How to Use a Fleshlight

In this article, you will learn what the world’s best-selling male sex toy can do for you, and how using a Fleshlight can give you the most realistic experience ever, next to real partnered sex.

The Fleshlight is Lovehoney's best-selling male masturbation toy. Made from real-feel SuperSkin, Fleshlights are designed to replicate the sensation of realistic sexual intercourse with your partner. When lubed to perfection, using Fleshlight masturbators will feel very much like you’re actually having penetrative sex with another person.

So, if you've taken the plunge and purchased your marvelous new sex toy: what is the best way to use a Fleshlight masturbator?

You may think Fleshlights are pretty self-explanatory. And, they are. However, there are a few tried and tested Fleshlight tips and tricks to get the best from your new bedside bud. In this guide, we’ll share what a Fleshlight is, instructions on how to use Fleshlight toys, as well as techniques to make your solo sessions super satisfying.

The Fleshlight is a brand of male masturbators designed to look and feel like an artificial vagina (mouth or anus) that simulates penetrative sex, oral or anal sex. It is a masturbation aid, used by penis owners to facilitate sexual pleasure by inserting their penis into the realistic opening.

The interior is soft, pliable, and (in some models) ridged or textured for extra stimulation, much like an ordinary pocket pussy.

While you can always use your hand for self-pleasure, and lots of penis owners do, but the Fleshlight has the advantage of the inner sleeve, which is lined with peaks, valleys, and chambers of various textures which serve to stimulate the erect penis in multiple amazing ways that a hand alone can’t accomplish. Thus, penis owners can enjoy the pleasurable sensations of a Fleshlight for realistic solo sex.

Created for optimal discretion, Fleshlights come in a sturdy plastic casing, making them look just like a flashlight (hence the name… get it?). There’s no shame in using sex toys, of course, but if you’re looking for a toy to keep near your bed that won’t be immediately obvious to others if they see it, a Fleshlight is a great choice.

Fleshlights have removable caps at each end: one end to enable penis insertion, and the cap at the other end to adjust the amount of suction. This is another reason why Fleshlights are so amazing: not only do you feel the ribbed and textured interior, but you get ultimate suction, much like a real blow job.

Better yet, Fleshlights are not just for enhancing masturbation. These discreet little wonders can add a new dimension to foreplay with a partner as well.

Pillows or Furniture

Since the Fleshlight came out on the market, there have been numerous unique Fleshlight usage ideas that creative people have come up with.

You can use your Fleshlight with pillows and different furniture to turn your sex toy into a hands-free device.

Lovehoney customers say...

“Try sticking the Fleshlight (with hard casing attached) under pillows, mattresses, and other places, to allow you to penetrate it while in different positions.”— Fluffbags, Lovehoney Forum

Some users fold a flat pillow in half or put two pillows into the same pillowcase to hold their Fleshlight for hands-free fun. Simply wedge your Fleshlight in the crevasse between the pillows, lay on top, and go at it!

There are also several types of sex furniture and position enhancers you can use that have built-in sex toy mounts to facilitate hands-free play.

Lovehoney customers say...

Using a Mattress or a Couch:

“Place the unit in between the mattress and the bed for hands-free play (or between sofa cushions, or pillows on the bed… whatever, you get the idea) - just make sure you have a towel ready for clean up!”- DavidB1986, Lovehoney Forums

Both the mattress and couch methods allow you to kneel if you position your toy at about hip height, for the most realistic sex positioning.

Trying Edging

Many penis owners use Fleshlights as a stamina training device to improve sexual endurance, edging to the brink of orgasm, and then holding off to practice lasting longer during intercourse.

This is especially true for people who may have issues with premature ejaculation, or even erectile dysfunction issues.

How do you do edging?

Well, it’s fairly simple actually.

Masturbate to just before the point of no return, and then stop stroking as you wait for the feeling of impending climax to stop.

Repeat multiple times until you finally orgasm.

That’s it!

And, while edging sounds simple enough, it does take a lot of practice to get used to it and learn when to stop in time. The good thing is, practice is fun and pleasurable, so the more you practice the better you get at it!

One of the bonuses to learning edging is that your orgasms will be way - like WAY! - more intense and longer lasting. You may also experience a non-ejaculatory orgasm (also called a dry orgasm), which can turn into multiple super orgasms when you learn to do it right!

Use it with or without the case

When using a Fleshlight you can use it with or without the case, which will give you different feels to change things up.

When using with the case you can twist the cap at the end to control the level of pressure and suction in the toy. Experiment with different amounts of loosening or tightening to find what feels best for you.

To give your Fleshlight a whole new feel, try popping it out of the case and going hands solo! This allows you to switch things up, and get a totally new sensation and experience, like having two different toys in one.

Lovehoney customers say...

“Take it out of the main case and use it as a floppy sleeve. This allows you the opportunity to squeeze it in certain places and have a different experience.” - Fluffbags, Lovehoney Forum

Many penis owners like the hands-on method as it gives them more control over their grip and placement to add pressure exactly where they want it. Also, some guys say it feels softer and more realistic, and you can be as rough or tight as you like, or more gentle with your stroking. When you use a gentler approach, this allows you to feel the textures inside much differently as well.

Try it both ways to see what enhances your experience best, or change it up to suit your moods.

One of the most important aspects of owning a Fleshlight is the care and cleaning of your toy. Here are our expert tips on how to do just that.