise any suspicions.

Now, onto using a Fleshlight.

1. Lube up


For effortless insertion, apply a liberal amount of water-based lubricant to the inside and outside of your Fleshlight and yourself. Coat your penis, the sleeve's entrance, and the internal canal, for the very best experience.

Pro-tip: when using lube with any sex toys, make sure it’s toy compatible to ensure long-term enjoyment. Water-based lubricants are usually a safe bet.

2. Penetrate and thrust


Now that you’re nicely lubed up, it’s time to penetrate your Fleshlight. The speed and rhythm are up to you... freestyle!

There are a few Fleshlight techniques to add extra spice to your session. For instance, we sell a range of bullet vibrators that are small enough to fit into the end of your Fleshlight. Pop one into the bottom and top off your enjoyment with glorious vibrations.

Lovehoney customers say...

"I have a nice small vibrator that I put in the other end and it makes the orgasm strength out of this world." - GoodSir

Or for a change of scene, a good Fleshlight trick is to pair your toy with the Hands-Free Adaptor and try it in the shower. You can mount the adaptor on any smooth surface and enjoy hands-free thrusts.

Get creative and take full advantage of the versatility of this toy!

3. Bring in a partner


Many of our customers find Fleshlights are the perfect addition to foreplay. Try incorporating yours into a 69 scenario. Or have your lover use it on you, as you enjoy the authentic sensation. Toys are a conveinent way to add a novel element to sex and can boost sexual satisfaction. In fact, research shows that one of the things that distinguishes the most from the least sexually satisfied couples is that the most satisfied ones are more likely to use toys together!

Lovehoney customers say...

She was able to get a good grip of this Fleshlight Girls Brandi Love Heartthrob Texture and had fun adjusting the suction to tailor the experience just so. It really added a great element to our experience. - Boomplus

4. Keep it clean


Remove the sleeve from its case. Then, run hot water through the canal to remove any water-based lubricant or bodily fluids.

Do not use soap as it can degrade the special SuperSkin material. Instead, use a specialist sex toy cleaner like Lovehoney Fresh Sex Toy Cleaner or Fleshlight Fleshwash Sex Toy Cleaner.

Lovehoney customers say...

“No odor and doesn't leave any residue after Fleshwash. Don't need to use a lot so it can last a long while and easy to store with the rest of the toys and the bottle is secure enough to avoid any spills.” - Curums123

Once the Fleshlight sleeve is rinsed, lay it to dry on a clean towel. Make sure the Fleshlight sleeve is completely dry before it's returned to its case.

Proper cleaning after each use will ensure your Fleshlight is ready to go whenever you are and give you long-term pleasure and enjoyment.

5. Take care


After cleaning, the Fleshlight sleeve may feel tacky or sticky to the touch - this is normal. Sprinkle the dry Fleshlight with Fleshlight Renewer Powder to restore its silky-smooth feel.

Lovehoney customers say...

“Having been unused for a while and then packed away for a bit, my Fleshlight had become tacky. Enter the Renewal Powder and it's brand new!” - Rad Man

In addition to cleaning, there are a few other tips you can keep in mind to keep your Fleshlights feeling fresh:

DO store your Fleshlight in its case where possible

DON'T use talcum powder on your Fleshlight

DON'T use silicone lube on your Fleshlight

DON'T use soap or non-specialist cleaners on your Fleshlight

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