1. SingleMansSexualSelfCareGuide

    With all the other things going on in our lives - work, family, socialising, and not to mention sleeping - it can be easy to let taking care of your sexual self slide.

    But just like skincare, haircare, eating right, and exercising, sexual self-care is important to keep yourself happy and healthy.

    So whether you decide to treat yourself to some brand-spanking new sex toys for men or get stuck into some new reading material, here are 5 ways to fit in some very special 'you time', and really up your sexual satisfaction.

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    With all the other things going on in our lives - work, family, socialising, and not to mention sleeping - it can be easy to let taking care of your sexual self slide.

    But just like skincare, haircare, eating right, and exercising, sexual self-care is important to keep yourself happy and healthy.

    So whether you decide to treat yourself to a brand-spanking new vibrator or get stuck into some new reading material, here are 5 ways to fit in some very special 'you time', and really up your sexual satisfaction.

    Which is the Best Anal Toy for People with Vaginas?

    Lovehoney needed someone with a vagina to try a variety of anal toys, so being the selfless individual that I am, I volunteered. I know, I know, it’s a bit of bummer but don’t worry, it’s all behind me now.

    Jokes aside, I loved trying out these four new toys. Ok, they’re not ‘new’ per se, but all were new to me.

    I haven’t had much experience with anal play or anal sex. This isn’t because I don’t want to take part in this fantastic form of fornication, quite the contrary.

    I’m singing from the same hymn sheet as Community’s Troy Barnes.

    I’m just content to move at my own pace, and that’s ok. I’m not ashamed of my beginner’s butt. In a way, being an anal novice gave me the edge in this task.

    I approached everything from a fresh perspective, and I’ve now determined which of the following is the best anal toy for people with vaginas.

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    Ducky DooLittle is a pleasure-based sex educator and the author of Sex With The Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered.

    Beyond pleasure-based sex ed, Ducky is also a sexual assault and violence intervention counselor.

    Her YouTube videos have attracted more than 1.5 million viewers and her press appearances include HBO's Real Sex, The Morning Show, MTV, NPR, The Howard Stern Show, and Playboy TV.

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    How to Combine Sex and Mindfulness

    We’ve all had mindless sex at some point. I’m talking about the drift into mind-wandering that can happen during some of our greatest pleasures, consciously or subconsciously.

    From picturing your favorite porn scene or delectable fantasy, to dealing with anxiety ridden evaluations of our bodies or performance, to fearing contraception failure, or your neighbours overhearing through your paper thin walls.

    There are hundreds of opportunities for your mind to wander away from what’s happening in front of you, or to you.

    I’m pretty much a stranger to mindfulness.

    In fact, when trying to learn about what it was, I watched a video on x2 playback to take in the information more quickly. Ironic, huh?

    From what I’ve learnt, I think that mindfulness could be the answer to those mid-sex distractions.

    The thoughts will still appear, but rather than allowing them to absorb us completely, we can use mindfulness to bring us back into the zone to connect with ourselves, our sexual partner(s) and ultimately, experience more pleasure.

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    Sunny Rodgers is a Certified Sex Coach, Clinical Sexologist, and serves as Ambassador for the American Sexual Health Association.

    She is also the Brand Manager and Sexual Health Educator for three top intimate products manufacturers: Pipedream Products, Jimmyjane and Sir Richard's.

    Since 2000, Sunny Rodgers has worked in the pleasure product industry, helping thousands improve their relationships and understand how pleasure products can enhance their sex lives.

    She has made it her mission to help educate people on the intersection of pleasure products and sexual wellbeing.

    Sunny uses her two decades of experience to help people reach their intimate goals and experience successful sex lives.

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    How to Boost Your Sex Drive

    Do you enjoy having sex but find that you’re not often in the mood to initiate?

    Do you wish you could get aroused more easily or desire your partner more often?

    Put your seatbelts on because we’re going on a quick tour around the sex drive.

    Sex drive or libido is basically how much or often someone desires sexual activity. It varies from person to person and there’s no such thing as a “normal” sex drive because everyone is different!

    There’s nothing wrong with a lower sex drive as long as you’re happy, but if you decide you’d like to increase your sex drive there are a number of simple methods you can try.

    Here’s my list of the best lifestyle changes you can make to put that sex drive into overdrive.

    Lovehoney Sexpert Interview Dr Lanae St John

    Dr. Lanae St.John, DHS, ACS, is a board-certified sexologist, sexuality educator, and writer. She received her Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality where she focused on Child and Adolescent Sexuality.

    She develops curriculum, teaches classes, and works with clients to normalize conversations about sexuality between parents and children. Her writing and sex expertise have been featured in various publications, websites, radio shows, and on YouTube.

    She believes that we must help adults discover a positive outlook on sexuality before they can impart wisdom to the young people in their lives. By teaching parents to nurture the budding sexuality of their children in ways that foster self-respect and acceptance for the totality of their personhood, she helps them raise children who become empowered, beautiful, strong, sexually healthy adults.

    She often incorporates pop culture, current advertising, music, and movie references into her teachings and blogs about sex, parenting, relationships, and gender at TheMamasutra.net.

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