Have you ever caught a whiff of someone, and suddenly they’re really attractive to you? You’re not alone: there’s a link between seduction and smell that’s as old as civilisation itself.
The sciencey bit: When an odour stimulates the receptors in our nose, they pass electrical impulses (or patterns) to our brain which the brain interprets and perceives as a smell. Our sense of smell is 10,000 times more sensitive than any of our other senses, and recognition of smell is immediate.
Psychologists believe that the area of the brain that processes scent is also the part that processes emotions — and certain odours can make us feel stimulated, aroused, and excited.
With that in mind, here are some of the sexiest scents, as proven by science, guaranteed to get you in the mood and more.
Recently, we were asked the question: "How does one begin to feel sex positive when sex has not always been a positive experience?". So we reached out to therapist and coach Esther De La Ford for her advice on how to rediscover your sexual happiness.
If I could give anyone who has experienced sexual trauma only 2 pieces of advice, it would be these.
Let yourself completely off the hook. Ditch expectations. Be open to the high possibility of tears, breakdowns, and your body and brain just not playing ball sometimes. Then love yourself anyway.
Throw everything you've got at it and see what sticks. Don't only try one mindfulness technique, or go to a few sessions at a Rape and Sexual Abuse Clinic you're not really into, or read the first 3 chapters of a tantra book a mate suggested and then forget about it. Try EVERYTHING. This is your life, your body, your sexual wellbeing. It deserves everything you've got.
These are the two pieces of advice I would give if we were meeting in a pub toilet and didn't have very long to chat, but thankfully we have a bit more time here.
So here are my top tips for cultivating a healthy space to start enjoying sex again after sexual trauma.
Buying something with the sole intention of using it in the bedroom to enhance your sex life is, well, a real commitment to your sex life and partner.
There’s a whole sea of guides and articles with recommendations of sex toys for heterosexual couples, but these may well be met with a blank stare if you’re in a lesbian or gay relationship.
Many sex toys can be used by any ‘body’, alone or with a partner, but to help you find the best of the best sex toys for female-female couples and male-male couples, we’ve scoured our customer reviews, sought advice from our community members and spoken to our in-house experts.
Put your hands together for the line up of the best sex toys for same-sex couples:
Kegel exercises can help strengthen your inner muscles, resulting in a tighter vagina and more powerful orgasms.
Sounds great, right?
Take exercises to new, pleasurable levels with kegel balls. Designed to help locate your pelvic floor muscles and work them effectively, kegel balls are slipped into the vagina and held inside by clenching.