Sexual fantasies are imagined scenarios that arouse us, and almost all of us (a whopping 95%) have had one. Plus, a lucky 50% of us have one every single day!
We have them most commonly when we're daydreaming, masturbating and when having sex. And the best bit – lots of us are fantasizing about the same or very similar things.
Most of us fantasize about things that fall into three main genres: group sex, novelty, and power/control.
Having sexy fantasies enhances our masturbation and sexual experiences and they're a fantastic and healthy tool to rehearse, anticipate or explore future or past experiences.
Orgasms are absolutely fantastic, there's no doubt about that. But, there might be times where you or your partner cannot or choose not to reach climax.
Sex should be pleasurable and fun, whether you're orgasming or not. It's those sexy, fun feelings that bring us to orgasm, and we wouldn't be orgasming without them.
It's just like that age-old saying – the journey is better than (or even the reason for) the destination. You wouldn't do a hike to a lookout point and ignore the wildlife, plants and waterfall along the way, would you?
Also, I find that removing the sense of having a 'goal' (i.e. orgasming) when engaging in partnered or solo sex can make things much more enjoyable.
That way you'll notice all of the other sexy things happening along the way that you may have overlooked because you were so focused on achieving an orgasm.
Let's explore some other sexy and fun things that don't include orgasms.
“It was the best ever.” “I came 10 times.” “We did it in the frickin’ rabbit run.” These are the kind of tales about mind-blowing romps shared down the pub, and in books and movies. In reality, not every single session is a swinging-from-the-chandeliers affair. And that’s the first thing to remember.
However, this doesn’t mean your best sex ever is out of reach – all you need is a bit of body positivity and bedroom confidence.
Easier said than done though, right? Having total sex confidence can be hard. Really hard. You can be 100% comfortable in your day-to-day life, but stripping off and bumping uglies with that sexy someone is a whole different ballgame.
Check out these simple solutions for getting to know yourself, and to thinking and acting more confidently in the sack, and you’ll be enjoying supercharged sexytime in no time at all.
Glimmering in the sunshine, showing off sun-kissed skin and highlighting the flash of a white smile, white lingerie is perfect for summertime.
It’s simple, chic and the ONLY shade you need if you're jetting off to the Maldives for a week of sun, sand and, let’s face it, non-stop sex.
Despite its connotations of innocence, white lingerie is flirty and fun – slink onto your balcony in a crisp white bra set or basque and your beloved’s thoughts will be far from pure.
One of the best ways to inject some sizzle back into the bedroom, or even just to show yourself some self-love, is by treating yourself to some new lingerie.
But you know what’s even better – finding sexy items of lingerie that you can also sleep in.
This category of lingerie lets you seamlessly transition from raunchy romp to blissful slumber without the need for a wardrobe change.
Get your oats and your beauty sleep, thanks to this collection of sensual lingerie.
One of the biggest misconceptions that people have about lingerie is that you need a certain type of body for it.
In the past, I was definitely guilty of thinking I needed to look like a Victoria’s Secret Angel to even think about rocking a corset or suspenders.
But – newsflash – this is total B.S.
It’s 2018, and time to stop believing that you can only wear sexy lingerie if you’re a certain size with no cellulite or stretch marks.
Lingerie is for everyone, whatever your appearance or gender identity.
In fact, wearing lingerie can make you more confident.
‘How?’ you ask.
Well, here’s my roundup of the 5 ways that wearing lingerie can give you the confidence boost that you deserve both in the bedroom and outside of it.
I’ll happily buy a friend a coffee.
I love treating my mates when we go to the cinema.
I get way too excited about my besties’ birthdays.
And if you’re my BFF4EVA, my ride or die, then I’ll have no qualms about giving you a sex toy.
Nothing says ‘I know you really well and I only want the best for you’ than a gift that titillates.
Here are 7 great gifts that my kinky friends can expect to receive in the future.
Remember that scene in the 2009 rom-com The Ugly Truth where Katherine Heigl’s character finds herself wearing a remote control vibrator at a restaurant?
She’s trying to talk to her colleagues but she can’t stop squirming because the kid at the next table is playing with the remote.
It’s a very uncomfortable and cringe-worthy scene in a not otherwise memorable movie, but I’ve secretly wanted to try a remote control vibrator ever since.
Something about the idea of handing my partner the remote and giving them total control over my pleasure really gets me going.
The Mantric Rechargeable Remote Control Egg Vibrator seemed like the perfect way to live out this fantasy. Here’s what happened when it arrived…