Position of the Week:
The Head Rush

Flip oral sex on its head (literally) with this upside-down sex position. Whether you're delivering cunnilingus or fellatio, this position requires flexibility, plenty of communication and a setup that ensures the giver feels supported throughout play.

Why?

Think that iconic superhero upside down kiss scene – except the smooching has moved seductively down south. The receiver also gets an excellent view of the giver's full body.

They can stand in a dominant position and get pleasured or lower themselves into a face-sitting position to be treated like royalty. The standing partner can also bend over to kiss along their partner’s belly or even move into a standing 69 (if you can reach, that is).

If the receiver has a penis, the upside-down angle may make deepthroat oral easier to explore. Just remember, there isn't a prize for going deeper than feels comfortable.

Make it even better

Giver, if you've got a gag reflex or your partner has a larger penis, use your hands to help. Wrap one or both hands around the shaft where your mouth ends and move in time with your lips. This can mimic the sensation of deep throating, without you actually needing to do it.

If your hands need a break, try an open-ended penis stroker. These toys add texture all the way down the shaft, while your mouth can focus on the head. Just be sure to use lots of lube to avoid any unwanted friction.

Giver, if the receiver has a vulva, you don't always need to head straight for the clit. Run your tongue along the vulva's inner and outer lips first, licking upwards to apply firm pressure across the opening and through the center of the labia.

If direct clitoral stimulation feels too intense, you can always tease around their clitoral hood, or focus on darting your tongue in and out of the vaginal entrance.

Make it even easier

For this upside-down sex position, the giver's neck shouldn't be doing any of the heavy lifting. Use the edge of a sturdy bed or sofa, so that their upper back and shoulders are supported while their head tilts backwards.

Receiver, you can place a firm sex wedge underneath the giver's lower back to create a better angle if hanging off the edge is too much for them. Make life easier for yourself, too. You can always kneel beside the bed rather than standing if bending down feels a bit awkward.

If you're sitting on the giver's face, be sure to put most of your weight through your legs or hands. That way, you're not putting it all onto your partner's face and neck.

Expert advice: If either of you feels any neck, back or shoulder strain, adjust the angle or switch positions. Upside-down oral is meant to feel exciting, not uncomfortable!

Make it even kinkier

Having your lover upside down, on the edge of the bed, already leans into a Dom/sub dynamic. Take charge and tell the giver exactly how you want to be pleasured, from when to lick or suck, to when to slow down or use their hands.

You can also make them wait for your permission before they change their technique. The giver's mouth might be too busy for a safeword, so agree on a non-verbal stop signal before you start – like a couple of taps on the thigh or the bed.

Giver, just because you’re the sub in this scenario, it doesn’t mean you can’t be a little bratty. Pull away when your lover’s close to orgasm and press those lips tight. Act like you’re going to give in when they demand you open your mouth, then use your teeth to lightly scrape their inner thighs instead.