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6 Plus Size Sex Positions for Great Sex in a Bigger Body
on Mar 9, 2025
Some sex positions just don’t make any sense when you’ve got a bigger body. Go ahead, it’s okay to throw your copy of 101 Positions for Better Sex! across the room — I already did. The thing is, by making a few modifications to accommodate larger stomachs and butts, adding some toys if you so wish, you’re already on your way to plenty of enjoyable sex.
“Great sex is about communication and connection,” says Michael Grey, a licensed marriage and family therapist and sexologist. “It’s not always just about penetration. There's nothing wrong with using a vibrator, toy or prop to bring more comfort.”
From plus-size sex positions you can try out to some inspiration for modifying positions for comfort and pleasure, you’ll find plenty of ideas to keep you busy. Read on to find your best new sex positions for plus-size bodies.
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Tips for having sex in a bigger body
In case no one has reminded you lately, sex is for people of all different sizes and shapes – and you deserve to have hot passionate, mind-blowing sex!
There are plenty of sexual positions people with larger bodies can get into and ways to adapt sex to suit you. Pillows and wedges provide comfort, as well as allowing for deeper penetration.
Sex benches and chairs can be fun purchases, but you can use any furniture you already have in your home, such as low bookshelves, dressers, and couches to enhance comfort and accessibility, advises Michael. And get yourself some sexy lingerie for curvy women — you’ve got it, so flaunt it!
Most importantly, enjoy yourselves. Not all positions are going to work for you or your partner, but you can make adaptations and still get plenty of pleasure. And if something isn’t working, have a giggle, and try something else.
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Edge of Glory
Get into position: Edge of Glory is a sample pack of penetration depths by speeding up or slowing down thrusts. The penetrating partner stands at the edge of the bed while the other partner lies on their back with their butt up to the edge of the bed and legs lifted up, resting on the giver’s shoulders.
Why it feels good: It’s an intimate position that brings plenty of opportunities for eye contact with your partner face-to-face.
“There’s a lot of connection you can build when you face one another,” Michael says. It also leaves room for the giving partner to provide clitoral stimulation at the same time.
How to spice it up: Edge of Glory leaves both of your hands free to stimulate your or your partner’s clitoris, with your hands or a vibrator.
Modifications: If lying on your back is too uncomfortable, try a modified version of Doggy Style: The receiver lies on their front, with a pillow or wedge under their hips for better access. The standing partner comes from behind and lifts their partner’s legs. The receiving partner can bend their legs, with their feet pressed on their partner’s back, to lessen the weight.
Side Honey
Get into position: Side Honey is a good spooning position with a twist. The receiving partner lies on their side, legs together and knees bent. Play around with how much you’re turned to the side to find what position is most comfortable.
The penetrating partner gets on one knee from behind with the other leg bent and their foot placed on the bed for balance.
Why it feels good: Bending one knee up instead of kneeling on both knees can give a plus-size penetrator more control and stability, without pressure on the stomach. If you like Doggie Style, but need novelty, try Side Honey to switch things up.
How to spice it up: Depending on how much room you have between your thighs and stomach, you may be able to masturbate while your partner’s penis penetrates you. Or try a vibrating cock ring for extra pleasure (and possibly keep an erection rock hard).
Modifications: Bigger men with smaller penises might find this position makes penetration difficult, but using a penis sleeve or extender can lend some extra length or girth. By placing a pillow under your hips to raise your rear end, you can change the angle of penetration. If the penetrating partner is in a bigger body, they can grab their partner’s hips while thrusting to get a deeper penetration.
Liberated Lover
Get into position: Liberated Lover is similar to the Cowgirl, a classic female-on-top sex position. But here, the person on top leans back and holds onto their partner’s legs.
The bottom partner lies on their back with their legs stretched out while the partner on top straddles them, facing forward in a kneeling position. Once the receiving partner is inside, bounce up and down or grind your hips back and forth.
If both of you are enjoying it, you’re doing it right.
Why it feels good: This position gives the person lying down unfettered access to their partner’s sexy bits. Spice up the Liberated Lover by providing clitoral stimulation for the partner on top, with your hands or a wand vibrator. By leaning back slightly, the person on top can rest their weight on their knees and lap — no stomachs getting in the way.
How to spice it up: There may be some — ahem — tighter spaces in this position. Try a mini massager for some extra stimulation for the partner on top. And angle is everything — experiment with how you move your hips to change the depth of penetration. Lean even further back to get into a great G-spot position.
Modifications: If the person on top is in a bigger body, they don’t need to worry about their stomach putting pressure on the person lying down – but you could put your hands on the floor or bed, taking some of the weight off your partner’s thighs. Knees hurting? Kneel on pillows or try squatting over your partner instead.
Doggy Style
Get into position: Doggy Style is a popular sex position that can bring a passionate, animalistic feel to sex. The person receiving gets on their hands and knees, while the giver kneels behind them (and admires the view).
As the receiver, you can slightly arch your back if that feels more comfortable. Your partner can thrust from behind with their penis or strap-on dildo, or you as the receiver can take control to thrust on your own. Ooo, doggy!
Why it feels good: With the receiver on their hands and knees, Doggy opens you up to much deeper penetration. It also offers G-spot stimulation if the receiver has a vulva. Lubricant is always a good idea, and will provide extra comfort and slickness in this deep penetration position. The receiving partner can also reach behind to grab their cheeks to spread ‘em wider, allowing even easier access.
How to spice it up: Experiment with different depths by having the receiving partner lean down on their forearms, bringing the hips and butt higher. Try a vibrating butt plug if you’re feeling adventurous. Or make this position extra intimate by laying kisses on the receiving partner’s back.
Modifications: Use a wedge or pillow under the receiver’s stomach can also help ease pressure back pain, giving more room for deeper penetration. You can also try the starfish sex position if you aren’t into deep penetration.
Backstage Pass
Get into position: If you like anal play, you’ll love Backstage Pass. The giving partner sits or squats behind their partner and leans slightly back. The receiving partner stands in front, straddling their ass over the receiver’s face.
The receiver gets to decide how much stimulation they want, by lifting or lowering their body as they desire.
Why it feels good: Rimming, or licking and kissing your partner's anus, can pleasure one of their most intimate places. Couple rimming with clitoral stimulation or a hand job from the front and they’ll be begging for more.
How to spice it up: If you have the balance, try mutual masturbation. The standing partner stimulates themselves while the sitting partner reaches down to touch themselves. Try a clitoral suction vibrator for something new. Or bring anal play into other delicious lesbian sex positions.
Modifications: You may need to adjust your position by raising or lowering your body, depending on your individual strengths and body sizes. Instead of standing up straight, the receiving partner can lean over a piece of furniture, giving their partner one heck of a view.
Bondage Queen
Get into position: If you’re comfortable with bondage and want to try something new, Bondage Queen is like Queening, but with, well, bondage.
The person on top straddles their tied-up partner facing backward on their hands and knees. Scoot up to your partner's face and let them feast.
Why it feels good: Bondage Queen emphasizes power exchange but can provide both partners with intimacy and pleasure. Bondage introduces new elements around exploration and excitement, but the biggest one is trust in your partner, explains Michael. This position can be great for those who want to explore dominance and submission.
How to spice it up: Add some extra pleasure for the partner lying down by giving them oral sex at the same time. If you’re on top and have breasts, lean back and forth to stroke your nipples along your lover’s skin. Or, tease your partner with a feather tickler to heighten their arousal. Add a blindfold for even more sensory play.
Modifications: Use pillows or cushions for extra comfort for the submissive’s neck. Try a sex chair if you don’t want your body weight to put pressure on the submissive’s stomach.
