I love trying new things sexually. Love it.
There’s no denying the thrill of a first time in any sexual activity, from your first kiss, to your first taste of oral, and beyond.
There is nothing wrong with a bit of experimentation, be it a tweak on something you already do, or a big step if you are the more adventurous type.
Since I have dabbled in various experiences sexually - some just once, some which have become a favorite of mine - I thought I’d share with you the four things I view as being fun and accessible for all experiences.
College is the perfect time to experiment and find out even more about what you enjoy in (and out) of the bedroom, so make the most of this period of excitement and freedom!
Hopefully you’ll be brave enough to give one of them a go, no matter your relationship status.
This year, the theme of sexual health awareness week was consent, and what a perfect year for it.
With hundreds of sexual harassment and assault cases in the news, consent has been a hot topic, and for good reason.
Consent must be the foundation to every sexual encounter and while it’s straightforward, sometimes different interpretations can make it complicated.
I’m going to break it down – explain what it is, how it can be influenced, why it’s important, and when and how it can be given, asked for and withdrawn.
Elle Chase is a sex educator, activist, author of Curvy Girl Sex, speaker, and key influencer in the sexual health community, most notably for her respected voice in the body acceptance movement.
A member of the American College of Sexologists and the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health, Chase has been featured as an expert on THE TODAY SHOW on NBC, TODAY Parents, Glamour, HuffPostLIVE, The Daily Beast, Cosmo.com, Playboy, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, Women's Health UK, Salon.com, Buzzfeed, Flare Magazine, Bustle, Prevention, and The Toronto Sun.
Also known by her now-famous alter-ego Lady Cheeky, Chase is the creator of the award-winning sex-positive sensual images blog LadyCheeky.com (NSFW) and SmutForSmarties.com, which remains LAWeekly's pick for Best Sex Blog since 2013.
She is a graduate of the comprehensive San Francisco Sex Information, Sex Educator Training Program (SFSI.org), and a member of the American College of Sexologists and the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health.
Chase also serves as the Director of Education at the Los Angeles Academy of Sex Education, where she curates classes that cover the widest range of sexuality topics, including sexual health, intimacy, body image, BDSM and more.
Find out more about her work at ellechase.com.
If your roomates are so chilled that they won't raise their eyebrows if you close yourself for an hour in your bedroom with that sexy guy you just met, well, you're super lucky.
For some of us, things just aren't that easy.
No matter how friendly your roomies are, sometimes living with them just makes it impossible to have sex in your bedroom. Would you truly want to be heard (or seen) by your friends while you moan and scream in pleasure?
So, sometimes, we are forced to be a little creative: we need to explore other places for intimacy instead of the old plain bedroom and create new scenarios to fulfill our desires.
I'm not saying you must limit yourself to the classic bathroom quickie: it can be exciting, as we all know, but sometimes it may be difficult to 'get to the point' in such a short time.
This is where super-discreet sex toys that you can wear out and about come into play…
Sometimes when you’re dating, there’s nothing worse than that, “What are we?” stage.
You find yourself thinking, “Are we dating? Are we seeing each other? Are we official?” and it can be a tough case to crack. Labelling your new relationship is something we all want (or need) to do but it comes as no surprise that a lot of the time, we don’t really know what we should be calling it.
Not only do we have that ever-so-helpful voice inside our heads telling us to get a wriggle on with it, we’re in the Facebook age now where the seriousness of our relationships is determined by the status we set on our social media profile.
However, if you’re not really sure what label you should be giving your new relationship in 2018, have a think about the stage you’re at first and take it from there. At first, it might seem clear as mud but once you’ve given it some thought, you’ll have it sussed.
Here are some helpful hints…
The body positive movement is about accepting and appreciating all human body types, no matter what they look like.
What society considers to be beautiful should not cause a person to lose confidence or to feel unworthy of love and respect.
Society's "beautiful" changes every five minutes anyway, so why bother attempting to keep up with what’s trending? We’ve spent the last three years obsessing over our eyebrows... we’ll probably be shaving them off by 2020.
We often hear about body positivity in conjunction with the fight against fat-shaming and the pressure women face to look a certain way.
There is more to the movement than that. Body positivity is against both skinny and fat-shaming, because body-shaming in all its forms can lead to mental health problems and harmful eating disorders.
But body positivity should be inclusive of all genders, races, and abilities, not just female weight. So how can being body positive improve your sex life?
Patti Britton, PhD, is the Pioneer of Sex Coaching and has been a leader in the field of sexology with an emphasis on sexual enhancement for 35 years. She is a Master Certified Sex Coach, Clinical Sexologist, Co-Founder of SexCoachU.com, and author of The Art of Sex Coaching: Expanding Your Practice plus four other books.
Dr. Patti earned a PhD and Masters in Public Health, both in Human Sexuality. She's the host of 40+ DVDs for couples' sexual enhancement, has made appearances on over 200 television shows, and has been the featured guest on over 200 interviews for live talk and news radio.
She's a frequent expert for print media, including Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, Women's Health, Glamour, Men's Fitness, and WebMD. She has chaired approximately 30 doctoral dissertations and serves as the expert chair/reader for doctoral candidates at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology, Saybrook, and Pacifica Graduate Institutes.
Dr. Patti has a private practice in the Los Angeles area and leads couples' workshops and international professional training intensives each year and is also faculty at California Institute of Integral Studies.
Find out more about her work at drpattibritton.com/.