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Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy, and working with individuals on a range of relational issues.

Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with appearances on The Today Show, The Dr. Oz Show, and NPR.

He lectures frequently on topics related to sex and relationships, with recent presentations at New York University, Yale, Princeton and the Ackerman Institute.

Ian is the New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First (Harper Collins), which is the best-selling sex advice book of the last decade and has been translated into more than a dozen languages.

In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and is also a member of the American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA).

Find out more about his work at iankerner.com.

Every time I come out as pansexual I have received comments like ‘Pfft, that’s not a real thing’, ‘So… you’re bi?’, ‘PANsexual?! Do you like pots too?’ or ‘What, you’re hot for Peter Pan?’.

Trust me, I’ve heard it all.

Even though I did have a huge crush on Jeremy Sumpter as a child and a non-stick frying pan does make my heart flutter, these remarks make me eye-roll so hard that in the moment, I choose to label myself as bisexual instead.

After talking to some other pan-pals, I know my experience is pretty common.

So, I’m here to shine a light on pansexuality, we’ll explore its definition, how it compares to other sexualities and I’ll give a bit of an insight to what it means for me to be pansexual.

Newton's third law of motion states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

And while double-ended sex toys probably didn't play a role in Sir Isaac's extensive research, they are a prime example of classical mechanics in action (bet all this physics talk is getting you hot and bothered, isn't it?)

What many people don't realize is that toys with double penetration features aren't just for couples – they're perfect for solo play too.

Think about it. We've been blessed with multiple erogenous zones, so why not light them all up at the same time?

So whether you're riding solo or bringing in a pocket-sized guest star to your couple's play, here are five top-of-the-range sex toys that can double your fun.

What is Pegging? 

Pegging is effectively "strap-on sex". So what's the difference between pegging and strap-on sex?

It all comes down to who's doing what.

Strap-on Sex (definition): A person of any gender penetrates a person with a clitoris using a strap-on.

Pegging (definition): A person with a clitoris penetrates a person with a penis using a strap-on.

This gender-bending sex act leans on role reversal, so it's no surprise that you'll need to think a little outside the box when it comes to sex positions.

So, whether you're looking for an easy position for first-time pegging, or just fancy trying some new tricks, here are my top 5 positions for pegging.

Think I missed one? Tell me in the comments!

Nipples are amazing things and, guess what? Everyone's got 'em!

In this week's video, learn how to stimulate your nipples for out-of-this-world pleasure, fast-tracked orgasms and discover the elusive-yet-mind-blowing nipplegasm.

Did we miss a trick? Let us know your thoughts in the comments!

For lovers of lifelike length, we bring you Lifelike Lover: a range of realistic dildos for sensational pleasure.

With something for everyone, Lifelike Lover is a collection of dongs made from silicone and skin-safe rubbers, with a range of features to satisfy anyone.

Want balls? We got that. Like veins? No problem. Fancy a suction cup? Sure thing!

Learn more about Lifelike Lover in the YouTube video above, and shop the range by reading the rest of the blog here.

You're partner's asked you to peg them.

You've said yes.

You already know the basics: warm up, use lube, talk to your partner etc...

But what about what you don't know?

We picked the brains of several couples who regularly peg to find out what you can expect from your first pegging experience.

This is what they told us...

(Yesterday's blog: '7 Things You Should Know Before Being Pegged')

1. You Know Nothin' (Dong Beau)

As with most sex play, your first time is unlikely to be your best, and the same goes for pegging.

If this is your first time pegging, you're probably not ready for how talkative pegging needs to be, or how you'll need to practice "driving" your new temporary appendage.

Additionally, if you have pegged someone before, but this is your first time with a new partner, don't assume you know how it'll go.

Most peggers say that pegging with a new partner is like pegging for the first time again, so be ready to re-learn most of that you thought you knew.