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Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy, and working with individuals on a range of relational issues.

Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with appearances on The Today Show, The Dr. Oz Show, and NPR.

He lectures frequently on topics related to sex and relationships, with recent presentations at New York University, Yale, Princeton and the Ackerman Institute.

Ian is the New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First (Harper Collins), which is the best-selling sex advice book of the last decade and has been translated into more than a dozen languages.

In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and is also a member of the American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA).

Find out more about his work at iankerner.com.

A recent medical study in the US has changed the direction of intimate pleasure for women, demonstrating that super-strength orgasms may be available in real life, not just the movies.

Conducted by neuroscientist Dr Nicole Prause, founder of sexual biotechnology firm Liberos, the purpose of the scientific study was to test the effectiveness of the updated happy rabbit® versus manual stimulation.

19 women to date, with an average age of 31 and a wide range of racial and age diversity, have been tested. Each of the women visited the lab twice under strict lab conditions – once to use a happy rabbit® vibrator, and the other to masturbate using their hands.

And what did Dr Prause discover?...

Every time I come out as pansexual I have received comments like ‘Pfft, that’s not a real thing’, ‘So… you’re bi?’, ‘PANsexual?! Do you like pots too?’ or ‘What, you’re hot for Peter Pan?’.

Trust me, I’ve heard it all.

Even though I did have a huge crush on Jeremy Sumpter as a child and a non-stick frying pan does make my heart flutter, these remarks make me eye-roll so hard that in the moment, I choose to label myself as bisexual instead.

After talking to some other pan-pals, I know my experience is pretty common.

So, I’m here to shine a light on pansexuality, we’ll explore its definition, how it compares to other sexualities and I’ll give a bit of an insight to what it means for me to be pansexual.

Wands are fantastic for delivering super-intense pleasure to all your external hot spots. And, thanks to their incredibly powerful vibrations, they're great for giving sensational and soothing body massages.

But, did you know that wands can also work their magic with anal sex? That's right, wands have their place in your backdoor artillery.

Read on for the top tips on how to enhance anal foreplay and sex with a rumbly massage wand.

Newton's third law of motion states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

And while double-ended sex toys probably didn't play a role in Sir Isaac's extensive research, they are a prime example of classical mechanics in action (bet all this physics talk is getting you hot and bothered, isn't it?)

What many people don't realize is that toys with double penetration features aren't just for couples – they're perfect for solo play too.

Think about it. We've been blessed with multiple erogenous zones, so why not light them all up at the same time?

So whether you're riding solo or bringing in a pocket-sized guest star to your couple's play, here are five top-of-the-range sex toys that can double your fun.

What is Pegging? 

Pegging is effectively "strap-on sex". So what's the difference between pegging and strap-on sex?

It all comes down to who's doing what.

Strap-on Sex (definition): A person of any gender penetrates a person with a clitoris using a strap-on.

Pegging (definition): A person with a clitoris penetrates a person with a penis using a strap-on.

This gender-bending sex act leans on role reversal, so it's no surprise that you'll need to think a little outside the box when it comes to sex positions.

So, whether you're looking for an easy position for first-time pegging, or just fancy trying some new tricks, here are my top 5 positions for pegging.

Think I missed one? Tell me in the comments!

The clitoris is quite fairly seen as a nexus of sexual pleasure for women.

Everyone has their own tips and tricks for getting the most out of clitoral stimulation, but what is often overlooked is the huge number of people out there with more sensitive clits.

For those of you who fall into this camp direct, extreme clit stimulation can be overwhelming, but this doesn't need to be a hindrance.

As with everyone's body, the pleasure attainable from sex and masturbation all comes down to knowing your body and what works for it.

So I've picked out some of the best vibrators to help you avoid over-stimulation.

Somtimes, sex can be very awkward. It’s unfortunate, but it’s true. When you’re naked and getting it on with your partner, whether it’s your long-term squeeze or a one-night stand, a single wrong line can kill the mood entirely.

Of course, if you’re super comfortable around someone there’s nothing wrong with some jokes and giggles during sex, but if it’s a new partner or you don’t know them particularly well, knowing where the boundaries are isn't always so simple.

So to help you avoid any awkward silences in the place of heavy breathing and contented moans, I’ve put together a list of some of the most cringey, awkward, and uncomfortable things that you should definitely never say in the bedroom.

Got any of your own? Be sure to add them to the comments!