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Orgasms are absolutely fantastic, there's no doubt about that. But, there might be times where you or your partner cannot or choose not to reach climax.

Sex should be pleasurable and fun, whether you're orgasming or not. It's those sexy, fun feelings that bring us to orgasm, and we wouldn't be orgasming without them.

It's just like that age-old saying – the journey is better than (or even the reason for) the destination. You wouldn't do a hike to a lookout point and ignore the wildlife, plants and waterfall along the way, would you?

Also, I find that removing the sense of having a 'goal' (i.e. orgasming) when engaging in partnered or solo sex can make things much more enjoyable.

That way you'll notice all of the other sexy things happening along the way that you may have overlooked because you were so focused on achieving an orgasm.

Let's explore some other sexy and fun things that don't include orgasms.

One of the best ways to inject some sizzle back into the bedroom, or even just to show yourself some self-love, is by treating yourself to some new lingerie.

It’s a universal truth that going lingerie shopping is great, whether you’re looking for a saucy role play costume, something fetish inspired, or just a new bra and pants set.

But you know what’s even better – finding sexy items of lingerie that you can also sleep in.

This category of lingerie lets you seamlessly transition from raunchy romp to blissful slumber without the need for a wardrobe change.

Get your oats and your beauty sleep, thanks to this collection of sensual lingerie.

One of the biggest misconceptions that people have about lingerie is that you need a certain type of body for it.

In the past, I was definitely guilty of thinking I needed to look like a Victoria’s Secret Angel to even think about rocking a corset or suspenders.

But – newsflash – this is total B.S.

It’s 2018, and time to stop believing that you can only wear sexy lingerie if you’re a certain size with no cellulite or stretch marks.

Lingerie is for everyone, whatever your appearance or gender identity.

In fact, wearing lingerie can make you more confident.

‘How?’ you ask.

Well, here’s my roundup of the 5 ways that wearing lingerie can give you the confidence boost that you deserve both in the bedroom and outside of it.

I’ll happily buy a friend a coffee.

I love treating my mates when we go to the cinema.

I get way too excited about my besties’ birthdays.

And if you’re my BFF4EVA, my ride or die, then I’ll have no qualms about giving you a sex toy.

Nothing says ‘I know you really well and I only want the best for you’ than a gift that titillates.

Here are 7 great gifts that my kinky friends can expect to receive in the future.

When you hear the term ‘erogenous zone’, what springs to mind? If your thoughts head directly below-the-waist, you’re not alone.

We are all guilty of being a little too crotch-centric at times; focusing solely on the vagina or penis and forgetting to use other erogenous zones in the bedroom.

An erogenous zone can be any area of the body that, when stimulated, gets you in the mood. That’s a pretty broad definition, which is good news!

For those of you that want to spice things up, here are ten erogenous zones you may never have previously considered.

For many people, there are few things more mortifying than the idea of someone hearing them masturbate.

While there's no reason to be ashamed of masturbation at all, the social stigma, fear of a certain reputation and many other reasons mean that most people would rather keep their private pleasure just that: private.

College is a time of juxtapositions. A wealth of nightlife and no money to explore it, a world of academic study and no time to embrace it and, for many, a new horizon of sexual possibilities and far too little privacy to comfortably enjoy them.

Statistically, college is one of the most common times for a woman to start experimenting with masturbation and sex toys, but it is also frustratingly often one where privacy is at an all time low due to the paper thin walls and shared dorm space.

That’s where this handy guide comes in, to help you maximize your potential you-time while minimizing the need to worry about nosy roommates asking awkward questions.

For most of us, regardless of gender, trying to have more than one orgasm is about as easy as finding the motivation to start work for tomorrow’s deadline. Much like academic motivation, it’s something we all dream about but doubt we can ever experience.

I used to think that multiple orgasms (especially for women) were a bit of a myth. And to be honest, I thought it was just something they showed in porn films to make the action last longer.

However, I am (very) pleased to say that I was wrong: they are not a myth! Regardless of your gender, there are a variety of different techniques, toys and positions you can try to achieve that ‘ooh’ feeling more than once.

Tried and tested by myself, keep reading for my top tips on having that big finish again and again.