Position of the Week:
Rear of the Year

Raise a glass (and a firm hand!) to the new REAR with this spank-a-delic sex position. Your lover has been very naughty and it’s time for them to feel the consequences. New year, new sexual horizons!

Why?

Ideal for kink newbies, this position amps up body awareness with restraint and sensory play, which can help you feel present and explore what turns you on. When you restrict movement, every brush, tickle, spank, or stroke feels magnified, which might help build arousal and make climax feel more intense.

With one person “in control”, you get to explore a teasing power dynamic that’s sexy without being intimidating. It can feel very sensual for your lover to put complete trust in you while you focus entirely on giving sensations, rather than receiving.

Enjoy this position as prelude to deeper BDSM, edging, or penetrative sex – or keep it simple as a satisfying as a standalone scene. It’s fun, it’s exploratory, and wildly giggly-sexy.

Make it even easier

Tying bondage rope or silk ties can be a nightmare if you experience fatigue or limited mobility in your hands. Go for adjustable bondage cuffs instead as they’re much easier to put on and remove. You should always keep restraints loosely fastened, to avoid restricting blood flow, but extra give also helps people with joint pain wrest their hands and feet more naturally.

You might be comfortable if the bound partner is lying face down on the bed, with the giver kneeling between their legs or sat beside them. Sensation play doesn’t require intense positions – slow movements, stable support, and comfortable restraint make the experience accessible and just as exciting.

Make it even better

Now we turn sensation play into teasing torment – in a fun way! Use a small bullet vibrator along the backs of your lover’s knees; the sudden buzz will jolt them deliciously.

Press the vibrator to the butt cheeks while you deliver light spanks for an electric combo of sting plus rumble. Trail the vibrator up their thighs, hovering just beside the genitals without touching them. Cue the helpless, lustful squirming as you build them up until they’re begging for release.

With that delicious rear in your lap, you’re also primed for anal play – provided your partner is up for it. Slather your finger with lube and gently tease the rim of the anus. Then, slide some lubed up anal beads inside them, starting with just one or two beads.

Gradually go deeper (checking in with your partner the whole time) as you finally stroke their clit or penis – just make sure you use a clean hand that hasn’t already touched their butt hole.

Make it even kinkier

If the receiving partner has a penis, introducing a cock cage adds power-play fireworks. Lock your partner before tying them down – they’re restrained, teased, and unable to get fully hard. As you feather, spank, or vibrate, the cage tightens any attempted arousal into achingly delicious frustration.

Run a vibrator along the metal to send vibrations straight through the shaft, or tap the cage lightly between spanks to make them gasp. When they start bucking for more stimulation, remind them they won’t be free until you decide. Whether you unlock them for climax or deny them entirely, the control can be intoxicating.

Not the position for you?

No matter who you love, or how you identify, we want you to feel represented on our website. That's why you'll see gay, lesbian, non-binary, and straight couples in our illustrations, and gender neutral language in the description of each position. If this position doesn't quite work for your relationship dynamic, check in next week – you may see something you like!