1. Esther de la Ford for the Lovehoney Head Board

    Recently, we were asked the question: "How does one begin to feel sex positive when sex has not always been a positive experience?". So we reached out to therapist and coach Esther De La Ford for her advice on how to rediscover your sexual happiness.

    If I could give anyone who has experienced sexual trauma only 2 pieces of advice, it would be these.

    • Let yourself completely off the hook. Ditch expectations. Be open to the high possibility of tears, breakdowns, and your body and brain just not playing ball sometimes. Then love yourself anyway.
    • Throw everything you've got at it and see what sticks. Don't only try one mindfulness technique, or go to a few sessions at a Rape and Sexual Abuse Clinic you're not really into, or read the first 3 chapters of a tantra book a mate suggested and then forget about it. Try EVERYTHING. This is your life, your body, your sexual wellbeing. It deserves everything you've got.

    These are the two pieces of advice I would give if we were meeting in a pub toilet and didn't have very long to chat, but thankfully we have a bit more time here.

    So here are my top tips for cultivating a healthy space to start enjoying sex again after sexual trauma.

    best sex toys for same sex couples

    Buying something with the sole intention of using it in the bedroom to enhance your sex life is, well, a real commitment to your sex life and partner.

    There’s a whole sea of guides and articles with recommendations of sex toys for heterosexual couples, but these may well be met with a blank stare if you’re in a lesbian or gay relationship.

    Many sex toys can be used by any ‘body’, alone or with a partner, but to help you find the best of the best sex toys for female-female couples and male-male couples, we’ve scoured our customer reviews, sought advice from our community members and spoken to our in-house experts.

    Put your hands together for the line up of the best sex toys for same-sex couples:

    What's a dildo?

    A dildo is a phallic object designed for sexual play and is usually used to stimulate internal erogenous zones.

    A dildo has no moving parts and is not the same a vibrator (though they are often confused with one another).

    Good fact huh? You can have that for free.

    To discover 24 more things you never knew about dildos, keep reading...

    Kegel exercises can help strengthen your inner muscles, resulting in a tighter vagina and more powerful orgasms.

    Sounds great, right?

    Take exercises to new, pleasurable levels with kegel balls. Designed to help locate your pelvic floor muscles and work them effectively, kegel balls are slipped into the vagina and held inside by clenching.

    Here are our top 7 kegel balls.

    20 Times Abbi and Ilana from Broad City Were All of Us

    For any fans of irreverant, cutting-edge comedies featuring kick-ass female characters who haven't watched Broad City yet - where have you been?

    This Comedy Central sitcom stars BFFs Abbi and Ilana as they navigate life and love in New York City, often with hilarious results.

    And with this Thursday (March 28th) marking the very last episode *sob* of the show, we decided to take this moment to look back at some of the finest moments in Abbi and Ilana's friendship.

    (And hey, if you and your bestie fancy living life Abbi-and-Ilana style, we've even created an official range of Broad City sex toys that'll have you shouting "YAASS, KWEEN" in no time.)

    8 of the Best Anal Foreplay Tips

    Here at Lovehoney, we talk about foreplay A LOT (and for a good reason too!).

    Much more than just some sexual appetizer that you quickly wolf down before the main course, foreplay is a crucial part of experiencing great sex.

    Foreplay gives both your body and mind a chance to become fully aroused. This mounting anticipation means that when it's time for the main event, you'll be champing at the bit!

    We hear about general foreplay tips all the time, but we ask you, dear reader  where's all the helpful advice on incredible anal foreplay?

    Although it is literally located in the rear, when it comes to foreplay tips, the butt is sometimes being left behind. Well, we won't stand for it, so here are eight of the best anal foreplay tips. Bottoms up!

    oh-moji-festival

    Summer is offically upon us, and for many of us that means dusting off your sequinned cape in preparation for festival season.

    Whether you're shaking your sparkle-encrusted booty at Bestival (it's called a glitter bum, look it up), or heading to Shambala to frolic in fancy dress, festivals seem to be the perfect setting for sexytime.

    Why? They're self-contained wonderlands where feelings of freedom mingle with warm cider, and inhibitions are left at the entrance.

    And while unwashed bodies and that unforgettable portaloo smell wouldn't usually be a recipe for a romp, more people are knocking wellies at festivals than you'd think.

    So before you check your tent pegs and charge up your festival phone, make sure you've packed this rucksack-ready sexy survival kit.

    Magic wands for men

    Forget dogs, wands are man’s best friend.

    Women have known the wonderful benefits of a wand for decades, ever since Hitachi’s Magic Wand found itself serving a new purpose in the bedrooms of women all over the world. The deep vibrations are incredible for external clitoral stimulation, a discovery more stimulating than alternating current.

    But it’s only seemingly recently that men are coming (eheh) to find the wand’s magical uses for themselves.

    From dealing with post-gym aches, to being a veritable partner-pleaser, having a wand in your possession can transform the way you live your life.

    Here are just a few of the reasons you need a wand.

    Nipples are amazing things and, guess what? Everyone's got 'em!

    In this week's video, learn how to stimulate your nipples for out-of-this-world pleasure, fast-tracked orgasms and discover the elusive-yet-mind-blowing nipplegasm.

    Did we miss a trick? Let us know your thoughts in the comments!

    dildo-blog

    Dildos eh? For many they’re the go-to toy of choice for an amazing orgasm.

    For others, they’re a mysterious unicorn whose powers have not yet been revealed.

    You know lots of them look like real dongs, you know some of them don’t. You know they go inside you… somewhere. But how far does your knowledge go?

    From what they’re good for to what they’ll do to your vagina, we respond to most commonly asked dildo queries found in the depths of our forum.

    Hold on to your seats, hats, horses, and sex cushions: we're penetrating the world of dildos.


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